Bicurious, unsure of how to proceed

[Tiiz]

To keep things short and sweet, I've just recently started to fantasize about sex with men. I've gone as far as to use a dildo on myself while masturbating, and the whole experience is fantastic. However, once I cum, immediately my mind returns to heterosexual thoughts. I'm not ashamed of getting off to M/M sex, but I find myself instantaneously uninterested [in M/M sex] once I cum. Obviously, this could be problematic during actual sex, which I would like to try. I have my doubts about whether or not I should find someone to live out some of my fantasies with, or if I should stick to merely thinking / masturbating to them. Due to the aforementioned reasons, I'm worried finding a partner might be a bad idea.

Anyone with experience in the matter, or any generally helpful / insightful opinion is appreciated.

Thanks in advance

 

[tinylittlegnat]

To keep things short and sweet, I've just recently started to fantasize about sex with men. I've gone as far as to use a dildo on myself while masturbating, and the whole experience is fantastic. However, once I cum, immediately my mind returns to heterosexual thoughts. I'm not ashamed of getting off to M/M sex, but I find myself instantaneously uninterested [in M/M sex] once I cum. Obviously, this could be problematic during actual sex, which I would like to try. I have my doubts about whether or not I should find someone to live out some of my fantasies with, or if I should stick to merely thinking / masturbating to them. Due to the aforementioned reasons, I'm worried finding a partner might be a bad idea.

Anyone with experience in the matter, or any generally helpful / insightful opinion is appreciated.

Thanks in advance

Try having sex with a woman wearing a strap on and see if its the sensation of getting your ass fucked you like or if its something else.

 

[emap]

Oh my god, gnat boy had a good idea.

Anyway basically what he said, get with a woman hand her a strap on and tell her to make you her bitch. If you think about sex with men while horny and even fuck yourself with a dildo, your not actually bi, you just let your mind wander and heck you probably haven't had sex in a while.

 

[yr_sissy_toy]

Just a personal data point, but: I really loved the first few sexual encounters I had with men, until I came. Then I realized, omg, I'm with a dude and proceeded to get all squicked out. But thoughts about guys kept popping up, and more frequently, and while I was with women. As I spent more time with guys, and especially after I started focusing as much on making out and foreplay as I did on sexin', I got more comfortable being with them after I came.

A big part of it, for me at least, was just breaking out of my Catholic-school, taboo mindset.

Also, I haven' experienced it firsthand, but taking a strapon from a woman is straight sex, and isn't going to tell you anything about how you feel about being with a dude after you come. You'll never know until you try it!

 

[yr_sissy_toy]

Oh also, be sure to find a dude you think is cute before the sexing -- if you're just hooking uo with him because he happened to be the first cock available, it feels a lot squickier.

 

[jeff68]

Just a personal data point, but: I really loved the first few sexual encounters I had with men, until I came. Then I realized, omg, I'm with a dude and proceeded to get all squicked out. But thoughts about guys kept popping up, and more frequently, and while I was with women. As I spent more time with guys, and especially after I started focusing as much on making out and foreplay as I did on sexin', I got more comfortable being with them after I came.

A big part of it, for me at least, was just breaking out of my Catholic-school, taboo mindset.

Also, I haven' experienced it firsthand, but taking a strapon from a woman is straight sex, and isn't going to tell you anything about how you feel about being with a dude after you come. You'll never know until you try it!

Well put, sounds alot like me.

It is, for me at least, a huge difference in strapon play and a little guy fun.

Besides it has often been said just because someone enjoys a strapon on or anal play that does not make them bi!!

 

[ficklefun]

To keep things short and sweet, I've just recently started to fantasize about sex with men. I've gone as far as to use a dildo on myself while masturbating, and the whole experience is fantastic. However, once I cum, immediately my mind returns to heterosexual thoughts. I'm not ashamed of getting off to M/M sex, but I find myself instantaneously uninterested [in M/M sex] once I cum. Obviously, this could be problematic during actual sex, which I would like to try. I have my doubts about whether or not I should find someone to live out some of my fantasies with, or if I should stick to merely thinking / masturbating to them. Due to the aforementioned reasons, I'm worried finding a partner might be a bad idea.

Anyone with experience in the matter, or any generally helpful / insightful opinion is appreciated.

Thanks in advance

I have found that when I don't have sex for a while, maybe a week or so, I get these incredible fantasies involving guys/TS/couples etc. But as soon as I get some, the fantasies fade, only to return the next time the gets her period.

 

[prostatecurious]

You probably just like to have your prostate stimulated. Your not necessarily gay. Maybe you should have a woman do you with a dildo! You might enjoy that. I'd suggest self experiment more first. Then you'll know what works for you.