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Brat's Hideout!
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Happy wife, happy life!
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It was a reference to the Kama Sutra.
...yes, hence my response...
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Your response asked my opinion. My opinion is irrelevant.
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What do normal couples do on Anniversaries? I've never celebrated one before but a decade is a big deal to some people, we should celebrate that, right? Eh.
I'm a woman. I don't know if I should plan something. I don't know if I should be offended if he doesn't plan anything. I don't know what is an appropriate way to celebrate. I just know my plans for "balls to the wall sex" have been cancelled. And that's all I really wanted.
I'm a woman. I don't know if I should plan something. I don't know if I should be offended if he doesn't plan anything. I don't know what is an appropriate way to celebrate. I just know my plans for "balls to the wall sex" have been cancelled. And that's all I really wanted.
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I wasn't asking for an opinion. The Kama Sutra just groups things into small/regular/large, and without reading into it a lot further, it's not clear how much they're referring to length and how much they're referring to girth.
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What do normal couples do on Anniversaries? I've never celebrated one before but a decade is a big deal to some people, we should celebrate that, right? Eh.
I'm a woman. I don't know if I should plan something. I don't know if I should be offended if he doesn't plan anything. I don't know what is an appropriate way to celebrate. I just know my plans for "balls to the wall sex" have been cancelled. And that's all I really wanted.
What the heck is 'normal?' Just be yourself and do what works within your relationship. Or for you, yourself.
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I'm constantly conflicted between social norms and what feels right to me. To be honest I don't even know if "celebrating" in a socially acceptable way would make me happy. Our height difference makes dancing awkward although we are both good dancers. I don't want a candlelight dinner in a restaurant with strangers. I know I want attention. I like attention. Yes.
So I guess some better advice would be how to make him give me unlimited attention without me begging for it and seeming desperate?? Because acting like I want his attention is the quickest way to be ignored.
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I'm not sure that unlimited attention is possible. I mean, most of us men would like nothing more than to be able to spend all of our time making love to and talking with and laughing with and dancing with the person we love most in the world.
But in real life, people have to eat. They have to sleep. They have other people in their lives, like family and friends, children and pets. Other responsibilities like work, or school. So unlimited attention isn't necessarily a reasonable request. But one night of unlimited attention is not unreasonable, once in a while.
That being said...if asking for attention causes him to purposefully ignore you, then unless that is a part of your agreed upon power dynamic, that is wrong. If that is something he does to you, and you dislike it, if it hurts you...it might be time to re-evaluate the terms of your relationship.
Just my own opinion.
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I understand where you are coming from which is why it seems like it is impossible.
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Okay so MAKE is too strong of a word here. Any suggestions on how to get his attention would be helpful. He gets uncomfortable when I throw my sexuality too hard at him. So I'm still trying to find that balance.
Our dynamics as a couple can be confusing. I get that. Especially since I post tiny pieces here and there on a site that focuses mostly on the sexual side of relationships. Overall we are making it work and we understand each other fairly well. Since mostly men have contributed to my thread I do tend to post hypothetical questions or seek advice here because maybe someone out there has his mindset and can help me understand him better.
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I'm not a fan of beards. There I said it. Feel free to publicly shame me.
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Since I can't grow a good beard, you have my support. I reserve the right to publicly shame you on other matters, however.
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I Know you said he is a bit older than you. Is it possible he feels he has doubts about his ability to satisfy your sex drive? Maybe he's afraid to fail and it comes across as being uncomfortable.
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Sounds good!
By beards I mean the full grown chin bush, not Nevyn's well trimmed lil beard or a Gomez Addam's stash.
I know it's Movermber... but I can't wait until these guys trim up and I can stare at their lips again.
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Not sure how effective is a hideout if it's at the top of the front page. 
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The truth is none of us can really adequately advise you because we don't know more. We're all different. Personally I actually NEED a woman who is sexually aggressive, because I suppress my own sexuality so much of the time. I will miss all subtle cues completely, so basically any woman who wants me had better just kiss me or grab my dick or something. But I know there are a lot of men who NEED to be in charge of the bedroom activities and if they do not instigate, they don't want it. They are so aggressively alpha male that they have to be in control, always. I call these men, idiots.
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I never claimed to be good at hide-n-seek! I remember the hide-n-seek games we played as kids, I always made sure a boy would hide with me so I could steal a kiss!Not sure how effective is a hideout if it's at the top of the front page.
Your a lot like hubby. But when I come out and say "Wanna bj? Wanna do it? Shower?" It's "not this second". So I dunno where the line is. When is the right second, damn it!?
He comes to me when he wants it and I have to patiently wait until then. I'm like a begging dog. Tilting my head while glaring trying to hypnotize him with my eyes. "You want to give me your boner. You must give me some bone. Please give me the bone."
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If you need me, I'll be other there, stroking my beard
(I know you said full beards, just had to tease)
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If you need me, I'll be other there, stroking my beard
I like your goatee. I'd like it better between... wait, married man... slow down Brat. Your full lips are visible so I can dig it that's what I'm saying.
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thanks for the invitation to your hideout
Ms. Brat--I wish I knew how to advise you. Do you know any specific things that trip hubby's trigger? Clothing, fragrance, suggestive talk, exposing yourself? Are there recognizable moments when he comes to you with boner ready, willing and able? Do you know what triggers those moments?
How would he react if you told him you had been day dreaming about him eating your pussy all day?
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Good luck with your situation.
I wish I had a wife who would let me know her succulent breasts desired my attention, and that she had prepared a special box lunch just for me.
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Sudden thought, what if he came home and found you toying the box (how convenient) because you just couldn't wait for him to get home. Would that visual trip his trigger or shut off the switch?
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Just thinking out loud.
(random thought applicable only to the universe of my own mind...e.e. cummings if my favorite poet. I admired him even more when I discovered that e.e. stood for eager eater)
Ms. Brat--I wish I knew how to advise you. Do you know any specific things that trip hubby's trigger? Clothing, fragrance, suggestive talk, exposing yourself? Are there recognizable moments when he comes to you with boner ready, willing and able? Do you know what triggers those moments?
How would he react if you told him you had been day dreaming about him eating your pussy all day?
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Good luck with your situation.
I wish I had a wife who would let me know her succulent breasts desired my attention, and that she had prepared a special box lunch just for me.
..
Sudden thought, what if he came home and found you toying the box (how convenient) because you just couldn't wait for him to get home. Would that visual trip his trigger or shut off the switch?
..
Just thinking out loud.
(random thought applicable only to the universe of my own mind...e.e. cummings if my favorite poet. I admired him even more when I discovered that e.e. stood for eager eater)
