Bi-curious? In the closet? Unsure…

[Thwiq1]

I’m a married male, only been with women. I still find women sexy and desirable, and I can still perform with my wife. But when I’m alone, all I think of is men and cock. I’ve almost exclusively jerked to gay fantasies and gay porn for years now. I never feel more alive and sexual than when I’m able to embrace this side of me. I’ve struggled at times trying to understand if I’m bi-curious, bi, or maybe one male sexual experience away from coming out of the closet. Ultimately I guess it doesn’t matter, I’m comfortable with my desires. But just curious to hear from anyone with similar feelings or insight. Cheers

 

[Wag_that_tail86]

I’m a married male, only been with women. I still find women sexy and desirable, and I can still perform with my wife. But when I’m alone, all I think of is men and cock. I’ve almost exclusively jerked to gay fantasies and gay porn for years now. I never feel more alive and sexual than when I’m able to embrace this side of me. I’ve struggled at times trying to understand if I’m bi-curious, bi, or maybe one male sexual experience away from coming out of the closet. Ultimately I guess it doesn’t matter, I’m comfortable with my desires. But just curious to hear from anyone with similar feelings or insight. Cheers

My experience is similar, I fully accept that I'm bi-curious but always hesitate saying I'm bisexual with no real experience. I fantasize about changing that, but like you I'm comfortable with my sexuality. We have to be honest with ourselves about who we are.

 

[load69]

I am bicurious too but hope to call myself bisexual some day Any volunteers to help me get there?

 

[saintcero]

No longer curious as I have been a sex partner with three men now. (I am ignoring happy endings from masseurs for this count). Definitely in the closet as my wife must never know. I am eager to enjoy more M2M but hate cheating on my wife.

 

[Justcurious777]

I am bicurious too but hope to call myself bisexual some day Any volunteers to help me get there?

Wrong continent sadly

 

[Thwiq1]

No longer curious as I have been a sex partner with three men now. (I am ignoring happy endings from masseurs for this count). Definitely in the closet as my wife must never know. I am eager to enjoy more M2M but hate cheating on my wife.

Wow, lucky for you to have had sex partners. Good job keeping things on the down low. How amazing was your first time?

 

[beckiefalwell]

No bi curious women here?

 

[pleasuremodeloneten]

I’m a married male, only been with women. I still find women sexy and desirable, and I can still perform with my wife. But when I’m alone, all I think of is men and cock. I’ve almost exclusively jerked to gay fantasies and gay porn for years now. I never feel more alive and sexual than when I’m able to embrace this side of me. I’ve struggled at times trying to understand if I’m bi-curious, bi, or maybe one male sexual experience away from coming out of the closet. Ultimately I guess it doesn’t matter, I’m comfortable with my desires. But just curious to hear from anyone with similar feelings or insight. Cheers

I’m a bi guy, just hit the big 60, and for the past seven years I have enjoyed the occasional male male liason. I find it interesting that I enjoy being the same easygoing dominant guy with men as I do with women. Some guys seem to enjoy being alpha in public and with women, but love being submissive with another guy…

All things sexual fascinate me.
When you fantasize about a gay encounter, what role are you in, or is it just hot sweaty sex with cocks and cum flying everywhere…

 

[pleasuremodeloneten]

No bi curious women here?

A gay friend of mine used to work as a bartender in the Atlanta area long ago, and she told me that she hooked up with so many straight but curious women in those years. A few drinks can really lower inhibitions and allow the lust beast in us to rise to the surface.
I wonder what percentage of those curious women sought a second experience….

 

[Bisexguy70]

I was curious for years. At the age of 46 I finally got the nerve and met a guy for nsa oral. After that encounter I turned fully bi. I still find woman attractive and lust after pussy and females. But all my real encounters are with other men. Honestly I prefer the sexual gratification with men. I enjoy sensual and intimate contact with men. Cock has turned me more Gay than straight. But as I get older ill take what i can get. Often my fantasies are leaning toward gay sex.

 

[Thwiq1]

I’m a bi guy, just hit the big 60, and for the past seven years I have enjoyed the occasional male male liason. I find it interesting that I enjoy being the same easygoing dominant guy with men as I do with women. Some guys seem to enjoy being alpha in public and with women, but love being submissive with another guy…

All things sexual fascinate me.
When you fantasize about a gay encounter, what role are you in, or is it just hot sweaty sex with cocks and cum flying everywhere…

I’m 52 myself. That’s hot that you’ve been able to have some male encounters. I’m always submissive in my fantasies. After years of being dominant with women, I want to be on the receiving end of sex. But I don’t fantasize about quickie encounters. I think about being seduced slowly, meeting, flirting, foreplay, all of the fun leading up to sex as much as sex itself. I like the idea of having a secret boyfriend, someone I feel comfortable with. Kissing and body contact before and after sex if very much a turn on. Feel free to pm me if you’d like to talk further.

 

[Bi_Guy50]

I’m a married male, only been with women. I still find women sexy and desirable, and I can still perform with my wife. But when I’m alone, all I think of is men and cock. I’ve almost exclusively jerked to gay fantasies and gay porn for years now. I never feel more alive and sexual than when I’m able to embrace this side of me. I’ve struggled at times trying to understand if I’m bi-curious, bi, or maybe one male sexual experience away from coming out of the closet. Ultimately I guess it doesn’t matter, I’m comfortable with my desires. But just curious to hear from anyone with similar feelings or insight. Cheers

It was mentioned to me once that that guys in our era were brought up thinking that getting together with the same sex was a big taboo and that thought stayed with us. As we get older and see how society has changed and things are more wide open, we find that those bi desires aren't really all that bad. It really can be an exciting feeling having the opportunity to explore that part of us even if there hasn't been any actual experiences... yet.
Looking at the responses here and other threads, there seem to be plenty of guys and gals in the same boat.

 

[JusticeGrey]

I am bicurious too but hope to call myself bisexual some day Any volunteers to help me get there?

I'd love to help you out of your panties and into being fully bisexual!

 

[easyoff]

I'd love to help you out of your panties and into being fully bisexual!

I'll slip on some panties for you if you want.

 

[write_or_wrong]

I’m a married male, only been with women. I still find women sexy and desirable, and I can still perform with my wife. But when I’m alone, all I think of is men and cock. I’ve almost exclusively jerked to gay fantasies and gay porn for years now. I never feel more alive and sexual than when I’m able to embrace this side of me. I’ve struggled at times trying to understand if I’m bi-curious, bi, or maybe one male sexual experience away from coming out of the closet. Ultimately I guess it doesn’t matter, I’m comfortable with my desires. But just curious to hear from anyone with similar feelings or insight. Cheers

OP: When you say "I’ve struggled at times trying to understand if I’m bi-curious, bi, or maybe ... (gay)" it makes me wonder if you are too focused on labels. It's a common trap because most labels are ambiguous, interpreted by observers - not by you. Instead, just think about what you know you like to do, what you would like to try, and what you have already tried and found out you didn't like. For example: I love vaginal sex with a woman, I tried anal sex with a woman and a man but I didn't like it, and I'd like to try sucking a cock. No ambiguity there, all you need is to find the right guy for "the experiment."

 

[load69]

I'd love to help you out of your panties and into being fully bisexual!

Let me know when and where

 

[dodgeboy2]

I’m a married male, only been with women. I still find women sexy and desirable, and I can still perform with my wife. But when I’m alone, all I think of is men and cock. I’ve almost exclusively jerked to gay fantasies and gay porn for years now. I never feel more alive and sexual than when I’m able to embrace this side of me. I’ve struggled at times trying to understand if I’m bi-curious, bi, or maybe one male sexual experience away from coming out of the closet. Ultimately I guess it doesn’t matter, I’m comfortable with my desires. But just curious to hear from anyone with similar feelings or insight. Cheers

I agree with some of these answers I have seen, I at one time thought I was gay, why only because my only partners in my earlier years until I was 21 was with guys, I was infatuated with guys with cocks dangling and had been with a bunch one being longer term for a bit more than a year and the others either hit and run or only for a short term. Somewhere between 21-22 I started dating girls and found I did really like that also, being the 1970's it was easy to lean straight and marry my wife but I consider myself a bit more bi than anything else but honestly does it matter.

If you feel the need to be with a guy don't do it unless you want to lose your wife cause that could happen. If you are a person that could live with yourself should your cheat and not tell I wish you luck but things you do can sometimes bite you in the ass, just saying. If think she might be open have a talk with her and hope for the best maybe she will turn you loose as long as it is only with men and done safely.

I know for me with my wife of 40years being a very strict Southern Baptist it is something I would never bring up as I know she would never forgive me for not telling her even though before we married she told me she didn't want to know anything about my sexual past and I knew she had none as she was a 19yo virgin when we married.

 

[IKEA_Boy701]

I’m a married male, only been with women. I still find women sexy and desirable, and I can still perform with my wife. But when I’m alone, all I think of is men and cock. I’ve almost exclusively jerked to gay fantasies and gay porn for years now. I never feel more alive and sexual than when I’m able to embrace this side of me. I’ve struggled at times trying to understand if I’m bi-curious, bi, or maybe one male sexual experience away from coming out of the closet. Ultimately I guess it doesn’t matter, I’m comfortable with my desires. But just curious to hear from anyone with similar feelings or insight. Cheers

Greetings!
I am a bi-male with a healthy sex life with my wife.
But I often reflect on the male-on-male dalliances I had in my youth.
And I get so hard and cum so much when I think about those times.
Or when I fantasize about having those kinds of experiences again.

 

[dodgeboy2]

Greetings!
I am a bi-male with a healthy sex life with my wife.
But I often reflect on the male-on-male dalliances I had in my youth.
And I get so hard and cum so much when I think about those times.
Or when I fantasize about having those kinds of experiences again.

God your life parallels my own.

I also am a bi-male with a healthy sex life with wife.
I very often reflect on my male-on-male encounters I had in my youth remembering each so vividly like it just happened yesterday.
I also get so hard and turned on from thinking of them I must relieve myself sometimes multiple times for satisfaction.

 

[IKEA_Boy701]

God your life parallels my own.

I also am a bi-male with a healthy sex life with wife.
I very often reflect on my male-on-male encounters I had in my youth remembering each so vividly like it just happened yesterday.
I also get so hard and turned on from thinking of them I must relieve myself sometimes multiple times for satisfaction.

You should message me some time.

 

[XXVIII]

I’m a married male, only been with women. I still find women sexy and desirable, and I can still perform with my wife. But when I’m alone, all I think of is men and cock. I’ve almost exclusively jerked to gay fantasies and gay porn for years now. I never feel more alive and sexual than when I’m able to embrace this side of me. I’ve struggled at times trying to understand if I’m bi-curious, bi, or maybe one male sexual experience away from coming out of the closet. Ultimately I guess it doesn’t matter, I’m comfortable with my desires. But just curious to hear from anyone with similar feelings or insight. Cheers

I'm a married male too. Love my wife completely and our sex life is fantastic. She knows I'm bi curious and loves to mix in some raunchy talk when we're in bed.
I can happily embrace my bi curiosity and really appreciate my wife being so open minded and understanding. In fact, she's admitted to being bi curious too.

 

[Starwars_nerd]

I’m also bi curious and eager to learn

 

[Amore69]

So interesting that many of us are of the same era ,I wonder if it is due to the negative stigma that was attached to gay lifestyles in the 70s and a fear of letting our elders down ?

 

[NEOhio1972]

So interesting that many of us are of the same era ,I wonder if it is due to the negative stigma that was attached to gay lifestyles in the 70s and a fear of letting our elders down ?

More than we already have!?!! Or just the interference with our "other lives" and not wanting to mess that up while secretly enjoying the wild secret pleasure of a good hard cum with someone who enjoys it as much as you!! How about that??

 

[Bi_Guy50]

So interesting that many of us are of the same era ,I wonder if it is due to the negative stigma that was attached to gay lifestyles in the 70s and a fear of letting our elders down ?

For those who haven't that that step towards an experience, that has probably been a huge reason