Bondage without pain?

[English Gentleman]

Is it wrong to be into bondage but not spanking and whips etc? I love the idea of tying up a helpless girl so that she's at my mercy but am not sure about the S&M side of things

 

[WriterDom]

Is it wrong to be into bondage but not spanking and whips etc? I love the idea of tying up a helpless girl so that she's at my mercy but am not sure about the S&M side of things

There is no right or wrong. If you look around, you'll find a sub who likes bondage and isn't into S&M.

 

[JoseIsWild]

ABSOLUTELY!! I am not into pain or spanking--they do nothing for me. But I do love to tie up my gf whenever I want to make out b/c all she can do is sit there while I play with her. Also, since she is ticklish it makes it easier for me to explore.

 

[shy slave]

Is it wrong to be into bondage but not spanking and whips etc? I love the idea of tying up a helpless girl so that she's at my mercy but am not sure about the S&M side of things

WD is right before I met my Master I loved the bondage aspect & humiliation but not pain *sigh*. He has changed that but its still taking time

If you read S'Lara end line it kind of explains how being tied & helpless makes some of us feel ~ free.

Good luck in your search have you tried the personals here or alt.com there are all sorts of people on there?

 

[bridgeburner]

Bondage is its own sub-set although it's often incorporated into other aspects of BDsM.

Do what feels good and right to you and your partner. I imagine it's much easier to find a woman who likes to be tied up or held down without also incorporating sado-masochistic games.

You might want to check out www.jollyroper.com. There aren't any personal ads there, but there's a fair amount of fiction and philosophy as well as pics and video recommendations. There's a bunch offered in the free pages but membership is something like $5/mo and you can cancel anytime. If you're into bondage it's definitely worth checking out.


-B

 

[Vixandra]

Some people prefer bondage without pain, others small amounts of pain and others are the "give me everything you've got that I can take before bleeding too much to stand" types.

We've got all types here- welcome to the delights and horrors of our world.
*courtly bow*


Yeah- I know, I'm female, should be a curtsy but I do NOT curtsy. Think it looks stupid when I do it... when most females out of a ballroom gown do it.

 

[heckle]

Yes you can have bondage without pain. You can also have bondage with pain or pain without bondage. I knwo people who just like to be tied up and are perfectly content with it.

 

[fallon2]

To me

To me this all starts with "baby steps" when dealing with a newbie. One has to respect the limits and teach the sub what she can do and how far she can go and still learn to love what the Master can give her.

 

[Wizard]

I have found that "Bondage without pain" has been a starting point for many couples.... You set your "rules" or "limits" in the begining and some with in months or years become more intrested in "Pushing there limits" or move the line to take in my types of play. Might be cloths pins on the nipple, light spanking, or even some waxing.
I think like others have said we are all diffrent and there isn't a damn thing wrong with your thinking........Enjoy

 

[Arles]

Bondage w/o pain is the gateway drug. Or at least that's the way it has seemed in my experience. Tie her up, blindfold her, engage in some sensation play, and before you know it, she's begging you to spank her, etc.

 

[Wizard]

Bondage w/o pain is the gateway drug. Or at least that's the way it has seemed in my experience. Tie her up, blindfold her, engage in some sensation play, and before you know it, she's begging you to spank her, etc.

Right on............

 

[Arles]

Right on............

Funny, but almost every woman I've known has insisted she's "not into pain."

 

[Wizard]

Funny, but almost every woman I've known has insisted she's "not into pain."

Thats what I meant when I said that's where it all starts. As you grow in your relationship you wind up introducing more and more into the play in the bedroom.

As a "Master" in our relationship I must say watching the change and growth is erotic in it'self......

 

[Arles]

Thats what I meant when I said that's where it all starts. As you grow in your relationship you wind up introducing more and more into the play in the bedroom.

As a "Master" in our relationship I must say watching the change and growth is erotic in it'self......

Indeed! Nothing is more erotic to me than helping a young, inexperienced woman discover her Inner Slut.

 

[Mr Blonde]

Back on topic

Is it wrong to be into bondage but not spanking and whips etc? I love the idea of tying up a helpless girl so that she's at my mercy but am not sure about the S&M side of things

Yes, there are plenty of dominants who are not heavily into the S&M side of things. And there are plenty of submissives who do not like pain or only want limited pain. In my experience, even most vanilla women will agree to be tied up on occasion.

Get some experience and see what you think. When you have a girl tied up in bed, will you want to flog her or will you imagine even more intricate bondage possibilities? You don't know until you are there alone with her!

 

[phyremaire]

Funny, but almost every woman I've known has insisted she's "not into pain."

LOL

 

[_krista_]

Yes...whip me! Beat Me ! slap me!

LOL