Bossy Net People

[TN_Vixen]

I'm in this other chat room for less than 10 minutes and some idiot signs on and starts running his mouth. Instead of ignoring this loser like I normally do, I play a little. Immediately the rest of the room begins to order me around.

"Put him on ignore"
"Quit talking to him"
"Are you as ignorant as he is?"

Now, it has always amazed me how these people feel they have the right to boss me around. What if I don't WANT to ignore him? Just because it makes sense to ignore him doesn't mean that I have to follow through with what everyone else does. What if I'm having a particularly bitchy day and instead of jumping on innocent people at work or maybe even get snappish with my son, I decide to take out my agression on this ignorant soul who wandered into chat and started spouting obscenities?

Then the whole room decided to be ME on ignore too. This is just beyond laughable.

There are a few people on this LitBB who like to tell people what they should and shouldn't do. Cymbidia is one of them. I like cym, always have and always will... but sometimes she does tend to tell people what "should" and "shouldn't" be done. In this, cym and I differ... but I wouldn't ignore her or call her an idiot simply because she and I disagree on this issue. And I should apologize for calling attention only to cym since there are several others who do the same thing.

WHY do people in cyberspace want so badly to direct the behavior of a chatter/poster who will not conform to their idea of what is acceptable?

 

[rambling man]

if a person is that controlling online, id hate to meet them in real life...then again they might be meek as churchmice in real life and hard core assholes in cyber. (not referring to cym here, just bossy chat folk)

 

[miles]

Pix Vix

You should't get so upset. It isn't worth it. Life is too short. Find something important to worry about. Listen to me. I'm right and you are wrong.

 

[Purple Haze]

Put miles on ignore, you really should.

 

[miles]

Someone needs to tell her what the fuck to do.

New perfume, PH?

 

[Purple Haze]

It's called "Stench of Pig Farts."

Glad you like it.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Vixen, if you want to fuck with someone in a chat room you often have the option to do it privately. By refusing to do that, by doing it "out in the open", you are asking everyone else to pay attention to your outburst, and by doing it in public you're probably asking everyone elese to support you. That's a burden on the other chatters. In other words, you're the one bossing them around. Did you ever look at it that way?

 

[miles]

Purple Haze

roflmao


Simply mesmerizing.

 

[TN_Vixen]

DCL

Vixen, if you want to fuck with someone in a chat room you often have the option to do it privately. By refusing to do that, by doing it "out in the open", you are asking everyone else to pay attention to your outburst, and by doing it in public you're probably asking everyone elese to support you. That's a burden on the other chatters. In other words, you're the one bossing them around. Did you ever look at it that way?

Actually, no. By responding in a sarcastic way to someone who is deliberately being inflammatory (i.e. Andra_Jenny whom I've seen you 'publicly' insult) does not mean "I'm asking everyone else to support me". They also have the ignore feature on their end of the monitor and can choose to ignore both of us if they like. I have no problem with someone silently hitting that ignore key if they don't want to listen to what I have to say.

I was just curious why they feel they *must* inform me of the correct way to behave and bash me when I choose to not conform.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Probably because, like you, they don't want to have to leap to the Ignore Key. It's nicer if everyone agrees on a code of conduct.

And, yes, I think that if they ask you to not incite a trolling dickhead, and you keep doing, and you keep doing, you ARE asking people to indulge you. And since they felt that as an imposition they did what you suggested yourself, they put you on ignore.

 

[TN_Vixen]

DCL

you're one of them aren't you? heh

I suppose what bothers me is being told what I can and can't do while online, and frankly I don't much like it when someone tells other people what they can/can't do either.

Maybe I was asking the other chatmembers to "indulge" me, but I wasn't asking them to "support" me. Splitting hairs?

Ah, whatever. The fight has gone out of me.

 

[Harbinger]

There are a few people on this LitBB who like to tell people what they should and shouldn't do. Cymbidia is one of them. I like cym, always have and always will... but sometimes she does tend to tell people what "should" and "shouldn't" be done.

I think of her more as the nice person next to you at a fancy dinner that softly whispers, "Use the little fork" when you don't know what to do, and saves you the humiliation of being laughed at by all of the cultured motherfuckers who are waiting for you to make a mistake. Which is very much appreciated. Not that there are any cultured motherfuckers here at Lit, please don't take offense. At least the ones I've seen aren't cultured, but I haven't read all 577,491 posts yet.

I know you are not ragging on cym, though.

 

[Weird Harold]

Re: DCL

I was just curious why they feel they *must* inform me of the correct way to behave and bash me when I choose to not conform.

I think it's kind of a self defense function.

You didn't say if you are a regular in the chatroom where this happened, and I think that makes a difference in how people react.

On the assumption that you aren't a regular there, I'd have to say that their reaction was much the same as you would get if you moved into a neighborhood that had a problem with dogs digging in the trashcans.

What you did is the cyber-equivalent of moving into such a neighborhood, and filling your trash can with prime beef and leaving the lid off.

From their viewpoint, you came into the room, and started feeding their resident troll, which will encourage him to come back to that chatroom and find someone else to antagonize. That in turn will cause them to have to resort to ignoring other newbies who haven't learned not to feed trolls.

I don't have any problems with you using trolls as punching bags to relieve your anger at someone else -- Just as long as I don't have to dodge the fight in the middle of the room. If you can get a troll into a private room, then beat them bloody for all I care.

One aspect of troll behavior that most of those people who suggest bashing him in priviate miss is that Trolls don't like private bashings, they like causing trouble in public so they can get attention from as many people as possible. I suspect the Troll would have refused a private conversation anyway.

 

[cymbidia]

Ack!

 

[Creidhne]

Well TN-V, do you feel better now??

Gee, maybe you need something else to do than worry about who you can flame next?
Or perhaps chatroom ettiquette isn't your forte? Maybe your own insecurities are running away with your thoughts and emotions??

Tell you what though, Literotica is what you make of it. And you, apparently, choose to make it a pissing party.

Oh, TN-V?
I like you anyway, don't get me wrong.

MS.

 

[TN_Vixen]

Well TN-V, do you feel better now??

Gee, maybe you need something else to do than worry about who you can flame next?

Alright. Did you happen to read my post at all, or did you simply see Cym's name and react in her defense? The fact is, I don't flame people on a regular basis. This one particular instance in the chat room was isolated and lasted maybe 2 minutes.

Or, do you consider my opinion about cym to be flaming? Because, that wasn't at all how I meant it. I made it very clear that I enjoy reading cym's posts and have nothing but respect for her. I just pointed out that she sometimes tells people what they should/shouldn't do. Sometimes is the key word here. I never meant to imply that she runs around the board slapping hands and wagging her finger.

Or perhaps chatroom ettiquette isn't your forte? Maybe your own insecurities are running away with your thoughts and emotions??

Since I rarely chat, you may be right about the ettiquette. But entirely wrong about my self-confidence, sugar.

Tell you what though, Literotica is what you make of it. And you, apparently, choose to make it a pissing party.

What? A pissing party? Where? Jeeze. You're overreacting.

Oh, TN-V?
I like you anyway, don't get me wrong.

MS.

The difference between me saying that about cym is that I meant it and said it with no sarcasm or hidden agenda.

You're a very big man. (insert sarcasm here)

 

[TN_Vixen]

Re: Re: Bossy Net People

I know you are not ragging on cym, though.

THANK you. You're right. I wasn't.

 

[miles]

Pixie Vixie

good morning.

You were awesome last night

 

[TN_Vixen]

mornin' yourself

you forgot your socks.

 

[miles]

Now I have to cum back and get them

 

[miles]

....and wear the cheerleader uniform - the blue one

 

[Purple Haze]

Well TN-V, do you feel better now??

Gee, maybe you need something else to do than worry about who you can flame next?

I've been around here a while, I've never seen any outright flaming from TN_Vixen. Did I miss something?

Or perhaps chatroom ettiquette isn't your forte? Maybe your own insecurities are running away with your thoughts and emotions??

Beat me, hurt me. Make me write bad posts.

Tell you what though, Literotica is what you make of it. And you, apparently, choose to make it a pissing party.

You haven't been around long enough to know what you're talking about.

Oh, TN-V?
I like you anyway, don't get me wrong.

We all like you too,.............. what was your name?

Vixen, I know what you mean about the bossiness. Anybody that's put in a lot of time here feels a little ownership, and when someone does something they think is in the best interest of the board in general, there's always a few dummies that don't get it. There's also a few that have frustrations with the way things are, or have become, and the bossiness comes out to no avail. I've seen newcomers who don't know there way around here yet get quickly and rudely told they should take it to personals. Welcome to Lit, motherfucker. I've seen newcomers get jumped by the "Board Police" because the kind of sex they wished to discuss is not allowed on this sexual discussion board. Of course it's allowed, but the "Board Police" person may not care for the subject at hand, and will say so. A newcomer doesn't know who the real boss is, how could she, he, it?

Oh yeah, there's lots of bosses around here, I'm bossy as hell.

Sometimes.

 

[shadowsource]

Wait a cotton pickin' minute!

Hey Miles - I thought you were laid up in bed. It never occurred to me that it was the fabulous TN Vixen's bed. You might suffer permanent damage....

 

[Problem Child]

Vixie-

Please tell me you're not actually consorting with Miles...

please...dear Lord...

 

[miles]

shadowsource

The woman is un-fuckingbelievable.

How do you think I screwed up my back to begin with?
It hurt sooo good.