Bruise Nostalgia - Pangs of a Scene

[s'lara]

At the suggestion of Someone else, i thought i would post this thread.

i find that the fading of bruises after a particularly good scene leaves me feeling nostalgic and a little forlorn. There is an inherent feeling of still being within the scene when the bruises are fresh ... sort of keeps your head in that space and time.

Is there a general agreement/non-agreement about feeling this way with the fading of "badges of honor?"

One other thing, for You Dom/me's, do You experience the same feeling of wistfulness when You see the Your submissive's bruises fade from the vibrant red/pink to the green/yellow then to nothing but normal skin tone?

Just curious.

 

[Goddess Helena]

I had never thought of this until you brought up, s'lara.
Thank you for making me think.

My last boy had delicate european skin that raised up in welts easily. Because of how much I enjoyed his beautiful flawless skin, I was always careful to not harm it too much.

Seeing the marks on his body fade was always a reminder that W/we needed to make time so I could give him more.

I look forward to how our submissives and other Dom/mes feel about this topic.


Helena

 

[s'lara]

I had never thought of this until you brought up, s'lara.
Thank you for making me think.

My last boy had delicate european skin that raised up in welts easily. Because of how much I enjoyed his beautiful flawless skin, I was always careful to not harm it too much.

Seeing the marks on his body fade was always a reminder that W/we needed to make time so I could give him more.

I look forward to how our submissives and other Dom/mes feel about this topic.


Helena

You're welcome Ma'am. Thank You for the post as well. Double-edged sword that is when the skin is loved for its beauty as well as for its ability to be easily marked ... what a conundrum. *smiles*

 

[Ebonyfire]

marking

My boys are all undercover, so l am careful not to give marks that last more than a few days.

I became pretty good at being the short term mark Domme.

 

[s'lara]

Re: marking

My boys are all undercover, so l am careful not to give marks that last more than a few days.

I became pretty good at being the short term mark Domme.

Nothing like having a short term mark and the relief ( or is it panic?) of knowing it will be gone in a few days. That's a double edged sword too.

Not a bad skill to have Ma'am. Must be like cooking blowfish ... one wrong move by the chef and it's all over for the patron. *soft smile*

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: marking

Nothing like having a short term mark and the relief ( or is it panic?) of knowing it will be gone in a few days. That's a double edged sword too.

Not a bad skill to have Ma'am. Must be like cooking blowfish ... one wrong move by the chef and it's all over for the patron. *soft smile*

Yes, I am searching for a 24/7 sub, and when I find him the marks will last longer!

 

[meria_serves]

i bruise very easily, so when i am with a partner on a regular basis, i am rarely unbruised. It is pretty, though, to see the variations in color from each different session.

 

[Shadowsdream]

I enjoy the marking and the beauty of the markings...BUT...
O yes there is always a but with Me ~~smile~~

I do not wish to see the markings too often for then they just become common and can easily be taken for granted.
The marks should punctuate an extra passion for Me.
Living this lifestyle 24/7 puts a bit of a different dimension on markings...if it were a weekend relationship I may be inclined to mark and enjoy each scene.

I do not feel any nostalgia as the bruises fade for they can appear again whenever the mood strikes Me...ooops them!

Nice to see you posting

 

[s'lara]

i bruise very easily, so when i am with a partner on a regular basis, i am rarely unbruised. It is pretty, though, to see the variations in color from each different session.

i agree with you there. there tends to be a mesmerizing quality to watching your skin go through the process of reforming itself to the original color. hypnotic for me if not a little sad.

 

[s'lara]

Re: Re: Re: marking

Yes, I am searching for a 24/7 sub, and when I find him the marks will last longer!

well then let me follow-up on my original question with another. would the marks be commonplace for You then? W/we all know that there has to be some care or permanent damage might occur. What i am talking about is whether the allure/satisfaction in seeing the skin bruised lessen as time goes on? Given that You want a full time submissive, would You be less inclined to mark him frequently?

 

[s'lara]

I enjoy the marking and the beauty of the markings...BUT...
O yes there is always a but with Me ~~smile~~

I do not wish to see the markings too often for then they just become common and can easily be taken for granted.
The marks should punctuate an extra passion for Me.
Living this lifestyle 24/7 puts a bit of a different dimension on markings...if it were a weekend relationship I may be inclined to mark and enjoy each scene.

I do not feel any nostalgia as the bruises fade for they can appear again whenever the mood strikes Me...ooops them!

Nice to see you posting

That is a good point and understood. i guess the bruising does add to the experience as a whole and should be a pinnacle of sorts (what a peak to reach though *smiles*) Oh to see those markings the next day or after a few hours ... delicious.

Thanks for the vote of confidence ... i don't post much, but this is a topic that hovered at the edge of my thoughts for most of the day.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

For one, I LOVE having bruises from a scene. The only bruises I've ever had are from handcuffs, mind you, but I always insist on metal cuffs, put on REALLY tightly because I enjoy that pain so much.

Yes, I feel a bit sad when the bruises fade... you see, when I have bruises, I often run my hands over them in class, feeling the pain again, remembering how I got them, and they are good memories.. when they fade, I can no longer feel that pain, and so the memory fades a bit as well.

 

[Sir James A]

At the suggestion of Someone else, i thought i would post this thread.

i find that the fading of bruises after a particularly good scene leaves me feeling nostalgic and a little forlorn. There is an inherent feeling of still being within the scene when the bruises are fresh ... sort of keeps your head in that space and time.

Is there a general agreement/non-agreement about feeling this way with the fading of "badges of honor?"

One other thing, for You Dom/me's, do You experience the same feeling of wistfulness when You see the Your submissive's bruises fade from the vibrant red/pink to the green/yellow then to nothing but normal skin tone?

Just curious.

I may be a little demented, but I like to see the bruises go away.
Then, I can start all over. There's nothing I like better than a fresh, red behind.

 

[bunny bondage]

see my av? that bruise that He put all those lovely arrows around? it's almost completly gone now, and there's new ones forming all over my body. for me, the bruises are a constant thing (as he LOVES to bite) and there's only good feelings behind one fading, because i know it will be replaced in no time.

 

[s'lara]

For one, I LOVE having bruises from a scene. The only bruises I've ever had are from handcuffs, mind you, but I always insist on metal cuffs, put on REALLY tightly because I enjoy that pain so much.

Yes, I feel a bit sad when the bruises fade... you see, when I have bruises, I often run my hands over them in class, feeling the pain again, remembering how I got them, and they are good memories.. when they fade, I can no longer feel that pain, and so the memory fades a bit as well.

Do i know that feeling ... the secret touching of the bruises the next day just so you can put your hands on the memories.

But a question, does the sadness come from knowing the bruises are only temporary or is it because the scene is over? For me, i think it is about knowing my that will be a period when i can't fly.

 

[s'lara]

Re: Re: Bruise Nostalgia - Pangs of a Scene

I may be a little demented, but I like to see the bruises go away.
Then, I can start all over. There's nothing I like better than a fresh, red behind.

Well put Sir and that is a great incentive to looking forward to the next scene ... *smile*

 

[s'lara]

see my av? that bruise that He put all those lovely arrows around? it's almost completly gone now, and there's new ones forming all over my body. for me, the bruises are a constant thing (as he LOVES to bite) and there's only good feelings behind one fading, because i know it will be replaced in no time.

That goes back to an earlier quote from Shadowsdream. Living it 24/7 does make the difference. Will try not to be too green sis ... biting is such a fun way to bruise. *touching my shoulder and sighing wistfully*

 

[bunny bondage]

That goes back to an earlier quote from Shadowsdream. Living it 24/7 does make the difference. Will try not to be too green sis ... biting is such a fun way to bruise. *touching my shoulder and sighing wistfully*

aww...all us subbies deserve good sirs! and you're no exception! i hope circumstances work out for you!

 

[Sir James A]

Re: Re: Re: Bruise Nostalgia - Pangs of a Scene

Well put Sir and that is a great incentive to looking forward to the next scene ... *smile*

Exactly, young lady. And, a scene with the right two people, especially if the Dom is creative, is worth looking forward to for both parties. This Dom, in particular, has had that same feeling of a letdown between scences.
I just try to put my focus on the next time, and I am not so 'down' because the current one is over.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

That goes back to an earlier quote from Shadowsdream. Living it 24/7 does make the difference. Will try not to be too green sis ... biting is such a fun way to bruise. *touching my shoulder and sighing wistfully*

My scenes with handcuffs, with bruises were very rare, and quite some time ago... it was always a forlornness that the physical memory was gone, and knowing it would be some time until I could have such marks again.

I haven't been bruised (from consentual sex) in about a year and a half.. now and again, I run my hands around my wrists, bringing back memories of the experience, and longing for it again.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Bumped

for the sheer perversity of it while searching for something else.

 

[Desdemona]

I like to be marked. I actually like for my marks to last between times so that I have a reminder. I like to admire the marks in the mirror and to feel them. The lingering soreness makes me smile as I remember how I got marked, what he did, how it felt, etc.

I have pale skin that looks like it would bruise with little effort and when I do get marked, it shows up really well. Unfortunately, I don't mark easily at all.

 

[TaintedB]

I think I'd only feel nostalgic about bruises going away if I never were to see the bruisemaker again. To me the marks are secondary. Sure they're nice, and certain pretty pattened ones (like the little polka-dot bruises you can get from a stiff cat) can be fun to show off when you go someplace public, like a club or bar, but it's the experience that made the bruises that matters to me, not whether it leaves marks or doesn't. I get off on seeing the blood more than I do the bruises, probably because I fetishize it a little.

I've fantasized about walking hand in hand with a "bruiser" down a busy street with my face all swollen and discolored, just watching people's looks as they see it. It'll remain a fantasy, it looks like, because in these PC days that sort of thing is hard to do without someone trying to get your lover arrested. :/

I've also fantasized about this: ;0

 

[niteloser]

I bruise real easy so for me to have bruises isn't abnormal. But when I can see the teeth marks in a bruise I blush and remember how it felt to get it. So I agree that bruises are good!