Bisexual Couples Thread #2

[WetDenise]

Just wondering if any of you could give me and my hubby a little advice (both of us are bi-curious):

How did/do you find couples to swing with?
How do you arrange your tryst?
How do you deal with emotional issues?

Any/all advice appreciated!
TIA!

 

[echo_magus]

My wife and I never had a problem finding friends who were MORE than willing to hop into bed with us. We both just flirted and let it be known, when the time seemed right, that we wanted to become more intimate, that we were honest about our desires, and that we would respect whatever degree of privacy was expected. We always brought only friends to bed - never utilized ads or clubs - but I do admit that finding couples where both spouses were bisexual was rarer than finding bi singles or bi spouses where the other partner wasn't clued in to the other's sexuality.

My advice (and it worked well, for us) is simply to allow your sexuality to become a part of your day-to-day experiences with friends (both old and new) to whom you're attracted: they'll understand that sexual honesty is part of your personality and either will or won't respond... when they do, it's like finding a new (and always unique) intimacy that you would never have experienced otherwise.

Our 'arrangements' would vary depending on the person or the circumstance. We usually had folks over and they arranged to spend the night (couples that we knew with children, obviously, had to make overnight plans for the kids). Although we were all together for SEX (ultimately!), we always had dinner, drinks, hot tubbing, etc., before the "moment" arrived (and you'll know the moment when it comes! And - with luck! - it won't be just one moment, but hours and hours on end!).

There may be emotional issues to deal with - that's why it was important to us that we were friends with the folks we fucked! Both of us were extremely honest with one another and with others and we were - extraordinarily, maybe - secure in our love for one another. Yes, we did love our friends and, at times, one of us would be more in love with one friend than another but never more in love with ANOTHER than EACH OTHER. We maintained a number of sexual relationships that lasted over a decade - dear, dear friends who have been my comfort after my wife was killed. I suppose that, maybe, jealousy can be a problem but it was never so for us. And we did have one friend (female) that finally decided that not being monogamous was just "wrong" and a couple of friends (male) who were so guilt-ridden at 'cheating' on their wives in honestly expressing their sexuality that they didn't last long (some, sadly, didn't last at all - being guilty of being who you are doesn't seem such a sin to me: I'd say the opposite is true!).

Good luck and good wishes! Being able to fully express your sexuality with the support of your spouse is an incredible thing that fulfills so much - the deepest love, the tenderest love - and can make even the strongest marriage stronger.

 

[ifitsfundoit]

Just wondering if any of you could give me and my hubby a little advice (both of us are bi-curious):

How did/do you find couples to swing with?
How do you arrange your tryst?
How do you deal with emotional issues?

Any/all advice appreciated!
TIA!

we were completely the opposite to " echo_magus". Rather than risk friendships with misunderstandings etc. we placed a couple of ads. On the net

Sure enough, we found a bi couple like ourselves and had a hoot.

 

[geishaGirl]

Just wondering if any of you could give me and my hubby a little advice (both of us are bi-curious):

How did/do you find couples to swing with?
How do you arrange your tryst?
How do you deal with emotional issues?

Any/all advice appreciated!
TIA!

My husband and I are both bisexual and we found a couple to play with who were friends of ours. My husband works with my now girlfriend and they just got talking one day....The four of us only played around together twice though as there were some issues that came up.

Giving each other massages is always a nice intro to lead into doing things sexually with other people, with some nice music in the background to get the mood going

To deal with any emotional issues you need to be able to communicate! Trust me, I am not perfect by any means, but even just between my husband and I we have had quite a few lengthy discussions on what different things mean to us. If you can all be honest and open and really work at that it's the best.

This is a current issue for me as I've recently had talks with both my husband and girlfriend about alot of issues I've had (am still working through it all too!) and it just proves it time and time again - communication is the key!!!!

Hope this has helped you in some small way......

 

[mystic_maiden32]

Communicate-and choose the couple or person you want to be with together. You can place ads also.

 

[fenderman68]

My wife and I have tried placing ads to find other couples to be friends with and hopefully play. We've had a few responses but everyone just wants to jump in the sack. We would rather be friends with the people we fuck first. It's getting rather frustrating.

 

[WetDenise]

Awww, Fenderman! Too bad we don't live in Canada. (Plus, my husband and I are sucker for a hot guitar lick!) Sounds just like what we're looking for. I wish you luck!

 

[sprfreak2002]

My wife and I have tried placing ads to find other couples to be friends with and hopefully play. We've had a few responses but everyone just wants to jump in the sack. We would rather be friends with the people we fuck first. It's getting rather frustrating.

in an ideal world my bf and i would love to cultivate a friendship first. however, being relatively new to the scene we have been guilty of the jump in the sack syndrome. partly out of excitment and i suppose partly out of fear of emotional attachments that may threaten either of us. hopefully, this will change over time as we continue our journey and learn more.

 

[mac_crazy]

www.baycouples.com is a pretty cool site, although I'm a single bi-guy, and have gotten no repsonses to my ad in the 2 months it's been up there. Maybe a couple would get better responses, as that's mainly what the site is for, swinging couples. Good luck! As echo said, it can be great when everyone involved is cool with it!

 

[T@nman]

You might want to take a look at www.bisexualplayground.com. They claim to have 76K+ like minded members. I've had some good contacts & experiences through this site.

 

[sdedalus]

Re: Re: Bisexual Couples Thread #2

My husband and I are both bisexual and we found a couple to play with who were friends of ours. My husband works with my now girlfriend and they just got talking one day....The four of us only played around together twice though as there were some issues that came up.

Giving each other massages is always a nice intro to lead into doing things sexually with other people, with some nice music in the background to get the mood going

To deal with any emotional issues you need to be able to communicate! Trust me, I am not perfect by any means, but even just between my husband and I we have had quite a few lengthy discussions on what different things mean to us. If you can all be honest and open and really work at that it's the best.

This is a current issue for me as I've recently had talks with both my husband and girlfriend about alot of issues I've had (am still working through it all too!) and it just proves it time and time again - communication is the key!!!!

Hope this has helped you in some small way......

Lucky!

 

[lovelylisa]

about everyone wanting to jump in the sack...

It's hard to find people who don't want to get to know each other & just go at it. My bf and I have been going around different web sites and posting ads and everyone we talk to seems to get really annoyed when want to slow down and actually talk to one another first.

One couple even went off on us and called us fakes because we suggested that it might be better for us to chat first before we meet up.

We're just trying to (as echo said) just live our lives openly and let people who we're interested in know about what we like. Honesty is always good . We want to expand our circle of friends who are open about their sexual lives and that we can sleep with if we'd like

Good luck with your search and if you're ever in NJ look us up!

 

[bi_m_4_cpls_630]

meeting folks

I think this thread is a good start.......I'm in Chicago

 

[John Doe]

I'm not coupled right now, but for what it's worth I'm in Tacoma, Washington.

 

[Joannac]

Re: about everyone wanting to jump in the sack...

It's hard to find people who don't want to get to know each other & just go at it. My bf and I have been going around different web sites and posting ads and everyone we talk to seems to get really annoyed when want to slow down and actually talk to one another first.

I so hate that..... people want immediate sex, and I want to at least to get to know them a little..... I've found that the ones who want speed it along are there for their sole satisfaction and have no interest in providing any mutually rewarding experience..... best to avoid....

 

[bi_m_4_cpls_630]

I'm not coupled right now, but for what it's worth I'm in Tacoma, Washington.

Well at lest the web brings us a little closer than what we would like to be.......would enjoy spending an evening talking with you.

 

[fenderman68]

I think I'd enjoy an evening talking to you all.