Bi or Bi Curious?

[Hitchiker69]

The question I have is, do you still call yourself bi curious if you have played around with a couple of guys? Or do you base it on what you did with those couple of guys? My experience has been a little kissing, sucking and being sucked, and my ass fingered. Also all of this has been during mmf. I have yet to play with a guy one on one, but I am will and wanting too.

Thanks

For me I didn't consider myself bi when I let guys suck on me or even when I fucked them. Perhaps because I was being used and they were playing the feminine role. I was just supplying the hard cock they needed. But once I got curious enough to play with their cocks it felt good enough to compel me to continue, and my curiosity drove me to try sucking. Then one thing led to another and before you know it I was taking a hard cock up my ass while we French kissed, and loving it. Then I knew I was bi, because I knew I could enjoy having sex with a man as much as with a woman. I'd made a conscious decision to seek out a man for sex. And I would seek men almost as often as I would seek women.

 

[TryGuy35]

very sage words, it make me want to really encourage him more because I am sure he want to explore. He will make comments at dinner or at some night about a guy like.. does he turn you on , or , he looks like he would be a good friend! I have asked him about some guys ,Do you think he is handsome? or I bet he would be fun in our hot tub.

All I heard was hot tub lol

 

[tristantrotsky]

For me I didn't consider myself bi when I let guys suck on me or even when I fucked them. Perhaps because I was being used and they were playing the feminine role. I was just supplying the hard cock they needed. But once I got curious enough to play with their cocks it felt good enough to compel me to continue, and my curiosity drove me to try sucking. Then one thing led to another and before you know it I was taking a hard cock up my ass while we French kissed, and loving it. Then I knew I was bi, because I knew I could enjoy having sex with a man as much as with a woman. And I would seek men almost as often as I would seek women

Such a satisfying realisation.
I'm also well beyond the 'curious' stage, and enjoy oral sex on a non-binary basis, both sucking cock and licking pussy depending on my partner or partners...

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I’m bi curious and have had my prostate massaged and I regularly love tasting my own cum.

Mmmmmmm

 

[jchtlit]

I think terminology is up to interpretation. To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

As opposed to bi-sexual which I think of as more of a romantic sexuality and harbor romantic attraction to both men and women.

I find your comments putting in words how I feel very timely and needed.

 

[CaptainCuriousJoe]

Does it make you curious?

I say to my wife that I’m bi but technically I haven’t actually done anything with a real cock I don’t know. But I’m dying to find out.

 

[Jeph77]

I say to my wife that I’m bi but technically I haven’t actually done anything with a real cock I don’t know. But I’m dying to find out.

Somebody's in for a treat.

 

[CaptainCuriousJoe]

Somebody's in for a treat.

Promise Jeph?

 

[Jeph77]

Promise Jeph?

Probably a treat for both. Newbies are hot.

 

[dingdongditchding]

The question I have is, do you still call yourself bi curious if you have played around with a couple of guys? Or do you base it on what you did with those couple of guys? My experience has been a little kissing, sucking and being sucked, and my ass fingered. Also all of this has been during mmf. I have yet to play with a guy one on one, but I am will and wanting too.

Thanks

you are what you say you are. I consider myself bi due to sucking cock and enjoying giving pleasure to a MAN. I also love pussy. I have mostly been with women.

 

[dingdongditchding]

Definitely in the bi curious category. Unfortunately

I wish we were closer!!!

 

[dingdongditchding]

I'm not certain that you can help him determine if he's bi. Whether or not he's bi isn't determined by what he likes to do, it's determined by who he likes to do them with. It's a determination he's going to have to make for himself. Lots of guys like sharing those experiences with their spouse and that doesn't mean they're bisexual.

You can help him by being willing to do the things he likes and maybe he will decide that it's you he wants to do them with. If he decides he still wants to be doing those things with a guy (and you) then at least he (and you) know and you can govern your lives accordingly.

invite a guy you find hot to bed with you and your husband, enjoy the fun you both will have.

 

[CharlotteNCguy]

I think terminology is up to interpretation. To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

As opposed to bi-sexual which I think of as more of a romantic sexuality and harbor romantic attraction to both men and women.

I pretty much agree with this. I also don't like getting hung up on terminology like "Bi"

 

[CaptainCuriousJoe]

very sage words, it make me want to really encourage him more because I am sure he want to explore. He will make comments at dinner or at some night about a guy like.. does he turn you on , or , he looks like he would be a good friend! I have asked him about some guys ,Do you think he is handsome? or I bet he would be fun in our hot tub.

I want to hear some updates on this! Any progress?

 

[jchtlit]

I think terminology is up to interpretation. To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

As opposed to bi-sexual which I think of as more of a romantic sexuality and harbor romantic attraction to both men and women.

Prefer your definition.

It fits my sexuality.

 

[RipleNStllWtr]

Bi-curious until that day I am just bi. But until then. Will never know if that itch gets cured, but will keep my fingers crossed

 

[dingdongditchding]

I say to my wife that I’m bi but technically I haven’t actually done anything with a real cock I don’t know. But I’m dying to find out.

what did she say

 

[CaptainCuriousJoe]

what did she say

She ordered a strap on and a dildo and told me to get on my knees and suck her cock. I need practice if I’m gonna suck the real thing.

 

[JudyCD]

I’m curious for more.

 

[BillyWalrus]

I’m curious for more.

More of ? Or just more in general.

 

[CaptainCuriousJoe]

Aren’t we all Judy

Message me!

 

[JudyCD]

More of ? Or just more in general.

Well….I’ve never had two at the same time.

 

[jchtlit]

I call myself bisexual.

I have never been with a guy, and likely never will. Yet I am bisexual as much as my friend who at the time was virgin called himself heterosexual. He was not hetero-curious just because he has not slept with someone…

Bisexuality comes in many forms… one can be sexually attracted to men, women and/or other genders but only romantically attracted to women…

In my opinion, one as a man could play once with another man and find out it is not what they want… that does not make them homosexual or bisexual…

At the end, I think sexual orientation is a personal call. If you play with same gender people but you do not feel you are bisexual, so be it… although in my humble opinion I would question if it is not a case of bi-erasure, fear of accepting oneself, or biphobia… but figuring that out is a personal quest each of us should walk…

In 1991, the magazine “Anything that walks” posted the bisexual manifesto:

"We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.

Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.

Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don't assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone's sexuality, including your own."

Anything That Moves, inaugural edition, Winter 1991, p. 3


If you do not know if you should call yourself heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, asexual or something else, then I think you should either embrace yourself with no tags and enjoy what you enjoy, or if you feel you need a tag, read about the different sexual orientations and then based on your feelings and experiences, apply a tag to yourself.

Tags are useful to find comunity, to find information and for research purposes. But tags by themselves are at best insufficient to describe the sexual identity of a particular individual.

Very well put! Agree with you 100%, labels often are not as encompassing as we think.

 

[CharlotteNCguy]

Well….I’ve never had two at the same time.

I volunteer to be one... who else wants to help Judy suck two at a time??

 

[klippert]

I'm long past curious ...