Bullies! Arg!!

[SweetCherry]

Well, it's only the second day of school here and I'm already wanting to beat the hell out of some parents and their brat children!

As some of you might remember, I ranted last year about my daughter and my nephew being bullied on their way home from school. I had a word with the principal about it and everything stopped by those 2 kids. This year rolls around and those 2 are gone. Unfortunately, ther's still 3 others still around.

The school invested in new playground equiptment over the summer. All the kids are playing on it. It's a new thing and nobody wants to miss it. Well, 2 of the bullies from last year *and i mean ALL of last year) began harassing my nephew. One of them told the other to push my nephew off the platform. He did, and when Tyler fell, he smacked his arm hard on the metal steps. Then the brat who pushed him hopped down and held him down to prevent him from telling. Tyler is a quiet and timid boy when it's children other than his own cousins. So he kept it to himself.

Well, this afternoon, he got him and seemed fine at first. He then looked at me, said his head hurt and began to cry. I noticed him cradling his arm and looked, only to see a very large bruise. I asked him what happened and he told me. He said he hadn't told cuz Brady held him down and he was afraid to. I chastized him slightly for this, only because if he doesn't say something NOW, it's going to go on again this year, ALL YEAR LONG. These kids tormented him in kindergarten AND first grade. Now in second it's looking to be more of the same.

I sat here for half an hour, knowing it was too late to get hold of the kids. They are bussed in from a neighboring town. I fumed and was determined to go tomorrow with the kids to school and talk to the teacher and the principal. Then I thought "Fuck it." I was pissed and I was gonna take care of business. The school doesn't seem to take my sister in law seriously because of her age. She's only 22, and looks 16. She can't quite get that look of rage and her angry voice doesn't sound very angry. I'm one hell of a bitch when pissed and I don't care WHO knows it.

I took him in and showed the bruises and told them what Tyler told me. The principal shook his head and said he'd talk to them. I looked right at him and said "I'm not gonna sit back and let this happen again this year. I won't have this kid coming home in tears every day because there's not ptoper supervision on the playground. Something is going to be done or there's going to be consequences."

Now, it's just a matter of wait and see. I'm pissed. And I'm gonna kick some serious ass if this isn't taken care of NOW.

 

[Jim_Henson]

good for you

I cant remember bullies being so fucking thick... maybe I was just lucky.

 

[mritsme]

good going it does need to stop now and not let it go all year long let us know what happens

 

[SweetCherry]

good for you

I cant remember bullies being so fucking thick... maybe I was just lucky.

Oh trust me, these kids are allowed to get away with TOO much crap in this school. I'm gonna have me a word with some kids if it continues. I'm also going to take pictures of any bruises he gets. If it's not dealt with my sister in law is going to take it to a lawyer. Let the school sweat over THAT.

And if either of those 2 little bastards even TOUCHES the little blond girl, they're going to be getting a good close look at their innards.

 

[desert spike]

I can feel the rage in the tone of your message. Way to go. Stop those little shits or they will just get worst as they get older.

Reminds myself to never piss you off.

 

[SweetCherry]

Reminds myself to never piss you off.

I'm pretty easy going unless ya fuck with those I love. Then beware. I'll rip out your throat just to watch you bleed.

 

[medjay]

I know it might not be the most popular or socially accepted method but I didn't have any problems with bullies after I took the first one and beat the living daylights out of him. I was about 8 years old. Bullies never bothered me again.

 

[FallenSeraph]

Now, it's just a matter of wait and see. I'm pissed. And I'm gonna kick some serious ass if this isn't taken care of NOW.

Good going!
Although I thought bullies died out...
Either way it sucks that your kid is getting all this abuse for no freakin' reason

 

[desert spike]

Well, those boys are in for a pack of trouble then I can tell.

Its good to put pressure on the school with the lawyer too because some times they can be too lax about discipline since they are also afraid of getting sued by the parents of students that they discipline "too hard".

When kids get iinto phyiscal harm, schools have to step in and stop the violent acts immediately or they are negligent to your child.

 

[FallenSeraph]

When kids get iinto phyiscal harm, schools have to step in and stop the violent acts immediately or they are negligent to your child.

Agreed, if nothings done and something happens again, you certainly have the option to sue

 

[medjay]

Re: Re: Bullies! Arg!!

Although I thought bullies died out...

Bullies will never die out. You will always have weak, cowardly people who can only generate feelings of self worth by victimizing others. This isn't something that's limited to children either.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Every year there is a new load of bullies to carry on the tradition.

This term a new kid moved up the street from me. He uses foul lanugage at my kids when he sees my two who are around the same age. Even in front of me he does it the little shit.

I told them eveytime he talks to them to say "hello Mr Bully" with a smile on their face when saying it. The bully now does not talk to them and my two love the fact they have got the upper hand on the situation...

Stick up for the kids SC.

 

[SweetCherry]

I know it might not be the most popular or socially accepted method but I didn't have any problems with bullies after I took the first one and beat the living daylights out of him. I was about 8 years old. Bullies never bothered me again.

This is a timid child. He's awkward and feels out opf place. He's been bullied for the past 2 years, so it's gotten worse. We've actually encouraged him to fight back after last year when 4 of them were ganging up on him at once, but he was afraid he'd get into trouble. I think the school is almost afraid to DO anything baout it because 3 of the 4 who were picking on him and beating him up were Hispanic and they don't want to come across as descriminating.This time tho, the one Hispanic boy never laid a hand on him. He merely told the other little boy to shove him. (please read the level of sarcasm in the use of the word merely)

I don't give a damn WHAT race a child is. A brat is a brat and needs a good ass chewing no matter WHAT color/race/creed they are. So if that makes me sound prejudiced, too damn bad. I just know that those boys had a permentant pass to the principal's office last year. Somnething needs to be done before my nephew turns into one of those kids who brings a gun into his school.

 

[FallenSeraph]

I have only three suggestions:

Transfer the kid...
OR
Complain, complain, complain, to the school and to the parents
OR
Threaten, Threaten, Threaten, cuz after you complain enough times, people will start encouraging you to threaten everyone

 

[lilfrk]

Stop this right now before it gets any worse.

First take a picture of the bruise. Second call the cops right now. Third call a lawyer.

 

[FallenSeraph]

Stop this right now before it gets any worse.

First take a picture of the bruise. Second call the cops right now. Third call a lawyer.

Fourth, sue the school for neglect

 

[Carp]

Consequences

There are many things I could say. Few would be unique. Go get 'em. Be strong. Use every tool at your disposal (and remember, most lawyers offer a free consultation). Keep the moral high ground. You are right.

 

[lilfrk]

Yes...exactly.

Thank you FS.

 

[floridaguy64]

I know your frustration........All too well

I'm pretty easy going unless ya fuck with those I love. Then beware. I'll rip out your throat just to watch you bleed.

As a freshman in HS, and in a new town to boot, I too suffered at the hands of the local bullies. My experience with said bullies ended one day when I was pulled into the restroom by 5 of them during lunch period.......... 2 of them went to the hospital that day and I was arrested for threatening the lives of the remaining 3.

I'm not saying that violence is the right way to go......... yet violence begets violence, and kids that will hold a child down after he has been wounded will stop at nothing to get their way. That being said, ......... enroll your 2 lil` loved ones into some form of self defense training.

The proudest day of my 13 yr old life was when my pop bailed me out of jail and told me "I'm impressed son, you quit takin` shit from those idiots".............. he then took me back to school and threatened a law suit against the school for allowing the bullies to wreak havoc on the entire school populace.

All 5 were expelled.......... 3 were dead within a year, one was killed during a home invasion my senior year, the last was killed by his wife in self defense last year................ yeah, I kept up with the local scene......you would have too growing up in a small town where the only thing to do is hunt game and drink.

All in all though, methinks you need to be extremely persistant in your efforts against the school's administration.......... sounds way too much like another Columbine incident waiting to happen.

 

[FallenSeraph]

Yes...exactly.

It worked with a friend of mine and her daughter

 

[medjay]

This is a timid child. He's awkward and feels out opf place. He's been bullied for the past 2 years, so it's gotten worse. We've actually encouraged him to fight back after last year when 4 of them were ganging up on him at once, but he was afraid he'd get into trouble. I think the school is almost afraid to DO anything baout it because 3 of the 4 who were picking on him and beating him up were Hispanic and they don't want to come across as descriminating.

Political correctness rears its ugly head again, huh? It amazes me how so many adults seem to forget what it was like to be a kid, even when they work around them! This problem can't be fixed with a lot of talking and new age B.S.

 

[Jim_Henson]

And if either of those 2 little bastards even TOUCHES the little blond girl, they're going to be getting a good close look at their innards.

Um, I think you'll be second in line dear.

 

[Bigdog]

SweetCherry, don't wait and see. Make it happen. Go to the school tomorrow morning with the mother and demand a conference with the principal or vice-principal, whichever is in charge if dicipline (usually the VP, I don't know what grade the kids are in). Without getting loud or hostile, insist upon the bully's parents being notified of the problem. Insist the school lay down it's own punishment as well. If you have to wait around and oversee the process, do it. Otherwise the school will just let the situation fade away.

I can't speak for your state, but in California they passed the Safe Schools Act in response to the rash of school shootings over theh past few years. They really beefed up the punishments for even small acts of violence. As an example, at my daughter's high school the punishment for battery (first offence) is 3-5 days suspension, notification of parents, and a police report is filed.

I've been where you are and I fought back. I was personally responsible for a dozen kids getting Saturday school, at least 6 supensions, and sent 1 kid to juvenile hall for 3 days. You don't have to let your kids be victims, the key is to be thorough and vigilant.

 

[Orwell84]

SweetCherry, definitely take pictures and/or video tape of any bruises, scratches, etc. Make sure your camera (video or still) records the date.

Next keep detailed records of your efforts to deal with the school, dates, times, who you spoke with, etc. Follow up all verbal communications with the school by sending them a letter outlining your conversation, and their responses.

Also, immediately make an official report to the police department. It is not likely that anyone is going to get arrested, but official police proceedings may help put pressure on the school.

Finally, if you don't get satisfaction at the school, go directly to the school Board, or similar entity in your area.

Good luck!!

 

[SweetCherry]

Um, I think you'll be second in line dear.

You've never seen me protect my children, have you?

I'll save you a bit tho, sweets. It might be dead by the time you get here tho.