bisexual lifestyle

[japhy1000]

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[matterone]

Bi Lifestyle

I have been Bi since I was in my teens. My girlfriend, who became my first wife, knew about it and frequently participated. I have lots of stories to tell, all have been good and erotic.

 

[SweetErika]

i am a filmmaker from virginia, doing research for story lines dealing with bisexuality. I consider myself straight, but had several sexual encounters with boys when i was younger. Would like to talk with bi men and women and bi married couples.

This is a really broad topic. Are there certain aspects you're interested in, or do you have more specific questions? I'm just thinking it might be easier to respond if we had a little more direction.

 

[Samuelx]

I'm a single bisexual black guy. Why are you curious about our lives ? It's not easy being what we are. My family is not open-minded so I will probably never tell them. In fact, I want to get the hell away from them ASAP. There's a girl I loved but she didn't return my affections. There's a man I cared for but he ditched me like yesterday's news. There's a girl who appears to care about me but at the moment, I'm too screwed up mentally and emotionally to be with anyone. My father is depressed. He's a strong man overwhelmed by a hard life. My mother is a clever manipulator. My sister is a sociopath. My aunt is simply evil. My uncle is a passive-aggressive guy. I'm a college student, a writer and a newborn cynic. Oh, also an illegal immigrant from the Caribbean. Sounds like fun ?

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Well..I don't think all of us are like samuelX(omg you have reaaally BAD luck!),
but there is a certain difficulty in our lives.
For me it's always thinking about the moment I'll tell someone I'm bisexual.
There's always this small fear, even with the best of your friends, that they might not understand.Personally I told them and they reacted just fine(especially one that only said:"Oh, ok!" and then just continued to talk about different it happily ).
My parents..I don't 'know' my parents well enough to be sure about their reaction, but my mother seems too touchy on these things(always saying not to do gestures when talking and getting angry when me and my brother playing gay sometimes).My father is just quiet and I can never figure out what he feels.My bro found out the hard way(he saw a gay porn I downloaded and had it hidden in a folder of a game only I play), and was a bit cold at first but then he was ok.
That's about it all.
Oh, when I get into a relationship sometimes I act coldly thinking that I'm not being honest by not telling about my bisexuality.
A lot of self-pressure..

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

I'm a single bisexual black guy. Why are you curious about our lives ? It's not easy being what we are. My family is not open-minded so I will probably never tell them. In fact, I want to get the hell away from them ASAP. There's a girl I loved but she didn't return my affections. There's a man I cared for but he ditched me like yesterday's news. There's a girl who appears to care about me but at the moment, I'm too screwed up mentally and emotionally to be with anyone. My father is depressed. He's a strong man overwhelmed by a hard life. My mother is a clever manipulator. My sister is a sociopath. My aunt is simply evil. My uncle is a passive-aggressive guy. I'm a college student, a writer and a newborn cynic. Oh, also an illegal immigrant from the Caribbean. Sounds like fun ?

 

[japhy1000]

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[Samuelx]

When I was a kid, I can remember playing "kinky" games with boys and girls my own age. Just harmless experimenting. I remember being in the pool with a male friend and playing with him, yeah, like that. I can also remember doing the same thing with his sister in my bedroom. Talk about odd ! Funny how I blocked these things from my mind and basically FORGOT that I was NOT a virgin until I reached 18 and was suddenly "desperate to lose" what I had lost a LONG time ago !

 

[japhy1000]

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[Shankara20]

...What made you choose any or all of these lifestyles, after the inital bi encounter. Social, polical, economic, biological, etc forces in ones life.

I was a little over 45 when I told myself the truth to myself that I was bi and that living a het life was a lie. I simpley need male to male sex in my life. I was married to my second wife and two adult kids. After several years of struggle I finely admited that my marrage was over, for many reasons, and came out to my wife and kids. She and I worked very hard to desolve the marrage as best we could and are now good freinds. My sons are both fine with who I am. I still get turned on once in a while by some women, but I want my lovers to be men.

I don't am not sure I choose to be bi - it is more being bi choose me - what ever, I love being bi.

 

[Mari J]

...some go straight, bi or gay.

I don't think that's how it works. I believe the bisexuality stays, even if the person ends up with only one partner, or partners of one sex. A variety of desires, attractions, and thoughts can all be part of a person, even if that variety is wider than the variety of partners he or she ends up with.

 

[Shankara20]

I don't think that's how it works. I believe the bisexuality stays, even if the person ends up with only one partner, or partners of one sex. A variety of desires, attractions, and thoughts can all be part of a person, even if that variety is wider than the variety of partners he or she ends up with.

I think you have touched on one of the base problems some people have getting in relationships with us bisexuals. If one is concerned that a partner will stray, and your partner is bi, the fear of loosing that partner because you can not be both male and female can become a problem, even if those fears come out of your own internal makeup and not from your bi partners messing around. If you don't want an "open" relationship, how can you be secure your bi partner won't stray. I fully understand that more security in a relationship is in one's mind, but I think having a bisexual partner might present a consern.

 

[japhy1000]

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[Mari J]

I think you have touched on one of the base problems some people have getting in relationships with us bisexuals. If one is concerned that a partner will stray, and your partner is bi, the fear of loosing that partner because you can not be both male and female can become a problem, even if those fears come out of your own internal makeup and not from your bi partners messing around. If you don't want an "open" relationship, how can you be secure your bi partner won't stray. I fully understand that more security in a relationship is in one's mind, but I think having a bisexual partner might present a consern.

Though my husband and I have decided not to have an exclusive relationship, I know bi couples who have. For them, love is exclusive, which actually I find to be a beautiful thought. They simply aren't interested in other lovers, men or women.

Their bisexuality can still be part of their relationships, however. Bisexuality isn't just about the partners we choose, but the duality in ourselves. This can be played out through the variety of the couple's lovemaking, the range of roles they may take on, etc. I believe a person who loves a bisexual partner doesn't have to be worried, if this is the kind of relationship they agree on.

 

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[SweetErika]

I think you have touched on one of the base problems some people have getting in relationships with us bisexuals. If one is concerned that a partner will stray, and your partner is bi, the fear of loosing that partner because you can not be both male and female can become a problem, even if those fears come out of your own internal makeup and not from your bi partners messing around. If you don't want an "open" relationship, how can you be secure your bi partner won't stray. I fully understand that more security in a relationship is in one's mind, but I think having a bisexual partner might present a consern.

I think you just have to be secure in the relationship, period. I had my first real experienced and truly came out to myself and husband last year (though he knew I was curious, fairly certain, and looking years before we got married). Had he not given his blessing for me to try, I would have still had that desire, but I wouldn't have acted on it because I married him first and he understands my commitment is to him and our relationship. If he had said it was a one-time deal after I confirmed it, again, I would live monogamously without a problem. I say 'without a problem' meaning I would still be bi and want to act on my desires, just like I might want to have a relationship or sex with another man, but I wouldn't have a problem NOT acting on them . Our trust is in our own and each other's character and integrity, as well as the strength of our bond and relationship in general, which I don't believe is any different from any other couple. Oddly enough though, it's that same trust that has allowed us to be comfortable with opening the relationship/polyamory.