SquirtnBrat
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Stryderthorongil
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I think we could have a fun brunch togetherBrunch? I must admit much of my thoughts will reflect a deep misunderstanding. After numerous years of being in the same situation you would think I would have more to add!
Here has always been my simple thought process. If she's interested I will do my best to make it an enjoyable experience. I'm not to tired, never in a hurry, her needs are my only interest. From the other side, if I'm interested, the answer is it's to hot, it's to cold, I'm tired, I'm stressed out, I have to much to do, there are too many people around....okay, that last one may be a good reason
, but the point is there is never the thought, he likes this with me let me do this for him and with him. I guess sexuality is in my brain not my body or hormones. At least that is what I've always thought.
SquirtnBrat
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From this woman's perspective, I want to be pursued. I enjoy the cat and mouse game of sex. I want it to be an enjoyable experience for us both. I have tried my best to make sure when it does happen it isn't out of pity or obligation. For me, that is the worst! I enjoy creating an atmosphere where we can dissolve away the stresses of real life and just focus on "us".
Sure, there has been more times then I can count where I make the experience solely based on his preferences. But then I have this thought in the back of my head that anyone could be doing XYZ and it wouldn't make a difference that it's me, and then my needs go unfulfilled. Which is a huge let down.
I guess I miss the pursuit. I miss the connection. Much more then the acts of XYZ itself.
Sure, there has been more times then I can count where I make the experience solely based on his preferences. But then I have this thought in the back of my head that anyone could be doing XYZ and it wouldn't make a difference that it's me, and then my needs go unfulfilled. Which is a huge let down.
I guess I miss the pursuit. I miss the connection. Much more then the acts of XYZ itself.
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I understand...pursuit is important. It also has to go both ways. Anyway, in a perfect world pursuit would be a continuous playfulness. I would love that. It could be instantaneous, it could be planned. In the end, it takes both sides playing. I don't like being taken for granted. Nobody does. We want to feel wanted and adored. I keep trying, I'll probably always try, but I'm running out of ideas. How does one pursue someone who doesn't feel the need to be pursued or be pursued by someone who doesn't feel the need to pursue? Hmmmm, I don't have the answer.
SquirtnBrat
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[/snip]Anyway, in a perfect world pursuit would be a continuous playfulness. I would love that. It could be instantaneous, it could be planned. In the end, it takes both sides playing. [/snip] How does one pursue someone who doesn't feel the need to be pursued or be pursued by someone who doesn't feel the need to pursue? Hmmmm, I don't have the answer.
Exactly.
I don't know. I make myself available. That is all I know how to do. But it does erk me when he gets into the mentality of "if I really wanted it, I could get it" Shut your face and come get some then. What kind of statement is that?! Well duh, we've been doing this for a while now, you SHOULD know how to turn me on. So, if he isn't doing those things that get me going, he's just lazy??!
Should I even bother then? Ugh... I did it again... Confused the hell outta myself...
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Exactly.
But it does erk me when he gets into the mentality of "if I really wanted it, I could get it" Shut your face and come get some then. What kind of statement is that?! Well duh, we've been doing this for a while now, you SHOULD know how to turn me on. So, if he isn't doing those things that get me going, he's just lazy??!
Ugh... I did it again... Confused the hell outta myself...
You've been unhappy for a long time from what I've seen...the only real question you need to ask yourself is how long do you continue with this relationship.
Life is too short and it really does sound like you're just not sexually and perhaps not even emotionally compatible.
I spent a few years of my life trying to make things work that really just weren't going to no matter how much i tried.. too much time trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
A person that is into you and into the acts themselves, will show you that..
A friend years ago told me a saying that I've remembered... a person will show you who they are, if you let them.
Big hugs to ya..
btw... went to a great spanking party last night.. my woman was absolutely scrumptious in her red corset and black steampunk skirt.. fishnets, knee high black leather boots.. omg, she had me fired up!!!
SquirtnBrat
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You're such a tease cowslinger! You know I want to see that skirt now! :
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You're such a tease cowslinger! You know I want to see that skirt now! :
You mean would only want to see it and not be tempted to wear it
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SquirtnBrat
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Good Morning All!
Good Morning Friends and Lurkers!
Found some cute teddy bear panties that made me wish I had sewing talent... some colored ink on a beautiful brunette that's not making the tat itch go away... And a red heel, obviously on a stronger willed woman then I....
You know, a nice collection of my kind of spontaneous.
Good Morning Friends and Lurkers!
Found some cute teddy bear panties that made me wish I had sewing talent... some colored ink on a beautiful brunette that's not making the tat itch go away... And a red heel, obviously on a stronger willed woman then I....
You know, a nice collection of my kind of spontaneous.
SquirtnBrat
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I'm really putting the effort in over here and nadda....
Glad to have a really busy week ahead of me. Something else to focus on.
Glad to have a really busy week ahead of me. Something else to focus on.
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SquirtnBrat
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Spanking... Tested and true form of dominance. Would be amazing about now!
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SquirtnBrat
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This made me giggle this morning...
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Cutecutecutecute
SquirtnBrat
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Good Morning, Hairball!!
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hairball18
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Good morning brat. That does seem to suit me
SquirtnBrat
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When you have pretty pervy erotic dreams about your ex... Not even sorry for that! Not that he "was the one that got away" just an amazing kisser, his kisses still haunt me. Goddamn...
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it's all about what you plan to do about that, Brat...I'm sure there's no shortage of volunteers to help you get over him...
SquirtnBrat
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Oh, it was another lifetime ago, I'm over him. But do miss being kissed like that. The passion and excitement that was so youthful and greedy. Recollecting on it makes my stomach drop as though I'm on a rollercoaster. It has taken me a moment to shake off that feeling.
SquirtnBrat
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Big, busy day before me. I'm really excited to get today over with!
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Same with me... I know the feeling. Hope you have a good day while getting through it.
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Lol. Have that also. Funny how great we think things were when looking back. For me, I have them feelings but I can also remember all the pain that came with it once I really reflect on it
SquirtnBrat
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I had an exceptional week. Everything went as planned, somethings even turned out better!
The emotions I had as a teen and in my early 20s were a rollercoaster. It was a really manic point in my life. I am so relieved to have my hormones balanced out. I know now nothing will ever be as good as those first few "firsts". Which is why I think it is so important to have many "first times" threw out your life. Those memories are priceless.
