Blindfolds

[Shadowsdream]

I enjoy watching My slave bound and gagged with My favorite black leather blindfold taking away his ability to see into My eyes. his vulnerability is so obvious as he lies quietly breathing to sharpen his listening ability. The longer I stand immobile, looking down on his naked body, the more tense I see his muscles become as he begins to fantasize about all of the possibilities for My entertainment that he knows will be going through My head. he knows that My mind can shock him with the least expected scenes that seem to come out of nowhere. There is no pattern to My Domination, no way of ever knowing where I will lead him. his trust never waivers as his anticipation grows. If I could see his eyes I have no doubt they would be asking unspoken questions. Would this play be a journey in erotica, pain or humiliation? Would I drive him to the repeated edge of ecstasy simply to deny him the pleasure he knows I don't think he deserves? Or would this be a day of surprises where that ecstasy would become a release so painful in it's force that he would have begged for denial if he had the freedom of speech?
....some here find blindfolds to add to the ecstacy and others find them to be pure agony!
Shall W/we begin a conversation that will show the duality of this particular tool?

 

[Wizard]

....some here find blindfolds to add to the ecstacy and others find them to be pure agony!
Shall W/we begin a conversation that will show the duality of this particular tool?

I use our blindfold often as it is a big part of the "what is coming next" part of how we play. I too like to keep her wondering what or where I may be working next. It sure sets the mood or rather hightens the mood......

 

[Etoile]

I would love to have a blindfold used on me more often; it's never really been part of my play with Daddy. Any suggestions on how I might ask for this?

 

[LunarKitten]

I would love to have a blindfold used on me more often; it's never really been part of my play with Daddy. Any suggestions on how I might ask for this?

Ask him what his thoughts are on blindfolds. Tell him you would like to try the experience when he asks why - you know he'll ask why

 

[LunarKitten]

Re: Re: Blindfolds

I use our blindfold often as it is a big part of the "what is coming next" part of how we play. I too like to keep her wondering what or where I may be working next. It sure sets the mood or rather hightens the mood......

*nods* They whole what will happen next, what toy will be used and where...that is such a turn on for me, personally. I know a few people that can't stand it. To each their own, no right or wrong to feelings at all.

 

[D's mariposa]

I would love to have a blindfold used on me more often; it's never really been part of my play with Daddy. Any suggestions on how I might ask for this?

I'm not sure, Etoile. D says I can always ask for more of anything, but it's hard to ask. Someone in my subbie circle out here used the limit list. I mean, about once a year they go over her list, and the one they use has numerical values. So she cranked up the numerical values on the ones she wanted more of.

Anyhoo. I love the blindfold. When he pulls it out, it usually means we're doing something new and scary and he doesn't want me to panic. Incidentally, he's not too much into bondage, but when it's bondage AND a blindfold... OMG..

 

[ownedsubgal]

my Master mainly blindfolds me when i am going to serve other men...i am VERY shy irl, and i am not comfy chit chatting, making small talk with men who only have one purpose for me, even making eye contact is difficult for me, so to avoid all of that and have me get into my proper head space immediately, i'm blindfolded before the activities begin and throughout the process. it's truly for my own ease and comfort than anything else, although it does help the men who use me to view me as more of an object which is good.

 

[Etoile]

Someone in my subbie circle out here used the limit list. I mean, about once a year they go over her list, and the one they use has numerical values.

Sounds like this is probably Tammad Rimilia's Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List. (I never knew Tammad, but I am acquainted with one of his former partners.)

 

[lark sparrow]

Originally posted by Shadowsdream ....some here find blindfolds to add to the ecstacy and others find them to be pure agony!
Shall W/we begin a conversation that will show the duality of this particular tool?

I'm pretty visual on some levels, so being blinded is a very powerful tool of anticipation and surrender - yes, more than capable of both ecstacy and agony many times over.

 

[FungiUg]

Interesting that you should mention the "dualilty" of blindfolds.

My lover hates them. She likes to watch...

Me, I enjoy them. Makes me concentrate on what I am feeling, the sensations of sex. And I love using them with a submissive, for much the same reason.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I'm looking forward to blindfolding...and then teasing her mercilessly with various toys and sensations. The element of surprise is what I look forward to.

 

[Ebonyfire]

As I have posted in the past, I use blindfolds often because I enjoy the use of sensory deprivation. Males tend to be visual creatures and the removal of that makes them all the more vulnerable.

 

[lassarina]

i love being blindfolded. It seems to heighten the senses and the sense of anticipation. Especially if i'm left blindfolded and restrained for a while before any play starts. Every touch, every sound then pushes me toward the edge of becoming a screaming sub!

 

[Pixie Mischief]

blindfolds...

for some reason having your bf hand you a cushion and tell you to hold it over your head doesnt work too well as a blind fold.

maybe he was trying to kill me?? LMAO

another time was takin my shirt off and he keept it over my eyes so.. 1/2 taken off, and kissed me.
granted I still pretty much saw 1/2 of everything.

you know a scarf would work much better in my opinion.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I love the hyperaware dimension that a blindfold adds to subspace; it seems like your other senses extend outward from yourself. During sensation play, everything seems like so much more, and every moment seems exquisitely lengthened.

I also can appreciate the duality of it, as Shadowsdream said. I can be flying along, happily zoning, in space, and the element of surprise will knock me off kilter a bit. Had i had my eyes just closed, i may have peeked, and had some clue about what might have been coming. The blindfold keeps you much more high-strung than that....it's a much more intense and fragile space, but worth it, IMHO.

~anelize

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I have said it before and i will say it again...i dislike being blinded immensely!!!! All of my previous owners have used the blind as a way of putting me in my *space/place* i am very visual...the thought of not being able to see makes me Crazy!!! I feel sooo vulnerable...and it makes me edgy. I am not sure how anyone can handle it, with out losing their minds... (i am better with them than I used to be...but I still don't like em!!!)

 

[psiberzerker]

I'm not a big fan of blindfolds because I get most of my feedback from the eyes. I've used them, mostly because the playmate couldn't enter subspace without it, and felt crippled. What're you to do?
I guess that's what we get for using crutches. Hers was the blindfold, mine was the eyes. We didn't last long together. Since then, I've used them again, and found that I'm still not as effective. The Blinder helps, but then, it's not me doing the dominating. I feel kind of cheated by that.
In just plain sensual play, though, it's a different story. Without the Ds dynamic, it's a great way to add spontenaety because the receiver has no idea what's comming, when, and where on hir body. Bubbles are awesome for this, because it's such a strange and unexpected sensation. Often, it takes people a while to even figure it out.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

I think bf would agree with psi..
I dont think he likes blindfolds much just did it probably thinking that I would like it.
well not sure he did something like that with his ex while she was changing he grabbed her wrists and lightly kissed her.
so maybe its not just because he thought I'd like it. *Shrugs* I do know eyes are very important to him. Its what got him interested in me LOL
Hes huge on eye contact.
I... I am not lol I'm shy and it makes me feel unconfortable.
I tend to always look away or something with people.
But I know how he feels about eye contact. Blindfolds would never be one of his favorite things.
he prefers to look at my beautiful eyes then hide them hehe

 

[FungiUg]

I will often use direct eye-contact during play. But hey, variation is the thingie of life... and blindfolds are good too, for different reasons.

I get bored with doing the same thing all the time, so variation and exploration are important for me.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

*pukes at the idea of routine*

 

[Shadowsdream]

Thank you all for joining and carrying this conversation...
I always blindfold My slave when he bathes Me...I love to torment him with My voice and a slap to the face when he begins to wash a breast or My free hand...Just because he is shocked and gasping in disbelief when he is being so cautious and respectful...it shows him that he just can't win for losing.
I also use the eyes to control and to read the mind..BUT there are times when blindfolds are just ~right~

 

[DVS]

Blindfolds are always fun. As someone has surely said, blindfolds are great for taking torment to extremes.

It all comes from the sub not being able to see what is happening, so their mind goes into overload. Then, seeding that overload with nasty thoughts is even more torment.

With the proper "delivery", all of this is possible and more. More than once, I have been asked "what was that?" only to find out it was something she had experienced many times before. Yes, visual deprivation is great fun.

 

[ownedsubgal]

wow, so no one else uses a blindfold as a means to alleviate nervousness and fear?

 

[Etoile]

FWIW, Daddy said that blindfolds are for scaring little girls. Now I have no idea what's up! I left it at that...hopefully Daddy will remember that I'd asked about them.

 

[Etoile]

Oh, and as an ASL interpreter, I really should have thought to post this sooner.

I've never had the opportunity to talk with my deaf friends about it (and certainly wouldn't bring it up with a client!), but I'm curious about the use of blindfolds when one partner is deaf. There's no reason not to engage in BDSM (it does make things a little harder, i.e. tying someone up is effectively the same as immobilizing and gagging them), but I wonder what would go through the sub's mind when plunged into darkness as well. That would be a much stronger sensory-deprivation play, I think, than it is for hearing partners. Hmm. Maybe I should start a thread about deafness and BDSM, though I suspect we don't have many experts on it here.