Bi-curious hesitation

[Greatwanni]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

 

[tallguy78]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

Just my opinion, but part of exploration, totally natural.

 

[Pagirl2play2]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

Not that i know first hand, I don’t. But i think you're extremely normal being driven by your hormones. Try it once. Be selective...set your limits. If you like it....awesome. The biggest hurdle is dealing with your personal wrestling match

 

[stargame]

Just my opinion, but part of exploration, totally natural.

Very natural, but I am not struggling anymore. I realize I am more female than Male.

 

[Sweepup50]

Been there

I was bi curious and would fantasise about sucking a cock and watch a few videos of men doing just that and I would end up masturbating and once I had come, I would think exactly as you did and wonder what the hell I was thinking. But days later I would once again think about sucking cock and sometimes more. The chance arose to suck a cock for real and I took that chance and ever since I have enjoyed the feel of having a cock in my mouth and swallowing the persons cum and it doesn’t bother me anymore because I enjoy doing it. I’m married so it’s a secret side of me but given the opportunity to suck cock again I would not hesitate. So yes, being curious is not that unusual and not something one should feel guilty about, just try it and if you don’t like it at least you tried, it is better to regret doing it than regret ever trying it.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

What's "wrong" with you is the same thing that afflicts every one here at this place,
you are human.

 

[meme62626]

Plus I think it's part of our programming while growing up to not want that type of sex. So we get that internal struggle with what we've been told is acceptable for a man. I think the sexual urges are more natural and the denying of them is more unnatural. You're not alone in how you feel about it. I go through the same thing.

 

[nassauguy_2001]

I was bi curious and would fantasise about sucking a cock and watch a few videos of men doing just that and I would end up masturbating and once I had come, I would think exactly as you did and wonder what the hell I was thinking. But days later I would once again think about sucking cock and sometimes more. The chance arose to suck a cock for real and I took that chance and ever since I have enjoyed the feel of having a cock in my mouth and swallowing the persons cum and it doesn’t bother me anymore because I enjoy doing it. I’m married so it’s a secret side of me but given the opportunity to suck cock again I would not hesitate. So yes, being curious is not that unusual and not something one should feel guilty about, just try it and if you don’t like it at least you tried, it is better to regret doing it than regret ever trying it.

Ditto here, great reply!

 

[sweettalk4u]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

And try it more than once. The first time can be a very nervous experience for you. Get to know him first too. Meet and be comfortable with him. Chat with several guys. When guys hear you are a first timer they will line up!

 

[Man4Strapon]

A lot of great points made here (well done, everyone!).
It is perfectly natural to have hesitations when you want something that society or your specific upbringing may have suggested is wrong.
You cannot prevent your urges and desires but you feel conflicted about them. Please don't.
If you enjoy gay porn, then enjoy it. If you want to make fantasy a reality then once you're ready to take the plunge, then do what makes you happy.

 

[bicuriousnc]

Same here

And try it more than once. The first time can be a very nervous experience for you. Get to know him first too. Meet and be comfortable with him. Chat with several guys. When guys hear you are a first timer they will line up!

This is so true. I was curious on and off like you for a long LONG time. Never had the stones to go through with it until I found the right guy / situation. And even then (because we were both newbies I think) the first time was very awkward... 2nd (and 3rd etc) times were mind-blowing though

PM if ya ever want to chat more. Go for it and Good luck!

 

[jackbird]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

Yea went though the same thing but finely said to my self try it if I don't like it don't do it again but I did love it whats not to love.

 

[Seafoamzone]

everyone is different, but what you are feeling is probably very common.
you only live once, go have some fun

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Obsessed

I must be. I had a very vivid dream just before I woke up. I was in a lift and a man about my age got in. As soon as I saw him, I somehow knew he was bi. We smiled at each other, but didn't speak, until we got to the lobby. Then we just nodded at each other and he said, "My hotel is nearby". We fell into step and I felt my cock harden. After a few minutes, he said, "Here's my room key. Let yourself in, I'll be there in a few minutes. Please don't start without me".
I did as he said, got undressed and into bed. My cock was very hard but I kept my hands away from it. Then, the door opened and in walked a woman in her late sixties. Obviously the man's wife. Was this planned? Was it to be a threesome?
Then I woke up, with a raging hard on

 

[purplepantiesgirl]

I must be. I had a very vivid dream just before I woke up. I was in a lift and a man about my age got in. As soon as I saw him, I somehow knew he was bi. We smiled at each other, but didn't speak, until we got to the lobby. Then we just nodded at each other and he said, "My hotel is nearby". We fell into step and I felt my cock harden. After a few minutes, he said, "Here's my room key. Let yourself in, I'll be there in a few minutes. Please don't start without me".
I did as he said, got undressed and into bed. My cock was very hard but I kept my hands away from it. Then, the door opened and in walked a woman in her late sixties. Obviously the man's wife. Was this planned? Was it to be a threesome?
Then I woke up, with a raging hard on

Great story. I’ll probably steal that.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Feel free.

Just make sure that I get to share the guy's cock with his wife and then she guides his cock into my arse and sucks my cock while he fucks me. OK?

 

[mtsnowrider]

Don't know if it's "normal" but I feel like this pretty much every day

 

[tonycurinmass]

Don't know if it's "normal" but I feel like this pretty much every day

Same here. When alone, which is not very often, I break out the dildos and suck and ride them like I'm making a gay porn. But after I cum I sometimes think 'What the hell am I doing!' and I don't think about cock at all for a few days. Then the urge comes back and the cycle repeats.

 

[J1biboi]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

I can assure you that you are not alone. I have felt this way my whole life. The urges to suck cock come and go, sometimes lasting only a few days and sometimes lasting for months, sometimes really strong and sometimes not so much. But they never have totally went away.

 

[minn]

Been there also!

I was bi curious and would fantasise about sucking a cock and watch a few videos of men doing just that and I would end up masturbating and once I had come, I would think exactly as you did and wonder what the hell I was thinking. But days later I would once again think about sucking cock and sometimes more. The chance arose to suck a cock for real and I took that chance and ever since I have enjoyed the feel of having a cock in my mouth and swallowing the persons cum and it doesn’t bother me anymore because I enjoy doing it. I’m married so it’s a secret side of me but given the opportunity to suck cock again I would not hesitate. So yes, being curious is not that unusual and not something one should feel guilty about, just try it and if you don’t like it at least you tried, it is better to regret doing it than regret ever trying it.

Sounds exactly like me! I had the right opportunity a few years back; am married; and, given the right opportunity I would not hesitate. The experience is something one can't really enjoy until they do it! I think about it all the time and I am more turned on and masturbate to male porn than female porn. Unfortunately I haven't found the right connection mainly because I don't put myself in that position. #1 on my own secret bucket list is to find a male friend in a similar situation and enjoy our fantacies and pleasure together.

 

[sweettalk4u]

Sounds exactly like me! I had the right opportunity a few years back; am married; and, given the right opportunity I would not hesitate. The experience is something one can't really enjoy until they do it! I think about it all the time and I am more turned on and masturbate to male porn than female porn. Unfortunately I haven't found the right connection mainly because I don't put myself in that position. #1 on my own secret bucket list is to find a male friend in a similar situation and enjoy our fantacies and pleasure together.

You should put up a profile on fetlife.com
It’s free and there is probably a group of kinky people near you

 

[yukonnights]

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

I think it's safe to say; You're conflicted. What does this arise from? I guess there's two obvious paths forward. One is to just jump in with both feet and find someone to try it with in one of those times you're really wanting it. The other option is to try to figure out where the conflict comes from.

The first way might be quicker...the phrase; quick and dirty comes to mind.

But based on your post, you seem like a thoughtful man. A man who really wants to know the answers and understand. The second path forward is to treat this like a research project. Try to identify what precisely is it that turns you off to the idea of being bisexual and acting on it. Is it guilt of cheating on a partner...or religious taboos...maybe it's just years of hearing how wrong it is until deep down you believe this is true.

Regardless of what you pinpoint as the major reason for your hesitation, my default recommendation is to research the facts.

I like medical facts because they clearly support human sexual diversity. As always the internet is your friend (and sometimes crazy uncle.)

Religious issues can range in difficulty depending on so many factors—but, there are answers to be found and many LGBTQ religious groups have risen up to help answer these questions. I've heard of a USA based Gay Christian organization that's been around for years. They have legitimate counter arguments in regard to this issue.

Regarding keeping things hidden from a partner. This is a personal choice, but if you find this is the issue that is causing the conflict, I would heed the warning. Either talk it out, or forget it. It's hard for me to imagine how sneaking around on this will make you feel better. Just leave it as a sometimes kinky fantasy, watch some porn and get back to your life.

The point here is; If you accept that you're conflicted, find out why. Until you do this you will remain conflicted even if you do go out and give it a try. The only difference is, you will probably add guilt/shame/regret to the package.

Whatever you choose to do, by now you must know you're not alone. There are probably millions of both men and women who struggle with this every day. This alone adds support to the argument that human sexuality is very diverse. And you are also just human. Hope maybe some of this helps.

 

[fitandfresh]

Yep

I am bi-curious and I was wondering something if anyone else had gone/is going through this. There will be times when I am really curious, like, I am ready to do it at this very moment. It's all I can fantasize about and something I really want. Other times I will be almost like, 'dude, what the hell were you thinking?' And then be turned off it for some time before I go back to really wanting it again. Has anybody gone through this, or is going through something like this, and how did you get through it? Is this normal? For me it's just really confusing. How can I go from really wanting something, to thinking what the hell is wrong with me? Thanks.

Know that feeling now retired and more time to peruse the sites and think about it.......would love to try it......at least once lol......or perhaps a bit more.

 

[Easyvirtue]

I was and acted on it once. Now that I did I wish I could again. It’s becoming an obsession but being married I’m thinking my opportunities are few and maybe unrealistic. Oh well.

 

[sandles_nosocks]

Same here. Tried oral once I was really nervous so I want to try again.

I was and acted on it once. Now that I did I wish I could again. It’s becoming an obsession but being married I’m thinking my opportunities are few and maybe unrealistic. Oh well.