Bonding with Characters

[srlmort]

Bonding with my characters

Typically when I write, I do bond with at least one character in my story.

When I first started writing, the female in the story was someone like me: Single, late 20's, horny etc.

Now that I'm married and kicking the hell outta forty, I don't bond or even put myself in the story any longer. Only my latest tale (Masquerade) has 2 black fems in it and I ended up kicking them out the story.

These days I bond with characters who are totally nothing like me or anyone I know personally: Black gay male, white British/American male, southern white female etc.

Of course it depends on the story if I choose a specific character that I can relate to.

 

[Stella_Omega]

...
Dorothy L Sayers was accused of bonding too much with Lord Peter Wimsey and writing wish-fulfilment in some of her stories, with herself as Harriet Vane.

Accused? Say lauded-- thousands of readers were glad of it (that would be the female readers, naturally). Harriet Vane was a wonderful character in her own right, and Whimsey stopped being a burbling automaton and became a much more complex whole. This might not have sat so well with your basic detective fan-- but Sayer's books transcended the genre because of Harriet Vane.

And in immaculate grammar, too...

 

[The_Fool]

For my second threadjack in the thread:

I keep seeing the title to this thread and hearing Sean say, "Bond. James, Bond."

 

[MzDeviancy]

whenever I have had sex with a woman, even being sucked off in the front seat of my car by a hooker, I have felt a certain affection for her.

HAHAHAHAAAAAAAA Hello, new facebook status!

 

[Stella_Omega]

HAHAHAHAAAAAAAA Hello, new facebook status!

LOL! And I didn't even blink when he said that...

 

[laurafairlie]

I don't really bond with a character when writing. I do try to understand the character and flesh them out as much as I can. Typically, I write in first-person, and I often write from the perspective of someone I'm not. I even write from the male point of view sometimes. I don't get emotionally involved with them though.

To each their own, I s'pose.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I've only got a few stories written and of those stories, only one, maybe two characters are people I'd love to meet and talk to. As far as having sex with one, that would be Edith. Assuming she didn't frighten me off, of course!


And Cloudy is a woman I would be proud to call a friend!


Stella already is.

 

[srlmort]

I don't really bond with a character when writing. I do try to understand the character and flesh them out as much as I can. Typically, I write in first-person, and I often write from the perspective of someone I'm not. I even write from the male point of view sometimes. I don't get emotionally involved with them though.

To each their own, I s'pose.

Now that I am writing as a gay male, I am bonding with them LOL

Do you enjoy wring as a male more than writing as a fem?

At this point, I am.

 

[laurafairlie]

Now that I am writing as a gay male, I am bonding with them LOL

Do you enjoy wring as a male more than writing as a fem?

At this point, I am.

Strangely enough, I do like writing from the male pov a lot. I'm not sure if I like it more than writing from the female pov. I do like writing that way though. (smiles)

 

[manyeyedhydra]

I don't. Partly because around 90% of my characters don't survive the end of the story, but mainly because it's a dangerous trap to fall into. I like to create strong characters, but ultimately they are there to serve the story. Getting emotionally involved with them can impact adversely on the writing as Ogg said. The worst examples end up as boring, perfect Mary Sues/Gary Stus.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I don't. Partly because around 90% of my characters don't survive the end of the story, but mainly because it's a dangerous trap to fall into. I like to create strong characters, but ultimately they are there to serve the story. Getting emotionally involved with them can impact adversely on the writing as Ogg said. The worst examples end up as boring, perfect Mary Sues/Gary Stus.

Meh, I'm not into stories of violence and death so my characters are safe. Emotionally traumatized, perhaps, but undamaged.

 

[Dragonlipz]

Cloudy wouldn't be a character I'd bond with in my stories, she's too virulent, a vitriolic female no man would desire in fiction or real life.

LaRocha Dude;

In real life I've had my share of relationships that created and expressed that vital spark between two people - gender doesn't matter; but since I lean toward the hetero side, the ultimate interplay twixt man and woman: heing an' sheing, as they say, is bound to contain a measure of vitriol and virulence, from one or the other or both. Anything less is not a true expression of a real person....There is that place inside of us where the hurt lives and grows unless we encounter someone or another who can help us deal with it.....
It's like an old biker used to tell me: 'There's sex and then there's violence. You can't appreciate one unless you've lived through the other.' And he was serious.....
But?! I don't really know if she's my type.......

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Cloudy wouldn't be a character I'd bond with in my stories, she's too virulent, a vitriolic female no man would desire in fiction or real life.

This is an irrelevant and needlessly hurtful comment. Please cease and desist making such venomous personal attacks on Litizens. Whatever my differences with Cloudy in recent years, I have never intentionally said anything personally hostile or hateful about her or felt any personal hatred or animosity toward her, and I don't frankly see why you have to use this opportunity to go after her in such a vicious and malicious fashion.

Please stick to the subject at hand and stop flaming.

Now, as regarding my characters, I do sometimes with them, depending on the circumstances. I don't bond with twisted characters like Guy Gilbertson from "Hank & His Neighbors", but I do with such noble and defiant characters as Ralph Walker from "Revenge of the Pothead" (I even made him a fellow Mountaineer). I really depends on the character....of the....character.

 

[Dragonlipz]

I feel slightly proprietorial towards my Dragon (and no- I am not into that kind of thing). I just wish there was a section on this board for such nonsense and /or I could finish several of the stories I have of the original.

To each his own Dragon.....