bigbritish' diary of adventure

[bigbritish]

i sorta got this idea because i like these forums (for the most part) and i'm a big fan of goal setting. i think it's going to be fun to jot down what i do. i can't say it's all about sex, but the focus is just on getting on there and meeting people. you know, all the things that sorta revolve around having a healthy sex life.

so think of it kind of like walking into the gym the first day, but probably a little more like those before/after pics where the person clearly has a body that isn't that far from being toned!

here goes:

background -- i'm a 26 male, white by british islander descent. i'm a software geek with pretty good career prospects. i used to be in the art side of software, but ive become more involved with writing more abstract software for information. its a little more boring but feels more like a career, so im at the point of treating it like a job and seeking to flesh out the other parts of my life.

lets see, i have had 1 SO relationship with the rest just what id call dating. i wasnt ready for marriage, though. sometimes i just want to own a yacht and yacht around and treat my partners more like a financial investment. sounds crazy, but when you work in technology, you get exposed to crazy possibilities and my parents got divorced and the stats these days make me inclined to try something new. when you get your heart broken bad, indulging in this type of idea becomes an option. my dream is to build my own house.

and today:

have just finished school (hopefully for the last time), so ive been hanging out at family. have an apt. in the city but ive tried to keep quiet outside so i can focus on my next move. i have jobs and all the typical stuff lined up, but right now im kinda getting to that typical point where i need to get around people my age. thought i would go hang out in the city and just walk around. ive found before walking around with an open mind is a great way to find new things. ill keep consistent with the spirit of this blog and say meeting lovely prospective ladies is part of the plan, but its really not; ill just keep my options open. we'll see how it goes!

 

[Handley_Page]

Welcome to the Hangout. If I may be so bold as to offer a thought?
I don't think you should treat it quite like a blog, though; the odd remark or particular item maybe, but not a diary/ blog.

 

[bigbritish]

Yea for sure, it should be only interesting tidbits that act like a story, always progressing in some direction

no "twitter-like" or facebook status messages here lol! needed some kind of starting point, however and i'll make up plenty of details to fill in the gaps

 

[chocolatecookie3]

i'm a 26 male, white by british islander descent.

Hello! Dumb American here. What is a white by British islander? Is that like you're from the Caribbean but white?

 

[sr71plt]

Hello! Dumb American here. What is a white by British islander? Is that like you're from the Caribbean but white?

I took it to be something like the Orkneys.

 

[bigbritish]

It is what you make of it...

Ok, so last night was nye. Pretty de facto night for hang and bang lol. I spent last nye watching lady gaga sing on tv which was totally lame and the nye before that at a suburban bar i frequented. i was sorta recollecting myself for those 2y with my school still in progress.

this year, i spent my night in the city. got my bottle of remy martin as a personal flask and set out. you sorta see a whole lot of things in the city, and theres so much more opportunity for interaction. i was scoping out where the cuties were basically clustered, but it seemed like there were lots of diff. groups walking in diff. directions. i went where i knew would have activity instead. i passed by a place or two i'd come back to, basically planning to start out furthest from home and work my way back. it sorta worked like that. the first place i stopped at was evidently a gay-ish bar lol. my martini came 'up' and there was live music downstairs. i went to check it out, the singer had a pink microphone lol. that place busted and i was still figuring out what to do, so i found the sweet spot where lines were wrapped around street corners. those places i learned were mostly prepaid tickets at $100. the doorman told me to drop by after 11 and i could probably get in without a ticket, but i didn't care to mess around -- i'd still probably have to fork over stupid amounts of money. i walked back to my neighborhood swigging the last of my flask. it's good to have these kinds of nights to yourself because a lot of people are so swirled up in the hassle of getting things 'right' with friends and whatever. there's lots of room for some really awesome p&q. i checked out a few of the places in my neighborhood that had lines and even though they were more reasonable at $45, i finally found a no-cover piano bar nearby. this means you walk in and everyone's got a beer on the piano singing and swaying drunken song. perfect place for new years eve to tick past 12!

i found my spot at the bar to order my drinks. i got into warm conversation with the people immediately around me and it was fun. to my right was an Indian or Middle Eastern couple with an Irish looking girlfriend. to my left were two African guys. i made fun of the Indian girl after she put her purse on the coat hanger below the bar where i was standing, she 'kept going down' to grab it. after she went 'down on me' a few times, i was kind of interested because my coat needed a rack too. the Irish girl started joking with me, 'put it on top'. i found the hook lol. the African guy next to me who was the younger of the two was on the hunt for women. he kept nudging me to talk to a cute blonde next to him. he said he had tried without luck and so it was my turn. she actually looked sad! she was alone, she had a ring of her finger, but it looked like it could be the kind of ring that meant she was alone or wanted to be alone. her stare was distant, and the few times i mentioned these things out loud, she'd look over like she knew we were talking about her. the response wasn't discomfort and so that meant all the more that she really needed it! the bartender was making her company, so that was good. i suppose i wasn't too interested to fill someone's misery for the evening, it was a night to celebrate after all.

new years came and went and i drank my champagne. i went outside for some air and found a guy and a girl smoking. the guy had an afro, so i had to touch it lol. we talked about california, it was cool. the girl was Chinese. at that moment, the Irish gal from inside and her friends came outside. i think during the countdown, i made a point to make sure she wasn't with the guy -- no she was single and about 15 years older than me. i thought about kissing her when the clock struck because why not? i'm sure she knew, but anyway there she was outside standing there with my coat and scarf! "hey, we're getting out of here and do you maybe want to come with us???" i said sure and walked with them about 40 ft before realizing that my tab was still opened. my hesitation probably killed the buzz, because i was pretty interested in getting my debit card. maybe i'd find them they said, so we said our happy new years and parted ways. back at the bar, everyone was working their way out, so it was time to kick the bucket. the two smokers laughed how she really had the kind of vibe, "we're getting out of here and you're coming with," and i shouldn't have worried about my card. the African fellow was again energetic, "MANNN that was your chanceeeee!" to me, it's just another night, and i enjoyed all of it. maybe next new years i'll have a 1-night fling to write about. i found a ritzy bar overlooking the water to have 1 last martini before crawling into bed for the night.

hello 2013.

 

[Tyro999]

It is what you make of it...

Ok, so last night was nye. Pretty de facto night for hang and bang lol. I spent last nye watching lady gaga sing on tv which was totally lame and the nye before that at a suburban bar i frequented. i was sorta recollecting myself for those 2y with my school still in progress...

[Snip rest]

What I made of it was that my first impression of your OP [along with Handley-Page], to put you on my ignore posts list, was correct.

Welcome to my ignore posts list.

 

[bigbritish]

if i sorta 'get' what's being said, you'd rather see the odd question based on real events and not just a dump of events

whoever "you" are might not also be a person that would ever be interested in a person like "me"s life anyhow, so is there a middle line?

 

[TxRad]

if i sorta 'get' what's being said, you'd rather see the odd question based on real events and not just a dump of events

whoever "you" are might not also be a person that would ever be interested in a person like "me"s life anyhow, so is there a middle line?

A couple of things:

Don't use text speak, this is the Author's Hangout after all.

Second, cut the paragraphs back to no more than 8 lines. Otherwise the reader is presented with a wall of text.

What you use your thread for is you business.

Some people might not like it but then again, you can't always please everyone.

Welcome to the madhouse.

 

[Handley_Page]

if i sorta 'get' what's being said, you'd rather see the odd question based on real events and not just a dump of events

whoever "you" are might not also be a person that would ever be interested in a person like "me"s life anyhow, so is there a middle line?

I commend to your consideration the use of capital letters and all the punctuation you can. It really does make something easier to read.
I have to admire your ability to write that much without a decent keyboard, though.

 

[bigbritish]

Had a really awesome day. Am happy.

Overcame fear about reaching out. Felt forgiveness.

Romance? I think that was the point. Not much to report. It shouldn't be a report, though. That doesn't feel right.

Just because a girl has big boobs and a big butt doesn't mean she wants to talk to you. Why do girls with stomach pouches wear tight dresses or is that just girls that drink too much and hang out at bars?

We meet people every day. How many people of your past can you go digging through that will want to sleep with you?

Are one night stands one night stands? Can persistence overcome? Should we sleep with people we know we really probably don't want to be with? Should a guy ask before he cums on a girl? Is it kind of like kissing? You can ask before kissing and it's polite.

If someone is younger than you, is ok for your to use your wisdom to your advantage or do you act their age?

Ladies in groups are impossible. One friend texted me, "I'm tired, why am I going out?" A perfectly nice conversation and connection fell victim to the Ladies Group this way. Why am I bad at getting phone numbers? Why do women like to buy me drinks? Meals? Why does this seem to quickly flip-flop if I stick around?

Urban women used to scare me. It sounded like I needed a job that put me in a suit and gave me smooth skills that I just don't have. Now I get it, I can be a schlub and that's ok because good men are hard to find. I'm not a very good schlub, but what about the country? I think I want to go line dancing!

 

[NekoParks]

Hi BigBritish!

I read a few of your entries. Since you are young, why not just live more in the moment and stop over thinking everything? Fill yourself up with all of sensual delights that you can--not just sexual but the entire feast of life. I recommend that you read Hemmingway's A Moveable Feast. Real life can be so delicious if you will relax and allow yourself to explore the realm of the senses. Also, remember that some of the most interesting women are not in bars and pubs. Try expanding the places that you go, so that you are meeting women in a variety of venues. Take care. Neko

 

[DeeZire]

I would encourage you to limit your posts to 50 words max. Go to the "How To" section for tips on that, and search for Ogg's work in the Stories section. He's a master at that format. Words can be powerful, or they can be boring. Becoming a writer is the process of transforming the latter into the former.

Another approach: instead of talking about what you did, talk about what other people did, either as a result of your actions, or simply as an observation. If you could get outside of yourself, the reader might be more interested in what you have to say. Plus it's good practice for story-writing. I realize this might take you away from the "diary" format, but are diaries meant to be read by strangers on a forum? I don't think so, unless the diary-writer is a famous person with interesting adventures to impart and deep insights to reveal. The exception might be Lisa Carver's diary, which used to run once a week on the Nerve website. Last time I checked they'd been taken down, but that was some masterful writing, comprised of some really interesting (and twisted) sexual adventures and truly funny and hair-raising situations.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Lisa-Diaries-Carver-Company/dp/1892723166

(Seriously, don't pay any attention to me. I'm a pedestrian writer, but I have a lot of free time, an internet connection, and I know how to type. )