Bisexuality and relationships...can they work?

[bicuriousosaur]

Hey you all,

I was thinking about this. How many of you guys who are bi ever been secret about your affairs while others are more open? Do you ever worry that it would destroy a relationship? What about three bi relationships and can they truly work?

Being bi, a virgin, and never in a relationship of any sort, i have to ask this.

 

[queen_of_cups]

To me, being bisexual doesn't necessarily mean that I have to swing or be polyamorous. Identifying as bi, simply means that I'm attracted to both sexes, in my case equally, though as you may pick up from some other threads, other people might place themselves on a spectrum - being more attracted to one over the other, while still enjoying both.

I am however, also poly, though my husband and I have only recently opened up our marriage. We've had no problems being faithful to each other in our monogamous marriage up to this point, there have been temptations, but it's something we've always been very open and honest with each other about.

We're now taking that further step to allow each other other relationships outside of our marriage. For my husband, who also identifies as bi, but with a stronger preference for women, this means that he is including a new girlfriend. I may also wind up with a girlfriend at some point in the future - I'm pregnant at the moment, so I'm not exactly looking around for a new relationship at this time.

There've been some bumps in the road to becoming poly, but I think we're starting to get things sorted out ... and if anything, I think in the end it will make our relationship -stronger- because we're rediscovering our love for each other in a new light.

I know more than one person who is in a functional triad - how well more complicated relationship configurations work all depends on the people involved, how honest and open they are with each other, how well they communicate, IMHO.

 

[bi_asian_guy]

*****

 

[Happyguy25]

I had told my GF I was bicurious and at first she flipped a little but then was accpeting and we are opening our relationship up to bi activity as long as we are both present. Hope that helps.

 

[pinkstarfish]

Secrecy does destroy relationships when it's deceitful. If you're going to lie and cheat, you don’t deserve the security that a serious relationship offers because you obviously haven’t earned it. Not to mention the person you're supposed to be monogamous with deserves better.

 

[bicuriousosaur]

I know what you mean, pinkstarfish. It seems that many of the bi-married guys I talk to over the Internet are decietful, and just want a quick jerkoff.

 

[Stella_Omega]

My husband and I have been together 27 years! Our relationship has gone through many changes. It's been open sometimes, sometimes it's been monogamous. Nothing is easy in any relationship, but ours would never have survived this long if we weren't honest from the start. One rule is that we MUST tell when someone's extra partner is making us uncomfortable, as sometimes happens. And when that has happened, it's the extra that gets dumped, if the problem isn't fixable
That being said, it's been easier on him when my extra relationships have been lesbian, and it's even easier for him when my GF is willing to share with him once in a while. Some hardcore dykes have tried their first het sex with my old man... a little side benefit for a patient partner.