Breast Size, does it really matter?

[lobito]

So I'm flipping the channels this morning and come across TLC. They're showing this gorgeous woman, who happens to have small breasts.

She wants larger breasts, and thinks that her husband will love her more if she has larger breasts. He of course says that's ridiculous, and says I'd prefer she NOT get a boob job, but if she wants it, then I'll support her decision. Says he's done everything he can to convince her not to go through wtih it.

She says it's only about self esteem.

Well, my question is... is that a good enough reason to go against what your husband says he already likes?

I'm not saying a woman shouldn't feel good about herself, but do the husbands feelings count in matter such as this? Is this something that both the husband and wife should have a say in?

 

[riff]

The best breast is the one in front of you, I always say.

 

[perks]

boobies, my boobies, not his boobies.


The only reason I don't do something with mine is because I don't like the feel of fake ones.

But I would if they changed that.

Hubby doesn't want me to.

 

[lovetoread]

Well my man says no way.

Since he is the dom,I'll listen to him.

However if he said that I'd have to get one,I'd find another fella in a heartbeat.

Surgery wont make anyone love you any more or less.

You have to love yourself,what other people think matters not.

 

[estevie]

No, to me, he has no say in it. We can discuss his issues but ultimately, it is not his decision to make.

 

[sunstruck]

So I'm flipping the channels this morning and come across TLC. They're showing this gorgeous woman, who happens to have small breasts.

She wants larger breasts, and thinks that her husband will love her more if she has larger breasts. He of course says that's ridiculous, and says I'd prefer she NOT get a boob job, but if she wants it, then I'll support her decision. Says he's done everything he can to convince her not to go through wtih it.

She says it's only about self esteem.

Well, my question is... is that a good enough reason to go against what your husband says he already likes?

I'm not saying a woman shouldn't feel good about herself, but do the husbands feelings count in matter such as this? Is this something that both the husband and wife should have a say in?

He should have a say, and I know I'd definitely think hard on doing anything to my body my husband would disapprove of and in the end I most likely wouldn't, but it's her body, her esteem.

I'd be concerned that her self esteem was so low she thought breast enhancement would help in the first place.

 

[AzureAngel]

Not to me. *Shrugs.*

 

[BustyTheClown]

So I'm flipping the channels this morning and come across TLC. They're showing this gorgeous woman, who happens to have small breasts.

She wants larger breasts, and thinks that her husband will love her more if she has larger breasts. He of course says that's ridiculous, and says I'd prefer she NOT get a boob job, but if she wants it, then I'll support her decision. Says he's done everything he can to convince her not to go through wtih it.

She says it's only about self esteem.

Well, my question is... is that a good enough reason to go against what your husband says he already likes?

I'm not saying a woman shouldn't feel good about herself, but do the husbands feelings count in matter such as this? Is this something that both the husband and wife should have a say in?

Keep in mind she says this is about *her* self-esteem, not his. Breasts are strange things to women, and if a woman is seriously unhappy with hers, I can see how she would go against her husband's desires if she felt low enough. There is a lot of pressure out there on women and the "perfect" breast size -- smaller women want to be larger, larger women want to be smaller... Not all of us will give in to the pressure, but those of us that do are probably extremely uncomfortable in our own bodies. That's not a good feeling to have. If having larger breasts is the only way this woman will feel better about herself, her husband should respect her decision -- which it sounds like he does. He does have a say, but he can't make the decision.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

in my opinion, it is my decision. i may take his thoughts into consideration before i would have it done, but it is still my decision. just like its his decision if he wants to get a penis implant and make his penis larger. its all a matter of envy of those that are more gifted, so to speak. if i had small breasts i'm sure i would want to have larger ones. but since i'm 'blessed' with the massive things i have, i dont complain because i like them the way they are. i dont want them any bigger or any smaller.

 

[lobito]

I'm guessing here, but she looks to be about 5' maybe 5'2" at most, and less than 100 lbs. She's already said she's a 32a. And the size of implants she picked appears to make her overly large, grossly large in fact, for her frame.

P.S. - this isn't about what guys prefer, it's more for women, thanks.

 

[dickE]

All different combinations of attributes in a woman ad to the attractiveness in different ways by either overshadowing or detracting from other parts of her.

It's the package, stupid...so to speak. You don't make love to the breasts, the hips, the face, the legs, etc. you make love to the woman. The whole woman.


For me, even a spacey, dim-witted lady who can't express herself verbally, which is the biggest turn-on for me, can make up for that shortfall in other areas and I'll still find bueaty in her.


Rachel Welch even stated once upon a time that "these (meaning her breasts) actually get in the way when things get rolling good".

dickE

 

[estevie]

Re: Re: Breast Size, does it really matter?

I'd be concerned that her self esteem was so low she thought breast enhancement would help in the first place.

Yes, that she said she wanted it done so her husband would love her more...its clear that new boobs aren't going to solve her problem.

I would get breast implants in a heartbeat if I could afford it. One day I will have it done. Not to make anyone love me more...just for me. I don't want them any bigger than they are...I'm not going to walk out of the docs office with DD's. I just want them back up where they were before 2 rugrats!! I want to look in mirror and be happy...not sad because I need a wonder bra to make cleavage once again!

 

[Synnerman]

Ladies, you should know by now that most men worship at the altar of the female breast. They talk about the big ones, the ones with prominent nipples, the ones pointing to the sky and every other description imagineable.

The truth is they generally really would prefer good ole God constructed tits.

So if you want to change them do it for yourself, not to compete with some magazine's idea of what you should look like. That is not reality in the magazine, it's an add for Dow Corning.

Quality, not quantity. is the Synners yard stick.

 

[lobito]

After seeing the "end result" she apears to look ok, but when she was trying the implants before they just looked gross.

I have NO problems with a woman doing something for her OWN self esteem. But as I pointed out, her husband loved her very much before, and said he didn't want her to do this.

Beleive it or not, some guys actually don't like overly large breasts, especially if they are fake. I'm totally 100% against any enhancing surgery, unless it's reconstruction fomr say an accident or something like that. Maybe that's why I brought this subject up(?).

 

[lobito]

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The truth is they generally really would prefer good ole God constructed tits.

So if you want to change them do it for yourself, not to compete with some magazine's idea of what you should look like. That is not reality in the magazine, it's an add for Dow Corning.

Quality, not quantity. is the Synners yard stick.

Agreed! Not exactly how I'd put it, but the idea is there. I want natural, whether small or large. Though I prefer not so big anyway.

 

[Monazwx]

It's strange

Because I was recently thinking about the whole implant vs. pills solution that I brought up in a thread (that fizzled quickly), I find this very interesting.

The woman you're speaking of, was mainly thinking about her hubby and what he thought about it. That should not be the case. If anyone makes the decision to get more breasts, should be for them. If I decide to it's going to be all about me (as usual ).

Men say that breasts don't matter, but they lie. There are so many guys who look at girls' chests and talk about small-chested women behind their backs, it's gross. I'm not bashing all guys, but breasts are an obvious part of the package when they look for women.

 

[WaxNWane]

Nope.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Yes, the husband's opinions and feelings count, but taking them into consideration when making her decision isn't the same thing as doing what he wants her to do. Ultimately, it's her body, her self-esteem, and her decision. I think it's incredibly sad that she thinks larger boobs are gonna make her feel better... mine grew 2 cup sizes after my first pregnancy, and still haven't gone away. I don't feel any better or worse about myself.

Kind of a tangent... I was talking last night about getting another tat... my husband really really doesn't want me to, says he doesn't even like the one I have (which I had for 3 years before we got married) and that I'll look like a 'biker bitch' if I get all of the ones that I want (I want 4 more, very discreet, tasteful tats). Like the breast issue, even taking his feelings into account, isn't it my decision?

 

[riff]

Re: It's strange

Men say that breasts don't matter, but they lie. There are so many guys who look at girls' chests and talk about small-chested women behind their backs, it's gross. I'm not bashing all guys, but breasts are an obvious part of the package when they look for women.

I think it is just that the boobies are more noticable with clothes on. I have seen some very sexy smaller ones without clothes. And they are every bit as sexy as big floppy hooters.

Yall should all just go topless.

I am lying, right?

 

[lobito]

Re: It's strange

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Men say that breasts don't matter, but they lie. There are so many guys who look at girls' chests and talk about small-chested women behind their backs, it's gross. I'm not bashing all guys, but breasts are an obvious part of the package when they look for women.

Some perhaps, but you make it sound like ALL men really are lying about size not mattering. That would be like me saying ALL women are lying when they say cock size doesn't matter. I agree that someone like say, Napolean would be too small. Or someone like John Holmes might be too big.

The woman in the story was thinking her husband would like her more if she had bigger breasts, yet he said he liked her fine the way she was, the way they married. They didn't talk to the guy at the end to see what his feelings were after the surgery, so what he really thought is anyones guess.

The beauty of a woman SHOULDN'T be all about their face, their breasts, their butt or anything physical. It should be about the whole package, but sadly it's not. I'm surprised that so many women think that getting larger FAKE breasts will make them feel better about themselves.

 

[APhil]

Here's something along those lines...

This was written by someone else, but I think it makes a good point (somewhere in there, I hope).
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Take a look at Breasts of Doom to see why I'm writing this.

My first bra was a 36AA. I think I was 11 or 12 but I don't remember for sure. It didn't take me long to grow out of it, either. Just kinda happened. I got up to a 36B and then stayed there for a while. Then I started growing again (I was 17 or so at that point), and haven't stopped. I'm now at a monsterous 40DD.

That just sounds big.

And believe me, it's no picnic. Large breasts are not funny. They're large and heavy and they make my back hurt and make buying clothes difficult. Bras are hard to find that don't gross me out just by looking at them.

I've found some that I like though... they're almost like sports bras but they're not, and they have underwires (I start sagging otherwise). And they manage to make me look like I just have a moderately large chest instead of a really big one. If I want to go for that look I can put myself in a bodice or something.

****

 

[Jimi]

Women's decision - although why bother unless there is a severe side-to-side variation? (In this thread, reconstructive doesn't count, right?)

As to my preferences - I prefer BOOBS - full stop.

Size is irrelevant - good-looking breasts are either large, medium or small - as are "not so good-looking ones".

But I WILL say that I don't care for the "Pamela Plastic / Barbie / US Pornstar" look.

 

[lobito]

Re: Re: Breast Size, does it really matter?

Women's decision - although why bother unless there is a severe side-to-side variation? (In this thread, reconstructive doesn't count, right?)

As to my preferences - I prefer BOOBS - full stop.

Size is irrelevant - good-looking breasts are either large, medium or small - as are "not so good-looking ones".

But I WILL say that I don't care for the "Pamela Plastic / Barbie / US Pornstar" look.

No Jimi, reconstructive for a good reason doesn't count.

I've perhaps selfishly, lost respect for women I know who get boob jobs, just to "get ahead in this world". You're only gonna get so far with a "new set of boobs". Then what, you'll lose your job and have to start all over.

Give me natural or give me death.

 

[Monazwx]

In the end, when they didn't interview the husband to find out his post-operation thoughts, it made me uneasy. He was one of the main reasons that she went through with the surgery, so to omit his after thoughts made me feel that I'm sure he was estatic about it.

I guess, it's really my self-esteem at issue. I know that guys who focus on breast size are shallow and should be ignored, but knowing that you're being rejected because you lack something is painful. But for right now, I'm going to focus on improving what's on the inside rather than changing my outside apprearance. Thanks Lobito.

Riff, maybe I should go topless for a while and test your breast theory.

Aphil, I didn't realize that large breasts could be such a burden. The media glorifies the large breast so much, alot of young girls get caught up without thinking. Thanks for making me think.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Re: Re: Breast Size, does it really matter?

Women's decision - although why bother unless there is a severe side-to-side variation? (In this thread, reconstructive doesn't count, right?)

As to my preferences - I prefer BOOBS - full stop.

Size is irrelevant - good-looking breasts are either large, medium or small - as are "not so good-looking ones".

But I WILL say that I don't care for the "Pamela Plastic / Barbie / US Pornstar" look.

Bravo Jimi---I love them all, in their infinite variety.