boobs, to enhance or not ?

[CW]

If this topic has been run thru before, then I apologize.

A very good female friend of mine is talking about breast enhancement,,, she is currently a 34c (according to her ) and extremely sexy ( according to me ), but feels that she needs some more omph in the boobs area. I think that she is proportioned quite nicely, 5'-4, 120 +/- lbs. as she is. I also think that she is wasting her money and time fretting over this,,,

Any comments, suggestions, advice ?

 

[Ezzie]

I myself have small breasts and wouldn't change them for anyone. I have a decent man in my life who likes them the way they are, I've been told that I have perfect nipples (Ask Tiggs LOL) and I'm happy with them.

But, some women don't feel like I do. They think bigger will make them feel better and it very well may. I would never look down on someone who wanted to change their appearence.

My best advice to you CW, is to support her. She'll do what she wants to with or without support of friends and family. And who knows, you think she's sexy now... maybe you'll find yourself more attracted to her but just remember, as I'm sure you already are... looks fade, breasts sag and people get old... it's what's on the inside that stays perfect forever. Just the way I look at things.

 

[CW]

but just remember, as I'm sure you already are... looks fade, breasts sag and people get old... it's what's on the inside that stays perfect forever. Just the way I look at things

Yes, looks are nice, and it may cause me to be attracted to a woman enough to start a conversation based on looks,,, but I won't stick around long without there being something more than looks,,, a personality is more precious than anything else a person has to offer.

Be assured, I'll support her in whatever decision she comes to,,, I was just curious about other points of view,,, after all, it's mighty hard to judge how accurate or honest your own opinion is at times.

 

[Purple Haze]

I think boob jobs are a lot like toupees. An expensive one isn't noticed, and a cheap one can be spotted a mile away.

 

[Patryn]

If it's something that would improve her self image, and she's not doing it for someone else, then let her decide for herself. I would make it clear that you don't think she needs it, and that she's beautiful the way she is, but it's ultimately her decision. Maybe she just needs an ego boost...that's where you could help.

 

[KillerMuffin]

It makes me sad that women feel they have to surgically enhance their bodies to be sexier or more attractive. I'm one of the ones who was blessed/cursed with big knockers naturally. I have been told by various people that the surgeon did a horrible job, they look so fake, that the surgeon should have his license pulled because they look so fake, that they must have been on the budget plan because they look so fake. Its funny when they find out that these are real boobs and I'm considering having a reduction because they hurt.

Yes, big knockers HURT. They hurt my back, the straps of my bra dig into my shoulder and gouge them, jogging, running and jumping are painful.

We are never satisfied, are we?

As for your friend, something in her obviously thinks bigger boobs = sexier body. Will they make her happy? Never know til she does it. The best advice is to just support her and love her for herself, no matter what she decides.

 

[Stormystarr]

A woman I work with just had breast implants, and you can't even tell. She was a 36 c, and she supposedly went up 4 sizes. I for one cannot tell she even had anything done, it looks like she is just barely swollen, like before you get your period. So I see no reason whatsoever to get it done.

 

[Latina]

Some random thoughts on this thread:

Your friend will probably do whatever she wants and you need to be supportive. Remind her of the following, just ONCE, then shut up and support whatever she decides.

Fakes don't FEEL real. Some men CAN tell the difference!

Not sure, but doesn't a fake interfere with the NATURAL purpose of breasts if she should ever have children?
Never having given birth nor had an enhancement, I just
go by what others have told me on this.

Men who care more about her bustline than her personality aren't worth it, so don't do it for them, do it for you if at all. And if you NEED augmentation to feel good about yourself, you have more problems than surgery can solve.

Un-necessary surgery is ALWAYS risky (even medically necessary surgery has risks). Bust enhancement is NOT medically necessary!

Quality of the fakes CAN lead to medical problems.

Every time I backslide on diet and exercise, I gain
in waist AND bust. When I lose again, waist goes down but bust doesn't. Not sure this happens with everyone, and not advocating yo-yo weight gain/loss as safe, still might be safer than surgery, and result is 100% all you! I've gone from 32B at age 26 to 38C at age 50.

Of course, I am currently blessed with nice round 38Cs so probably not the best source of advice for women who want that size but lack it naturally.

Overheard a woman in lingerie shop recently who is
naturally a 46DD. Looking at her I don't think she exaggerated. Complained of constant backache from the weight and difficulty fitting clothes to her size, so hope your friend isn't going to try to get THAT big!

Pop singer Samantha Fox used to pose to show off her big bust, then had them surgically reduced as too uncomfortable. I think other famous women have had to have reductions, too.

Best of luck to her whatever she decides.

-- Latina

 

[Bliss]

No greener pastures!

UberMuffin is right on, big boobs are a pain in the ass. Hell, 34C ain't nothing to sneeze at. Sounds like an esteem issue that won't be fixed by any surgery.

Encourage her to get counseling before being drastic. Or ask me on a bad day, I'll donate mine. LOL

 

[TigerClaw]

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[Guest]

thnkas for your comments ladies

I am cw's friend, when he told me about this question/dilemna of mine being put out in a public forum I was furious. Then after thinking about it and reading the comments I realized that it was just a helping hand jesture after all. So mabe he won't stay in the doghouse forever.

To clarify one point, I am 33y/o, can not have kids and I have some major self-esteem issues. I always attract the worst of the worst for lovers, and I just feel like that I need to do something to help with that problem. I guess that maybe the boobs is not the focus that i need to look at?

Anyway, thank you for the comments.

And cw, I'll see you later buddy-boy

 

[wolfy]

I like small breasts and many other men do to. I don't think
your friend should get a boob job so just in case i ever
meet her i'll find her more attractive! hehe just joking
But really I'm sure your friend is beautifull just the way
she is and dosn't need any help at all. Of course it's her
choice and if she really thinks she'll feel better about
herself with larger breasts then more power to her

 

[Bobtoad777]

give me those little biutty mouth full hand full boobies anyday, i like the bigs ones but just like food i dont like to waste

 

[Ezzie]

Barb, I've been down that same road with the lack of self esteem. I'm a 25 year single mother and figured no man would even look at me so it didn't matter what I looked like. I gained weight, let my hair go, didn't wear make-up and generally thought I was a lost cause.

Then one day, a friend of mine convinced me that it was time to let go of feeling sorry for myself (Not saying that's what you're doing now) and move on with life. And now, I'm a very tall, yet slightly overweight woman with beautiful reddish blonde hair, killer green eyes and a personality that could kickstart anyone. I'm very shocked that I can boast myself up like this, it took a lot of time and belief in myself. If you ever need someone to talk or want to be pointed in the right direction when it comes to rebuiding your own self esteem, please feel free to contact me. My icq and email are listed in my profile.

[Edited by Ezzie on 10-02-2000 at 02:49 PM]

 

[Cheyenne]

Don't be mad at CW, he obviously cares about you. And Lit is a great place to come to get opinions of "normal" people on any topic- especially those topics you probably wouldn't discuss with too many other people in RL.

If you REALLY want to know what people think of your boobs now- take a picture of them and post it to the amateur picture section at Lit. 34C is a decent size already. I'm betting you'd get lots of compliments on them exactly as they are in their natural state.

 

[wolfy]

I think if anything having larger breasts would just increase
your problem hehe. If you are having problems finding a good
lover I don't think increasing your physical apperance will
help much. Just need to find someone compatible to you first
and maybe not date them right away get to know them first
Your a smart sexy woman and i'm sure many men want you. You
just need to meet them hehe....Good luck!

 

[Guest]

{{{{{{{{{{Ezzie}}}}}}}}}} I love you babe!

 

[shit4brains]

I, personally, don't like fake boobs. You can spot them easily on the beach, they absolutely don't feel real, and of course they have been known to cause medical problems.

34C is more than a mouth full and probably look great! Make it real, or else forget about it!

 

[Weird Harold]

To clarify one point, I am 33y/o, can not have kids and I have some major self-esteem issues. I always attract the worst of the worst for lovers, and I just feel like that I need to do something to help with that problem. I guess that maybe the boobs is not the focus that i need to look at?

CW describes you as 5'4" and 120# with a 34C bust. That sounds pretty close to perfection to me.

I think you might find that a fitness, or martial arts program will do more for your self esteem than implants will.

I suggest martial arts not just for the fitness benefits, but for the philosophy that good martial arts classes teach as well. If you're not a "boot to the head" type, Yoga an other oriental styles of exercise and meditation should work as well.

There are thousands of things that you could study that can give you a sense of accomplishent and boost your self-esteem. Find something that suits you and go out and set the world on fire. You'll find that your self-esteem problems just kind of melt away.

 

[dusk2dawn]

Larger busts are a pain as far as I am conserned. Not only do they cause back pain buying bras start getting fairly expensive. I am a fairly large busted woman 42DD and at the age of 25 I have had more back pain then I personally care for. So my advice is consider not only the looks and how it may bring up your self esteem but the negitive side as well. I would be happy with 34C chest.