Body Shamed

[LottaLix]

I was emailing someone for nearly two years and eventually, after much persuasion, I sent a pic of my pussy. He's now gone cold on me and will not respond to Emails. I'm now paranoid my vagina is terrible.

 

[lovetoread]

I was emailing someone for nearly two years and eventually, after much persuasion, I sent a pic of my pussy. He's now gone cold on me and will not respond to Emails. I'm now paranoid my vagina is terrible?

his wife found it

 

[LottaLix]

No, I don't think she did. Why would she find that and nothing else over the last two years?

 

[Parminderjeet]

Perhaps your vagina is a disgusting stench pit? Post the picture you sent him so that we may better understand the situation. TIA.

 

[EternalFantasies]

Perhaps your vagina is a disgusting stench pit? Post the picture you sent him so that we may better understand the situation. TIA.

How can we get rid of this bag of scum?

 

[neci]

same thing happened to me, except it was a picture of my asshole. certain things are better left undisclosed, until theres no turning back.

 

[Parminderjeet]

How can we get rid of this bag of scum?

Bag of scum? She just asked a question dude, don't be so harsh on her.

 

[VaticanAssassin]

Probably not.

Unless it looks like this?

 

[Christobal]

Is it body shaming if your body is just is not someone else's cup of tea? I don't care for bleached blondes. The roots always show and look odd to me. I don't care for obviously fake boobs.

It doesn't make me a body shammer to have preferences. I'm balding and some women don't care for that. I don't take that personally.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Denny

I was emailing someone for nearly two years and eventually, after much persuasion, I sent a pic of my pussy. He's now gone cold on me and will not respond to Emails. I'm now paranoid my vagina is terrible.

Maybe he's really just a dog lover.

 

[quietlylooking]

There are many reasons why he may have disappeared. Remember that.

Having said that, I don't know if it's good to put all the visual cards on the table early or not. If someone is going to be turned off by my curvy body and big breasts and ass, do I want to know that right away before things get "serious"? Or is it best to keep everything in the dark and hope they never see that my body is not exactly the airbrushed VS model that they imagined when they stroked their cock and thought of me?

 

[Christobal]

There are many reasons why he may have disappeared. Remember that.

Having said that, I don't know if it's good to put all the visual cards on the table early or not. If someone is going to be turned off by my curvy body and big breasts and ass, do I want to know that right away before things get "serious"? Or is it best to keep everything in the dark and hope they never see that my body is not exactly the airbrushed VS model that they imagined when they stroked their cock and thought of me?

I don't know you but curvy has never scared me off. I do think showing what you look like is important if you have a couple of months PMing. Not to say the mind will not will overcome my personal preferences but there is a time to show our bodies sooner rather than later. Many times it is fear of being curvy but on the other extreme i don't find 78 pounds anorexics attractive.


Again I say having preferences is not body shaming.

 

[o2baPrince]

I was emailing someone for nearly two years and eventually, after much persuasion, I sent a pic of my pussy. He's now gone cold on me and will not respond to Emails. I'm now paranoid my vagina is terrible.

Lots of reasons why people disappear of Lit suddenly. It might not have anything to do with your vagina, but rather the fact you actually were truthful and shared it with him - many guys have been scared away by a woman showing her feelings, far fewer are scared away because they finally saw a vagina....

 

[Noor]

his wife found it

A strong possibility.

No, I don't think she did. Why would she find that and nothing else over the last two years?

A few possibilities:
Maybe the previous pictures were safely stored, but he was so excited that he forgot to lock up this one?
She wasn't looking before, now she is.

Lots of reasons why people disappear of Lit suddenly. It might not have anything to do with your vagina, but rather the fact you actually were truthful and shared it with him - many guys have been scared away by a woman showing her feelings, far fewer are scared away because they finally saw a vagina....

This also is quite possible.

Guys can get scared of lots of things such as:
you will expect them to respond with a picture in kind
their feelings are reciprocated
that at some point you will realize who they truly they are and dump their ass
also in the words of a man who is famous for trying to weird people out when I turned turn the tables on him "this is getting too weird"

I think it is pretty basic and all comes down to control, if they feel they no longer have control of the situation, they freak, turn tail and run.

The best ones recognize it, come back, apologize and try to pick up the pieces.

 

[Noor]

So basically it has nothing to do with body shaming you and everything to do with his internal conflict and/or fear.


And if it is who I think it is...
We need to talk

 

[Noor]

Another possibility is hospitalization and/or death.

Both have happened during my time at Lit. Both cared for me very much.

 

[Christobal]

Another possibility is hospitalization and/or death.

Both have happened during my time at Lit. Both cared for me very much.

This has happen to me too. One time my computer fried and it took me about a month to find the one I was happy with. No great meaning to anyone. Just trying to find a computer to meet my needs.

 

[Tryharder62]

If the guy did stop talking because of that after such a long time as "friends" let him go.

 

[Debbie]

I was emailing someone for nearly two years and eventually, after much persuasion, I sent a pic of my pussy. He's now gone cold on me and will not respond to Emails. I'm now paranoid my vagina is terrible.

There could be many reasons why you haven't had a response back from him:

He died.

His computer died.

He got what he wanted. (Masturbation material)

He lost your email address.

He doesnt know what to respond back with. I mean what do you say?

"Nice pussy. It looks great in the shot you took. I love your labias - they look soft and nibalicious. Love what you've done with your hair. Show me your clit."

Or he's a dick. Send him another email. Tell him what you're thinking and that if he doesn't reply you're assuming he got what he wanted and you won't bother him anymore.

Life's to short to worry about your vagina being fugly. I'm sure it looks gorgeous.

 

[Not Normal]

Maybe he died

his wife found it

But its probably this.

 

[hashtag46]

I was emailing someone for nearly two years and eventually, after much persuasion, I sent a pic of my pussy. He's now gone cold on me and will not respond to Emails. I'm now paranoid my vagina is terrible.

If it's true and you're not simply trolling:

What a self-absorbed asshole. There are other ways of letting one down more gently, without making them feel so vulnerable and small.
It might well be that it's not even be related to those pics., but he made it look like that.
I'd say good riddance

 

[Noor]

There could be many reasons why you haven't had a response back from him:

He died.

His computer died.

He got what he wanted. (Masturbation material)

He lost your email address.

He doesnt know what to respond back with. I mean what do you say?

"Nice pussy. It looks great in the shot you took. I love your labias - they look soft and nibalicious. Love what you've done with your hair. Show me your clit."

Or he's a dick. Send him another email. Tell him what you're thinking and that if he doesn't reply you're assuming he got what he wanted and you won't bother him anymore.

Life's to short to worry about your vagina being fugly. I'm sure it looks gorgeous.

Maybe he died



But its probably this.

If it's true and you're not simply trolling:

What a self-absorbed asshole. There are other ways of letting one down more gently, without making them feel so vulnerable and small.
It might well be that it's not even be related to those pics., but he made it look like that.
I'd say good riddance

Check if he is on whatever forum you met him on, if he isn't, then I would suspect something happened outside his control.
He is only a jerk if this was intentional, it could have just been bad timing.

I find the OP's and some of the posts somewhat self absorbing, maybe having almost a dozen people died in a 6 wk period a couple summers ago, including Byron, makes me a bit biased, but until you know differently, I would just assume that something happened beyond his control and your pussy is just fine.

I would include his wife finding out as something beyond his control.

 

[hashtag46]

I think that you were both lucky to meet such a great guy and unlucky to have experienced such tragedy.
But with the exception of a sudden tragedy happening to him or which distracted him,
I think that any guy who really cared would have made more effort than that.

Unfortunately, my view is that many women make the mistake of double guessing and trying to look for the nicest explanations or excuses instead of looking at the most likely explanation. And in the end, this wishful thinking backfires and makes it worse for them.
Instead of thinking: "Ok, he didn't answer any of my emails and he cut me out. Chances are that he's a douche and I deserve better than that, so no need to waste any more time and time to move on. If he decides to call me later on, I shall see."

 

[islandman]

There are many reasons why he may have disappeared. Remember that.

Having said that, I don't know if it's good to put all the visual cards on the table early or not. If someone is going to be turned off by my curvy body and big breasts and ass, do I want to know that right away before things get "serious"? Or is it best to keep everything in the dark and hope they never see that my body is not exactly the airbrushed VS model that they imagined when they stroked their cock and thought of me?

They should be horse-whipped.

 

[hashtag46]

Check if he is on whatever forum you met him on, if he isn't, then I would suspect something happened outside his control.
He is only a jerk if this was intentional, it could have just been bad timing.

I find the OP's and some of the posts somewhat self absorbing, maybe having almost a dozen people died in a 6 wk period a couple summers ago, including Byron, makes me a bit biased, but until you know differently, I would just assume that something happened beyond his control and your pussy is just fine.

I would include his wife finding out as something beyond his control.

I reacted a bit strongly because I saw myself in it sortof, when I was younger.

Not related to romantic affairs but whenever I feared some negative outcome, I would often oscillate between engaging in wishful thinking (that person can't be a dickhead - they're just reacting like that because x and y) or taking things too much on myself and blaming myself or feeling ashamed.
That type of thinking always left me ruminating and stuck and caused me unnecessary misery, instead of helping me move forward.
I wish I was a bit more self-affirming and pragmatic in my thinking. But I guess it all comes with growing older.

In saying that, it might well be that I misread the whole scenario and your guys' suggestions are more appropriate.