Bisexual M & sub exploration

[SecretWindow]

I've been talking with a friend of mine lately who's in a D/S relationship and is a sub herself. She's educated me a lot and really opened my eyes to the lifestyle. When she tells me some of her stories I feel like I can identify with some of those same feelings. I feel like there is a sub inside of me that I want to uncover... to accept.

Being a bisexual man who tends to be more dominant with women and submissive with men... can someone give me some ideas on how to handle this? Where do I go from here?

 

[SweetErika]

Where do you want to go from here? Do you feel the need to explore in real time, or are you not ready for that yet?

You may want to continue by doing more research on your own to find out what types of activities pique your interest and possibly narrow down what you're looking for. Going to munches, clubs, events, trying to make friends in the lifestyle, etc., might be something else to consider.

I guess I don't understand what you're really looking for/asking from us. No one can tell you what path you should take; only you know who you truly are and what feels right at this time in your life.

 

[Shankara20]

Being a bisexual man who tends to be more dominant with women and submissive with men... can someone give me some ideas on how to handle this? Where do I go from here?

I am also a bisexual switch, but only presenting as a gay Top right now (ok - for the last 4 years)

I agree with SweetErika's question "Where do you want to go from here?"

If you cannot yet answer that, I suggest you pay attention to what attractes your attention - what do you wish for most, that makes your dick drippy and hard when you think about it, what sort of web sites do you surf the most? Then ask a few more direct questions here, you will get help, suggestion, useful and useless advice to sort it out. Keep posting, look through the titles of threads in the Talk and Café and the GLBT forum and get involved in those discussions. Play a few of the ongoing post games in the Café like the word association thread – you might be surprised how your response there will tell you where your own interests are.

and only trust me and what I say - everyone else here in just crazy.....

 

[SecretWindow]

Thank you... both of your posts are helpful. I'm mostly unsure as to what I want and what I'm interested in. Knowing that I should probably search and read a little more and talk more is probably the safest way of searching out what I want/need.

I guess the reason I thought I should post was that I've typically, in the past, stumbled onto things that I really liked sexually during marathon sessions of sex. But D/S lifestyles, from what I know, can't really be approached the same way.

Anyway, thank you very much for your input.