Body Modification - Piercings, Tattoos, Fire

[VelvetSin]

I'm curious how others feel about these sorts of things. I like tattoos, though it's something I must be selective of due to work in a conservative atmosphere. I'm going to get a new one soon and he's looking heavily into cell popping once he can find someone to teach him more hands-on than what he can find simply reading. Piercing isn't my cup of tea, so to speak. My ears aren't even pierced. I'm okay with repeated needle stabs for tattooing but don't want permanent holes. Not sure how twisted that is.

While I know some people incorporate much of this in their sessions, it's something that intrigues me. Maybe it's a personal limit or inability to relinquish control in that area right now, but this is something I can only agree to and do on my own terms. Anything that is permanent or may be permanent, I want a direct hand in selecting. For tattoos, while I want his input on what he'd like to look at, I want to choose when, where, how big or small, etc. since I'm the one that has to wear it for the rest of my life. For cell popping, when he does get closer to being ready to do it, he's letting me select the pattern and location.

Do others do it more "on the fly" so to speak? How is it incorporated into others' sessions?

 

[catalina_francisco]

I like tatoos on other people, but in the past have never particularly wanted any myself as I suspect I would get tired of it eventually, I love the naked skin effect which I feel is lost with a lot of tattooing, and the thought of what it would look like as age takes its toll has not done a lot to persuade me. That being said, of late I have become more interested in entertaining the idea, and when I came home this time he said he had decided in my absence that I would be getting a tattoo. Not sure what it will be or when, but seems it will be.

Piercings have also been something which are planned, though to date have not happened. Used to like the idea, but these days am not as enthralled, partly due to some health concerns. We do play piercing from time to time.

Haven't done cell popping but have a brand on my butt which he did on my return home a few years back. I also have a cutting on the other hip which he also did. He intends doing more cuttings...have to find some way to use up all those scalpels!! I don't have any say in what he puts on my flesh, even when it is permanent. That used to cause me more angst than it does now, though if he asked if I would like to have some input I would love it.

Catalina

 

[VelvetSin]

I like tatoos on other people, but in the past have never particularly wanted any myself as I suspect I would get tired of it eventually, I love the naked skin effect which I feel is lost with a lot of tattooing, and the thought of what it would look like as age takes its toll has not done a lot to persuade me. That being said, of late I have become more interested in entertaining the idea, and when I came home this time he said he had decided in my absence that I would be getting a tattoo. Not sure what it will be or when, but seems it will be.

Piercings have also been something which are planned, though to date have not happened. Used to like the idea, but these days am not as enthralled, partly due to some health concerns. We do play piercing from time to time.

Haven't done cell popping but have a brand on my butt which he did on my return home a few years back. I also have a cutting on the other hip which he also did. He intends doing more cuttings...have to find some way to use up all those scalpels!! I don't have any say in what he puts on my flesh, even when it is permanent. That used to cause me more angst than it does now, though if he asked if I would like to have some input I would love it.

Catalina

Thank you for the feedback. I've always been curious if most submissives relinquish their choice. I want to get there at some point, but just can't yet.

"The ravages of time" may be my hangup. Anything belly or chest are where time will have the roughest effects on women as we age, so I'm not open to anything there. While I'll fight age and time tooth and nail, eventually it will win and I don't want something stretched to cartoon proportions. My back is where my current ones are and any futures ones will land, and that area is less likely to suffer with time and is easiest to conceal when I don't want to show it off. I don't have a traditional "tramp stamp" and don't really want one since it's so common. It's a fine line for me between attractive body modification that accentuates beauty and angsty self-expression for the sake of it, and I can't let go of control enough to relinquish my voice in how far I'll go down that path. I don't know why, I know he wouldn't do anything I'd hate long-term.

I like tattoos because of what I've selected (now at least, I had one for years that I hated but got a cover-up) and the pain associated with it isn't a bad kind. I wouldn't say I eroticize it because I'm not really able to do that with anyone other than B, but I can close my eyes and sink past it while listening to the conversation and music in the shop buzz around me (I don't like to talk while getting it done).

 

[catalina_francisco]

I don't have a traditional "tramp stamp" and don't really want one since it's so common.

LOL, I am so with you there. F suggested I get one about a year ago and I told him why the idea was a turn off for me which was basically because they are so common, and except for the rare sighting of something different, the majority all seem to be similar designs, usually flowery. One thing for sure, as much as I love flowers, I have no desire to have tatts which are flowery, and since he hates flower designs on most things, I hope that means tattoos as well.

Catalina

 

[tiez]

Mine

I had a piercing that was done in the context of a BDSM relationship. However, she didn't really push me into it. Only when I said "Okay, I've thought about it, I'm going to get a piercing, would you like to do this with me?" did she orchestrate the piercing. We did, I was cuffed while my left nipple was pierced and I had a bit of a crash after all of it, enough that I got some juice to drink and refresh myself. A little hypo-glycemic after the event.

That has since migrated, but I took the jewelry out reluctantly.

Since then, I've had a tattoo done, also in a BDSM context, but a different person. It's something that fits my personality anyway, but she was there with me for all of it and made the final decisions and she was very much 'in charge' while we were talking to the piercer.

So, I had already decided on both of those body modifications that I wanted something and would do it anyway. I would get more ink now, but my trouble is that I don't know what I want to get. After all, I have to live with it forever. The present ink is on my hip and very rarely would anyone aside from a partner or doctor get to see it. I'm looking at getting something more visible soon.

 

[tiez]

And more...

I also took someone as a surprise to get her clit hood pierced. I offered her a chance to back out if she wanted, but that once she went in, she was obligated and I'd take care of all the decisions except her "yes" vote. I even made her specifically say to the piercer that "yes, she wanted this". However, when the piercer asked if she wanted any kind of topical anesthetic for the piercing (xylocaine?) I answered "No, she doesn't" for her. She shot me a glance and I merely smiled at her. She smiled back and I told her to relax.

It all went very well and was a wonderful experience.

This was after a long evening interrogation scene too, in which she was very roughly handled. It was a great birthday weekend for her.

 

[VelvetSin]

LOL, I am so with you there. F suggested I get one about a year ago and I told him why the idea was a turn off for me which was basically because they are so common, and except for the rare sighting of something different, the majority all seem to be similar designs, usually flowery. One thing for sure, as much as I love flowers, I have no desire to have tatts which are flowery, and since he hates flower designs on most things, I hope that means tattoos as well.

Catalina

I got a flower for my last one, but when doing it, the artist asked why I'd chosen it since she'd never done it before. She commented that everyone gets roses or lilies, but never that (I'm keeping it to myself, dangit, it's mine! ) I'm not a flower type person either, except for one breed and only if it actually means something. The tattoo of the flower did mean something, it was like our hidden collar that I could wear at all times even in public and at work due to the meaning. Which, thinking about it, I guess was his choice. There is a playtime collar, but there was a wanting but indecision about public wear of some kind. I'd decided I wanted something and he suggested I choose something symbolic of that and chose that amongst a small handful being considered. Sort of like what tiez mentioned (thank you also by the way for input!)

Maybe I'll someday get to the second scenario, though I don't think I could with piercings. They're just not my thing. I don't even wear earrings.

 

[FloggingMolly]

I have a tattoo on my ankle, it's like a chain bracelet. Weirdly, we'd said before, when our roles were different, that I'd have a key and he'd have a padlock. So I had my tattoo in january, and I have a heartshaped key as one of the charms on it. When drawing it out, I made a few parts of it with his initial. Though we weren't D/s at the time, it has a special sort of meaning for me, and had always been designed as a way for me to have a tattoo for him wthout the age old 'name in a heart' sort of tattoo. I do wish he'd had more input, but I'm more of a drawer, and also with something so permanant, he wanted it to be something I'd like. I'd certainly be up for another one, but would definately want input as to what and where.

Not had any piercings at hs command, but I once got my nipples pierced as a suprise because I knew he'd like it. Unfortunately, they never properly healed and I had to remove them.

 

[where]

I got my tattoo on my back because my mum who's 70 has completely smooth skin on her back, so I figure it's going to age well. I do suspect that as we get older and our skin ages, that will be the least of our concerns, though.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I got a flower for my last one, but when doing it, the artist asked why I'd chosen it since she'd never done it before. She commented that everyone gets roses or lilies, but never that (I'm keeping it to myself, dangit, it's mine! ) I'm not a flower type person either, except for one breed and only if it actually means something. The tattoo of the flower did mean something, it was like our hidden collar that I could wear at all times even in public and at work due to the meaning. Which, thinking about it, I guess was his choice. There is a playtime collar, but there was a wanting but indecision about public wear of some kind. I'd decided I wanted something and he suggested I choose something symbolic of that and chose that amongst a small handful being considered. Sort of like what tiez mentioned (thank you also by the way for input!)

Maybe I'll someday get to the second scenario, though I don't think I could with piercings. They're just not my thing. I don't even wear earrings.

I love flowers, and could enjoy them incorporated into a design, or like you, just a single flower design, but just hate the similarities of so many which dominantly feature a lot of flowers, and in some part I think I mentally associate it with a younger female which I am not by far....ah, age.

LOL, I have pierced ears (nearly passed out when I got them in my 20's), but due to allergies, I rarely wear earrings or any jewelry these days apart from my wedding ring. I can't even wear a watch these days..I bought one with a leather band and the tiny bit of metal buckle that touched my skin from time to time made me break out. It's the pits and expensive to try and counteract.

Catalina

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I did get one piercing about 5 or 6 years ago, while I was in a relationship. I still have it and enjoy it.

Mr's floated the idea of me getting my nipples done a few times.. I sort of want to, but then sort of don't. Can't imagine not playing with them for weeks - months, and until recently I was considerably scared of the idea as well. We've also briefly discussed tattoos, but I'm not going to bring it up again. If it happens, it happens.

We've also done a bit of play piercing and cutting, just the once, with more reading and planning being done for the future. It was a crazy scene, a bit of bondage, a lot of fear play, my adrenaline was hype right up, and it *was* fairly much on the fly. I was panicking because usually I prefer more time to get used to ideas (and thus talk myself out of them) but he just told me to be quiet, and be still. We're planning something more ritualistic and exchange-y next time.

I myself am probably a fan of the semi permanent modifications, because stuff changes. That's the reason I won't be provoking the idea of a tattoo, and that if we do decide on it, then there'll be lots of design planning.

 

[NomadLady]

Already have a couple of tattoos. Have discussed tattoos with previous Dom's but things never progressed to the actual act.

One Dom friend has his wife tattooed with a large "P" with a small number 3 like P to the third power and it stands for Patrick's Precious Pet...I think that's kind cool...

 

[the captians wench]

I had wanted my belly button pierced since I was in highschool. Okay, actually it came about because I lost a lot of weight and I liked showing off my mid section. But of course my mom wouldn't let me, and I got married shortly after turning 18, a lot of shit happened, had a nervous break down, and gained a lot of weight.

fast forward 5 years, devorced, new job, new love interests, dropped 200lbs. I was living on my own and accomplishing things that I had been afraid to even try, so I decided to concor one more fear and got my belly button pierced as proof to myself that I can do anything I set my mind to.

Now in that time Jounar had also been teasing me about how cool it would be to get my nipples pierced, and I had said to him that if my belly button went well I would think about doing it. He never really presured me, and only mentioned it maybe 3 times the whole time I knew him. The first time a trip got cancled I decided to go for it.

He was very pleased. Now I just can't wait to feel him play with them.

We've also talked about a brand. But the method and placement changes a bit from conversation to conversation. I'm looking forward to it tho.

 

[YourCaptor]

First, their is a lot to be said for that naked body look.

But in my case I'm already mangled anyway so if I got a tattoo it would be a giant fucking back piece that wraps around the sleeves and reach forward to the chest. It would have to be done by a top artist and would cost me a fortune. I don't have a fortune so no tattoo.

Piercings, they look good on some people, but it's not my style. Plus I'm sure they'd get ripped out or corroded or something cause I'm not that body conscious.

Cell popping, personally I think it's ridiculous. Reminds me of the wood burning arts and crafts kids do.

Scarification, not pretty, not artistic, respectable maybe, if it's like those crocodile skin dudes.

 

[RuReal]

We negotiate each potentially permanent thing I call piercing more semi permanent and we had her nipples done in the context of a control situation. I setup the date after we had our discussion and told her the appointment was coming up. The rush was good for both of us, but they ended up migrating so we had to take them out.

She wanted a tattoo and we negotiated it. Now we are messing around with temporary play piercing had her breasts done the other day and it went well. To the OP maybe a play piercing instead of a perm one?

 

[rida]

Don't have tattoos and only my ears pierced at the moment.

The Sadist however has requested to pierce my nipples.
I've always been interested in it, and it would have even more meaning if it was my PYL the one doing the piercing. But the problem is that I need a piercing that I can hide with more ease so I've been thinking to have him do a horizontal hood piercing instead. It would retain the meaning of a piercing done by my PYL (as a marking of sort), and it would be much more discreet.

Personally I'd love a branding. But as I do need any permanent mark to be something I can hide, it will not be possible.

ETA: we have been dabbing with play piercing in lieu of permanent ones so far.

 

[Commendatore]

Tattoos: have, like, do not prefer
Piercings: have, like, do not prefer
Scars/Brands: only have natural scars ,no brands, no preference
Related: Cutting. Have done, given and received, would do again

 

[Etoile]

7 tattoos, 10 piercings (4 gunned, 6 needle, incl 1 DIY). Medical scars only; no interest in decorative scarification. No interest in cell popping.

None of it's been in a BDSM context, despite the pain involved with all of them.

 

[radepor]

Oh God, never thought Generational Bias existed, yet: Here I am

I'm over 60; I've performed unobtrusive self-peircings, tho not tatoos. I guess I'm schizoid.

I suspect my generation (teens in the 1960s) bias me; I feel tatoos are the perview of 19th century sailors; that is, a feature of an outcast subculture.

Every single time I walk down the street and see a young, beautiful girl with an enormous tatoo on her calf/thigh/small-of-her-back/shoulder I wince. Every time I see an equally appealling you man with a similar tatoo I want to throw him under the nearest bus.

A glaring piercing through nose doesn't do much for me either.

I'm curious how others feel about these sorts of things. I like tattoos, though it's something I must be selective of due to work in a conservative atmosphere. I'm going to get a new one soon and he's looking heavily into cell popping once he can find someone to teach him more hands-on than what he can find simply reading. Piercing isn't my cup of tea, so to speak. My ears aren't even pierced. I'm okay with repeated needle stabs for tattooing but don't want permanent holes. Not sure how twisted that is.

While I know some people incorporate much of this in their sessions, it's something that intrigues me. Maybe it's a personal limit or inability to relinquish control in that area right now, but this is something I can only agree to and do on my own terms. Anything that is permanent or may be permanent, I want a direct hand in selecting. For tattoos, while I want his input on what he'd like to look at, I want to choose when, where, how big or small, etc. since I'm the one that has to wear it for the rest of my life. For cell popping, when he does get closer to being ready to do it, he's letting me select the pattern and location.

Do others do it more "on the fly" so to speak? How is it incorporated into others' sessions?

 

[eastern sun]

I've wanted a large tattoo running from my shoulders to my thighs for years now, but since my husband doesn't like tattoos I don't have any. I've wanted this tattoo for thirty years, and fantasized about it so frequently, that I feel like it would be the biggest mark of my "freedom" to finally say "this is my body, I'm going to do with it what I want."

I sometimes imagine myself as an old woman, say 75 years old . . . finally getting tattooed after he has passed away. Though, at that point, I doubt it would have much sex appeal. It would simply be my own personal banner of freedom.

 

[rida]

I've wanted a large tattoo running from my shoulders to my thighs for years now, but since my husband doesn't like tattoos I don't have any. I've wanted this tattoo for thirty years, and fantasized about it so frequently, that I feel like it would be the biggest mark of my "freedom" to finally say "this is my body, I'm going to do with it what I want."

I sometimes imagine myself as an old woman, say 75 years old . . . finally getting tattooed after he has passed away. Though, at that point, I doubt it would have much sex appeal. It would simply be my own personal banner of freedom.

I like this! And I think it would look awesome　^_^

I've never really considered a tattoo, as I know that I cannot really have one as it will create too much impediment in my life here (cannot enter Hot springs, swimming pools, public baths, etc), and know that my mother would have a fit (lol).

But after my sister talked about getting a tiny tattoo on her foot, I discovered that my girls are totally horrified by the idea of getting a tattoo! I'll have to ask them why ...

So one more reason for no tattoo on me.

 

[Etoile]

I like this! And I think it would look awesome　^_^

I've never really considered a tattoo, as I know that I cannot really have one as it will create too much impediment in my life here (cannot enter Hot springs, swimming pools, public baths, etc), and know that my mother would have a fit (lol).

But after my sister talked about getting a tiny tattoo on her foot, I discovered that my girls are totally horrified by the idea of getting a tattoo! I'll have to ask them why ...

So one more reason for no tattoo on me.

I agree - getting a tattoo in Japan is VERY different from elsewhere. Especially since you don't wear swimsuits in the onsen! I had zero chance of experiencing anything public when I was there - fortunately the girls at the university didn't mind sharing the dorm bath with a tattooed American.

Maybe your girls have picked up on Japanese taboos against tattoos??

When my students from Japan came to visit here last month, we happened to walk past a tattoo shop where I've had work done. We talked about it, and one admitted that she had a tattoo! She got a tiny heart on her hip in Thailand. I was very surprised - it's the only Japanese person I have ever seen with a tattoo, outside of Harajuku anyway.