Beware!"I hate men" rant .. enclosed...

[Aphrodisiac]

So yesterday my man called & he said that he really liked the email I had just sent him ... he said he liked the picture I had enclosed ... he made some remark & some how I told him that , that picture I had send him I was using as an av in a site I liked to go chat and stuff.

Well there is sudden silence over the phone, he asked if I was joking with him and I said that I was not joking. I went on and asked him if he thought the picture was dirty or in any way bad. He said that the picture was nice but that I should not be showing myself off like that to others and that I had hurt his feelings ... he said that he saw me as " sweet and innocent " and that I had disappointed him and that he now saw me in a different light.

I just hung up with him and then I began to cry , he had hurt my feelings by saying he now saw me in a different light, but then after I stopped crying I became angry... how dare he judge me.


Ack ! I am just pissed off.... *sigh*

Just wanted to get that off my mind.....

 

[Guest]

Well, tough shit for him that he has to find out you are mult-faceted. Fucking men.

 

[PepperminTrish]

Awww, I don't know what to say to make you feel better but I'd give you a big hug if I could Hon.

 

[Tantanah]

I'm sorry you're going through this. Maybe you guys could do more talking and come to some understanding.

~hug~

 

[Guest]

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

I think he suffers from the "slut in the bedroom...saint in public" syndrome. It's his loss, not yours. At least you found this out now.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I am doing okay ... not crying any more.

Rather I am pissed at him for saying I had " disappointed" him.

He is no angel ... far from it.

I guess I was just taken by surprise by what he said... I am okay ... thank you all....

 

[Guest]

I wouldn't say "Screw you, loser," just yet. You may just need to talk a little. If you can get him to talk.

 

[Guest]

Rather I am pissed at him for saying I had " disappointed" him.

Well, really that's just bad word choice there. He was probably more surprised than truly dissapointed.

 

[April]

It probably just took him by surprise. Give him some time and he'll probably get over it. But he really needs to apologize for saying you disappointed him. That was callous.

I'm sure it's for the best that he sees the whole person that you are, instead of some idealized version that isn't the truth.

I hope things work out well for you.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I know we will be talking later on ... right now I just don't want to deal with him.

But, I was surprised by his choice of words... and another thing as for the picture ... it was some thing very simple and its not like it was my whole naked body... I thought my av was very tasteful... but I guess he did not see it that way.

 

[Guest]

I know we will be talking later on ... right now I just don't want to deal with him.

But, I was surprised by his choice of words... and another thing as for the picture ... it was some thing very simple and its not like it was my whole naked body... I thought my av was very tasteful... but I guess he did not see it that way.

Men just don't know how to communicate honey. You can't let the poor moron upset you too badly.

 

[Nora]

Stoopid men. Your av was beautiful. He has NO right to dictate what you do. NONE. He can ask, but if he can't give you a good enough reason to see things his way, then do it your own. He can be disappointed 'til the cows come home, but that doesn't give him a right to dictate to you.

As for his bs "i'm disappointed" crap, I agree with April. He wants you to be what he thinks you are instead of what you are in fact.

 

[Lancecastor]

you shouldnt have to hide a damn thing from any one.

Therein lies the rub. She did hide something from him.

The issue is not the picture...it's the "secret".

I'll invoice you later;

Lance

 

[bknight2602]

Stoopid men. Your av was beautiful. He has NO right to dictate what you do. NONE. He can ask, but if he can't give you a good enough reason to see things his way, then do it your own. He can be disappointed 'til the cows come home, but that doesn't give him a right to dictate to you.

As for his bs "i'm disappointed" crap, I agree with April. He wants you to be what he thinks you are instead of what you are in fact.

Well stated and I totally agree, better find out what the boundaries are before walking down the aisle! Sorry for the trouble, but maybe it is a blessing in disguise.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Men are idiots...find one who's idiocy you can stand

 

[metalpalace]

i think your pic is mega gorgeous. He should be happy. I dont know what to say for him though except maybe he tried to peg you down to a T before he really put fourth the time and effort to really get to know you first. I dont know. Thank you for sharing your pic with us though, i love it.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Men just don't know how to communicate honey. You can't let the poor moron upset you too badly.

I am not going to lie I was upset .. but then like I said " anger " kicked in .... so I am no longer upset... rather I am finding his stance on my pic. amusing.


Nora,

Stoopid men. Your av was beautiful. He has NO right to dictate what you do.

I totally agree ... stupid man ! .... Gracias chica'....

metalpalace,

i think your pic is mega gorgeous.

Thank you .. and I hope you don't think this av is me ... I had another av... maybe you did not see it....

 

[sufisaint]

Why should you express yourself in front ofothers hurt his feeling? I think its called jealousy and possesiveness...not hurt feelings...and the dissapointed comment was a cheap shot...just my opinion..

 

[Silverlily]

men are a dime a dozen

With inflation, it's more like 7 cents.

 

[JazzManJim]

I"ll vote for poor choice of words. Where his dissapointment may have lain is in your posting the av without letting him know that you were. Sure, you're your own person and you can do as you like but....well....if some day my girlfriend posts a picture of her lucious boobies, I would be infinitely happier if she were to let me know. At least at that point I could let her know of any misgivings.

Some guys get twitchy when the women they love and adore post naked bits of themselves for everyone to see. I know my reaction at finding out well after the fact would not have been very easygoing. I wouldn't have been horribly enraged, but I would have been disappointed that you didn't tell me sooner about it.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

With inflation, it's more like 7 cents.

snicker

 

[Guest]

With inflation, it's more like 7 cents.

34 cents in Canada.

 

[JazzManJim]

men are a dime a dozen

save yourself for some one who loves you for who you are, kinky chat preferences included. you shouldnt have to hide a damn thing from any one, and if he has a problem with it, then that's his problem not yours.

Yeah, exactly!

God knows you wouldn't want to have to actually compromise in a relationship.

Hon, give it time and when you've both simmered down a bit, y'all can talk about it. From everything you've told me about how you are with each other and about how well he treats you and how much you absolutely dig each other, it's worth waiting a little bit and working out. He seems, from you're telling, a good man.

 

[Bogey77]

Wow

There is a lot of anger on this thread.