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I fantasize about having sex with another woman, but I have no idea how to go about meeting someone. I'm married but this would be just for me -- hubby need not know. All suggestions are welcome!
Brian4ever
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You know,I think you should atleast tell your
husband.As a man, I would be more willing and
take it better if I where told up front.
But I don't think it's fair to ask him to allow this
unless you are willing to allow him to possibly
have sex with someone else also.It goes both
ways.
You can easily meet women are bars and stuff.I'm
sure it's not very hard to meet lesbians.
husband.As a man, I would be more willing and
take it better if I where told up front.
But I don't think it's fair to ask him to allow this
unless you are willing to allow him to possibly
have sex with someone else also.It goes both
ways.
You can easily meet women are bars and stuff.I'm
sure it's not very hard to meet lesbians.
artful
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Bi Curious
You have made a great first step in satisfying your curiosity by posting your request for advice here in literotica,it might me useful to post your request in a couple of other forums that would have subscibers with like minded interests,one suggestion would be the lit masturbation club.Hope to see you there.
You have made a great first step in satisfying your curiosity by posting your request for advice here in literotica,it might me useful to post your request in a couple of other forums that would have subscibers with like minded interests,one suggestion would be the lit masturbation club.Hope to see you there.
MissTaken
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Yes. Posting here is a great idea. I agree that at some point, you should share you desires with your husband. He may even welcome the idea!
Exploring on line is a nice safe way to determine your limits. There are many bi women on line who will chat with you and discuss the issue. You may find that certain things make you uncomfortable and then, others, make you hot.
Good Luck and Take care
Exploring on line is a nice safe way to determine your limits. There are many bi women on line who will chat with you and discuss the issue. You may find that certain things make you uncomfortable and then, others, make you hot.
Good Luck and Take care
Violette
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So you are curious...
At the risk of being blunt, exactly how curious are you? Are you interested in the intimacy involved, or do you want just a one-time experience?
It's best to know how you want to proceed before you proposition someone with more experience. That way, you won't get taken advantage of, and you'll truly enjoy yourself.
So, how and when will your adventure begin? Details, please!
At the risk of being blunt, exactly how curious are you? Are you interested in the intimacy involved, or do you want just a one-time experience?
It's best to know how you want to proceed before you proposition someone with more experience. That way, you won't get taken advantage of, and you'll truly enjoy yourself.
So, how and when will your adventure begin? Details, please!
Dynamite
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The question...
would he be mad if you had sex w/ another man? If the answer is yes, then you better tell him. It may constitute as an affair in his eyes. Then again he might enjoy knowing you were "hey diddle diddling" w/ another woman.
If it were me? I'd tell him of the fantasy and desire and go from there. He might have someone in mind for you.
would he be mad if you had sex w/ another man? If the answer is yes, then you better tell him. It may constitute as an affair in his eyes. Then again he might enjoy knowing you were "hey diddle diddling" w/ another woman.
If it were me? I'd tell him of the fantasy and desire and go from there. He might have someone in mind for you.
alltherage
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As with most things in life it is important to know what you want and what your boundries are. I am a bi-female. I learned the hard way that being bi can cause great turmoil in relationships. Jealousy is a powerful emotion and it is unpredictable. Secrets are also deadly. Be sure what you want. Learning on-line about yourself is a great think. I wonder though. If your husband knew you were actively seeking an answer to the question you posed would he be upset. If the answer is yes and you care about how he feels you owe it to both of you to be honest with him. If however, you feel the need to keep your desires secret from him you are in a very different position. One likely to produce pain for someone. Ask yourself if you curiousity is worth that. If the answer is yes then full speed ahead and damn the consequences.
Unregistered, if you are still out there, I would personally avoid using the "Personals" here at Lit. I used it when I first came here, and am still in touch with some of the people I met, but overall it is not really a good place to meet people, if that is what you seriously desire.
There are many other places you can go to find people (women) who are actively seeking and want the same experience. One that I have found is Adult Friend Finder. It is free to join, and there are thousands of people listed in every state, plus around the world. Using a service like this will reap much better results than here at Lit.
Best of luck to you, though!
There are many other places you can go to find people (women) who are actively seeking and want the same experience. One that I have found is Adult Friend Finder. It is free to join, and there are thousands of people listed in every state, plus around the world. Using a service like this will reap much better results than here at Lit.
Best of luck to you, though!
SilverVeil
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Is this something you have even discussed with your husband at all ?
Or are you not interested in finding out if he would like to share the exprience with you ?
My opinion ( and yes I know .... everyone has one and this is just MY opinion )
is that no matter what gender you are having the sex with .... if you are attached to someone in a serious relationship (g/f b/f fiance/fiancee husband wife, lover... what have you ) and you have sex with someone outside that relationship without the partner knowing about it, then you are cheating on their trust in you.
I would find out how receptive he would be to the idea before doing anything. You might be surprised at his reaction.
Or this may be something you want only for yourself.
I would suggest thinking how you would feel if you found out your hubby was having sex with another man without you knowing before hand.
Also, there are the feelings of the intended new partner to consider. Is this going to be a one time thing ? If not then you have to think of how they are going to deal with the fact you are married.
Having a fling outside any relationship is like sailing in icy waters. There are hidden things lurking below the surface. It is never an easy thing to deceive one you love. People get hurt. Sometimes way beyond repair.
Consider carefully all your options and the consequences. If you were single or your husband was going to be knowing and approving, then I would say " go for it !!! "
There are many places to get in contact with bisexual or lesbian women. Many adult sites have personals and also some local newspapers do personal ads for same sex genders looking for partners.
Either way.... Good Luck and I hope your fantasy is all you desire of it if it happens.
Or are you not interested in finding out if he would like to share the exprience with you ?
My opinion ( and yes I know .... everyone has one and this is just MY opinion )
is that no matter what gender you are having the sex with .... if you are attached to someone in a serious relationship (g/f b/f fiance/fiancee husband wife, lover... what have you ) and you have sex with someone outside that relationship without the partner knowing about it, then you are cheating on their trust in you.
I would find out how receptive he would be to the idea before doing anything. You might be surprised at his reaction.
Or this may be something you want only for yourself.
I would suggest thinking how you would feel if you found out your hubby was having sex with another man without you knowing before hand.
Also, there are the feelings of the intended new partner to consider. Is this going to be a one time thing ? If not then you have to think of how they are going to deal with the fact you are married.
Having a fling outside any relationship is like sailing in icy waters. There are hidden things lurking below the surface. It is never an easy thing to deceive one you love. People get hurt. Sometimes way beyond repair.
Consider carefully all your options and the consequences. If you were single or your husband was going to be knowing and approving, then I would say " go for it !!! "
There are many places to get in contact with bisexual or lesbian women. Many adult sites have personals and also some local newspapers do personal ads for same sex genders looking for partners.
Either way.... Good Luck and I hope your fantasy is all you desire of it if it happens.
I've said it before and i'll say it again. If there's one thing i can't stand, it's being unfaithful to someone. Seeing another woman is THE EXACT SAME THING as cheating on your husband with another man. Would you care if he was banging other girls? If not, then you MUST talk to him about it. Let him know. If he has full knowledge of it that's one thing, but to go behind his back and in essence cheat on him, is a horrible and truly dispicable thing to do. Props to Silver Veil for thinking the same thing.
Talk to Him!
As a Married Bi woman who has never not told a partner of my sexuality long before we had sex I can say that He needs to be told of your feelings before you go any farther. As a Dr. I would say this should be something you should not feel ashaimed to discuss with the one you love.My Husband and I have shared a wonderful relationship with a few other women and a few of their Husbands as well. I am Bi he is Str8. My best advice would be not to deny your natural instinct to want the love and afection of the same sex!
Candy
As a Married Bi woman who has never not told a partner of my sexuality long before we had sex I can say that He needs to be told of your feelings before you go any farther. As a Dr. I would say this should be something you should not feel ashaimed to discuss with the one you love.My Husband and I have shared a wonderful relationship with a few other women and a few of their Husbands as well. I am Bi he is Str8. My best advice would be not to deny your natural instinct to want the love and afection of the same sex!
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Once my wife discussed it with me, it took a couple weeks. but now I am trying to help her with her desire. Try sexyads.net
original cindy
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Definately talk to your husband you may be surprised by his response. I talked to my husband about my desires after ten years and was shocked that he would be more than comfortable with it. He jokingly says " Well, I don't have to worry about you being with another man."
