bi, making love or having sex?

[johnsto12]

Do those of you that are bi consider your sexual encounters making love, or just plain fucking?

I ask because recently I have been fucking a older friend that I met at work. He's about 15 years older than me, and he's been fucking me for a little over a month now. This is different than my last experience because our sex is much softer, more like making love. I'm not interested in him emotionally, but the sex is very satisfying this way. I usually ride him sitting straight up, our hands together in the air, bracing me as I go up and down. We usually move into the bathroom and I ride him on the toilet. This puts me in a great position to shove my tongue in his mouth- just taking a breath so I can tell him how good his cock feels in my little asshole. Anyone else have a bi experience like this that differs from your others?

 

[Cro Cyber Cat]

Although I am bi and having lot of sex with women, I dont think I could fall in love with any. I am very much in love with my husband and making love to other people just improves our sexual life...... maybe it is harsh to say but others are more like objects to us (though I really like some of out lovers).
So I would say for me it is just plain fucking, it was never something else when it comes to sex. Friendship is different.

 

[fallon2]

I once told

a female friend of mine years ago that if she continue to have sex with women that it was NOT making love but having sex. If you decide to move in with them than it is making love.

 

[Cro Cyber Cat]

I could move in and live with a friend...... I did that as a girl, me and my friend were not in any sexual relationship but we organized nice life together. And I loved her very much, but that kind of love is totally different.
Emotions are the thing that makes difference between having sex and making love. Though I could love my girl-friend dearly it is very different from the feelins I had for men in my life.

 

[anne27]

Do those of you that are bi consider your sexual encounters making love, or just plain fucking?

Since my bi experiences are limited in number, I am soo far from an expert it's embarassing. I've only had sex with female friends and there was no real emotional involvement there, just lust. I have had emotional involvement with women, but sex wasn't a consideration then.
I would love to have emotional attachment and sex with a woman. To me, 'making love' is more soul satisifying that 'just plain fucking'.

 

[SweetErika]

Like Anne, I'll preface this with the disclaimer that I'm inexperienced...I think it completely depends on the woman and the relationship we have. Ideally, I'd like to have a very close female friend who shares in expressing our connection and love for eachother physically. However, I don't think it would be the same kind of relationship and expression that my husband and I share. Overall, I like it when sex is a physical expression of emotion. Nevertheless, with my husband or women, a lust-driven, passionate fuck is wonderful sometimes.

 

[John Doe]

I don't think of it as either/or. I consider myself bi because I find men and women physically attractive (certain ones anyway ), but I don't rule out a romantic connection.

 

[johnsto12]

I don't feel a romantic connection, but the "style" of the sex we had is a slower, softer sex-if you get what I mean.

 

[Netzach]

I think for men it's more challenging to slowly and softly be sensuous.

I think for women it's more challenging to have passionate thrusting hard, hot nearly anonymous wild monkey fucking.

we're not brought up to do these things.

Yeah, I was in love with a woman once, and sex was not just a test to see what it was like, or a way to get off, or a nice romp, it was very emotional.

I've been there with three men in my life. I find the gender doesn't really enter into it that much.

 

[Evaleastaristev]

For me, I'd have to say that it depends on the style. and the person. Not anything to do with gender at all.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Do those of you that are bi consider your sexual encounters making love, or just plain fucking?

Anyone else have a bi experience like this that differs from your others?

Normally I don't consider sex to be one or the other, it just is. I am happily in love with a beautiful grrl right now. I consider all that we do a prelude to love making:whether that be a hair pulling ass slapping riding or a long slow grinding, it's still love making with her.

Usually, my encounters are only with those I have feelings for. I have no use for the act of fucking if there is not an emotional attachment, period.

(That includes guys and girls)

 

[sweetnpetite]

Do those of you that are bi consider your sexual encounters making love, or just plain fucking?

I would think it would depend on the encounter, not your sexual orientation.

I don't think anyone else can tell you weather or not *you* were 'making love.' That's really something only you can decide.

To say you can't 'make love' to someone of the same sex, is a bit like saying you can't orgasm with someone of the same sex. No one can make that determination but you and your partner.

 

[mystic_maiden32]

I make love to my husband-I fuck other people.

 

[geishaGirl]

For me, I have to have some sort of "emotion" there no matter whether I am making love or having sex/fucking. This goes for either sex, though I'd have to say I haven't had enough experience to say that I've "made love" with a woman. I did find it more sensual but I think that's the whole female element.

 

[geishaGirl]

Just another thing to add:

the emotional side of things as in having feelings for the people I have sexual experiences with other than my husband...I love my girlfriend. There is not as much "depth" to this love as there is with my husband but I do believe that it would be possible to share a different bond with a woman to that which my husband and I share. This is largely due to the fact that my husband and I have a history of events and feelings that led to creating and keeping this bond...and because of that the same bond will never take place with another person.

 

[Pookie]

Sex and love are two completely different things to me. If I have sex with someone I'm in love with, then I'm expressing my love with him/her through the sex we're having. Otherwise, I'm just having sex for the fun of it. Sex with someone I'm in love with is going to be more intimately expressed in many ways though.

 

[EveryReady]

Bi sex for me is just about kinky dirty fucking