Bit new @ bondage & male anal sex help

[madamedarlina]

Hello - first I am finally glad to have found such a resourceful online community which so far has helped me just by reading the comments, the suggestions and the stories of several members.

All right here we go:

Few years back I dated a guy who started exploring some bondage, but he liked to mostly bond me with handcuff, blind me etc ... I really liked it, but I guess he was a bit too young and inexperienced @ the time plus he moved back and we just remained friends. I guess he awoke in me my curiosity and my own pleasure in discovering new wonderful sex practices. Being myself real liberal and open to anything with the right person.

I have been seeing in the past 6 months a fantastic guy who likes himself to be tied to the bed or I want to say tied in general; he is also open minded we live not too close and I am going to see him in 10 days; want to provoke him a bit reg. maybe a new toy or ropes that I would like to buy before I go over. Let's call it a bit of email or text messaging foreplay etc ... to get both real aroused and have a passionate multi orgasmic time together as we have so far. We have a mental connection and we just have the best of times with sex.

He loves to please me at the same time, always attentive, asking what I'd like etc ... a real gentleman. He is a bit shy though and I think that the distance also does not help getting to know each other too quickly however it might be good to take things slowly when one truly likes and enjoys the company of the other.

He is also into toys, he likes me to put my fingers into his anus, last time he did not enjoy almost my entire hand in there but maybe it was the position, he will try anything, he suggested I get a vibrator that we can both use on one another, he hinted we use other type of toys but was not specific.

I got ourselves bum beads and both used them for the first time and truly loved them; I am just wondering, since our relationship is new and I am new at bondage and penetrating a man; he seems to be an expert and likes it a lot, but he is shy since we don't know each other yet too well. I want to start exploring what is next, whomever is experienced with this kind of situation, can you pls help me out. I'd like to know what kind of toys we can use, what I can do so we can have even more sublime wild ecstatic sex. Or what kind of positions games I can come up with, I'd like to surprise him. I wonder if he might like me to get a strap on etc ... well sorry for all the questions I'd love to hear your answer thx a million and of course ideas for future provocation since in a week or so we will be together )))

 

[Adakgirl]

Heh, you betcha, buy a strap on and take it with you. He sounds like he would love that. Be gentle and use lube, an ass is not like a vagina.
I suggest you don't get too heavy into a lot of different types of play all at once..at least not until you are more used to each other. He sounds like he needs to feel more comfortable with you first. Plus you don't want to pull all your tricks out of the basket at once. Slowly spread things out, it makes things much more exciting and delicious if you relax and enjoy each new pleasure for itself. Then combine, invent, explore more possibilities as you become closer sexually. You need to know how to tie someone up safely and make sure they can get themselves out if necessary. You should search the extensive library available in this forum, it will help you with new ideas and playing safely.