Betrayal

[Fir]

No Betrayal

this post was to prove something. It has been taken off because it did what it was intended to do. prove something to me. I am not mad. I love the right person. I trust the right person. We will just have to get to know each others sensitive spots better.

 

[CutieMouse]

this post was to prove something. It has been taken off because it did what it was intended to do. prove something to me. I am not mad. I love the right person. I trust the right person. We will just have to get to know each others sensitive spots better.

I must say that having read the original post (what a jumble of an unhealthy relationship that sounded like...)

May I politely state that

THE LITEROTICA BDSM FORUM IS NOT A PLACE FOR TWO INDIVIDUALS TO SETTLE THEIR PERSONAL DIFFERENCES.

I wasted 10 minutes trying to understand that blathering diatribe, thinking it was someone who was sincerely seeking advice, only to discover it was someone's idea of a head game, to continue their unhealthy whatever-the-hell it is "relationship".

Christ on a swizzle stick.

*wanders off very annoyed and aggrivated*

 

[Fir]

I must say that having read the original post (what a jumble of an unhealthy relationship that sounded like...)

May I politely state that

THE LITEROTICA BDSM FORUM IS NOT A PLACE FOR TWO INDIVIDUALS TO SETTLE THEIR PERSONAL DIFFERENCES.

I wasted 10 minutes trying to understand that blathering diatribe, thinking it was someone who was sincerely seeking advice, only to discover it was someone's idea of a head game, to continue their unhealthy whatever-the-hell it is "relationship".

Christ on a swizzle stick.

*wanders off very annoyed and aggrivated*

It was most certainly no head game. I was no game at all
You can be annoyed and aggravated all you like
Me, I live again.

 

[kajiraahava]

this post was to prove something. It has been taken off because it did what it was intended to do. prove something to me. I am not mad. I love the right person. I trust the right person. We will just have to get to know each others sensitive spots better.

Providing you spoke the truth in your original post, my answer to you would certainly be YES you are mad. I took the time to read your "flurry of emotion" word for word.

Should you refer to sensitive spots as "online infidelity", (there are many threads on LDRs) I would pose one question to you. If there was such online infidelity, perhaps leading to real life meetings, how do you suppose that anything would be different in your future life together?

I am not placing blame, you know the saying, "It takes two to tango." You were perhaps using this forum to vent your feelings and now feel better? I suggest you tango right off the dance floor without this cyber-love.

OH AND CUTIEMOUSE: I love it! Your response was fabulous and made me feel much better. I was beginning to think I WAS mad for reading it!!!

 

[L_homme]

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[CutieMouse]

It was most certainly no head game. I was no game at all
You can be annoyed and aggravated all you like
Me, I live again.

My point is, that by splurging your rant on a public forum, asking for opinions, then editing the post to remove it because you decided whatever it is you decided, leaves the strong impression (in my mind, at least), that your only purpose was to use the BDSM forum to settle some personal issue/dispute. I find it aggrivating, at best, to discover my time has been wasted.

To *me* such actions are similar to dragging the public into your scene, without consent.

Your initial post read as a plea for help and advice- which people on the BDSM forum, I'm sure, would be happy to give. However, it appears you weren't really seeking advice, or input, or anything else that involved anyone other that the person you are in a relationship with. Or not in a relationship with. Or whatever. Blogs and email are good for dealing with such things; in my opinion, a public forum- especially one in which you have not been a contributing member- isn't.

I do apologize if I came across harshly. I am sure you are a lovely person, and I hope you stick around and contribute to the BDSM forums.

 

[L_homme]

I don't know what the original post was all about CutieMouse. Perhaps Fir had a genuine issue?

 

[CutieMouse]

I don't know what the original post was all about CutieMouse. Perhaps Fir had a genuine issue?

Quite possible. The origional post read as such, otherwise I'd have skimmed it and moved on.

As it is, I've wasted far too much time here.

 

[L_homme]

Quite possible. The origional post read as such, otherwise I'd have skimmed it and moved on.

As it is, I've wasted far too much time here.

OK, sorry. I only saw the thread title and was interested so I read it briefly. I suppose what people write about is what they want to write about. Waste of time or not, it's normally about emotion.

 

[O'Mac]

Cutie, you rule.

 

[Fir]

apology

I think I do owe you people an apology. There was of course a very stong personal reason to that post. There was a lot of anger in that post to. There definitely was a cry for help in that post.

But you were right to in the fact that it was aimed to cause pain. And you are right that this should have been private. I can only say at that time for me there was no other option. If I have offended I apologise. If I have hurt peoples feelings and sensibilities I apologise even more. That was not the intention.

That post could have been on for days. That post could have been on forever.
Was this the wrong place to put it? Not to me. This was the only possible place. The fact that it came off so very quickly was because an acceptable answer was given almost immediately and that was happenstance.

And I can assure all the offended that if I ever came to the like situation again I won't use this place again. Because then I would know the answer.

 

[satin_coals]

wtf did this post say then, eh?

*nosey little wench*

 

[M's girl]

I think I do owe you people an apology. There was of course a very stong personal reason to that post. There was a lot of anger in that post to. There definitely was a cry for help in that post.

But you were right to in the fact that it was aimed to cause pain. And you are right that this should have been private. I can only say at that time for me there was no other option. If I have offended I apologise. If I have hurt peoples feelings and sensibilities I apologise even more. That was not the intention.

That post could have been on for days. That post could have been on forever.
Was this the wrong place to put it? Not to me. This was the only possible place. The fact that it came off so very quickly was because an acceptable answer was given almost immediately and that was happenstance.

And I can assure all the offended that if I ever came to the like situation again I won't use this place again. Because then I would know the answer.

I don't come here often enough to lay out the rules, so to speak, but I wanted to say this.

In my opinion it's not even a bad thing to post something with the intention to show something to someone. I'm pretty sure this board, and others, are 'used' for that more often than we think/know maybe. The good thing about boards/forums like this one is also that, by stating your question and recieving answers and opinions, your situation can become a useful source of information for people who are trying to figure out similar situations.

Erasing the original post makes the whole thread worthless in that sense, while (although not of interest to YOU anymore) it could have served many others well.

So it was selfish and you obviously don't understand the dynamics of forums like this one. But you apologized already, so I will leave it at that.

Just had to cough up my two cents, I guess...

 

[Ebonyfire]

Damned Straight!

Cutie you called it!

Eb

 

[A Desert Rose]

This is another thread that I hope catalina moves to the cafe.

So far, I see no educational service it provides, short of showing people they should read the forum rules before posting. But God, what a concept... reading before typing a personal axe-grinding on the talk board?

That's just too much to ask of anyone.

 

[Ebonyfire]

This is another thread that I hope catalina moves to the cafe.

So far, I see no educational service it provides, short of showing people they should read the forum rules before posting. But God, what a concept... reading before typing a personal axe-grinding on the talk board?

That's just too much to ask of anyone.

And then editing the whole thing to remove it.

 

[A Desert Rose]

And then editing the whole thing to remove it.

Yea, that was a really keen thing to do, wasn't it?

 

[bronntanas]

I actually read the original post, (just wasn't in a typing mood; it's amazing how many letters that we need are on the left hand!). It looked like either a private spat "leaking" onto the forums (where it had no business being) or a cry for attention, and when the attention the OP got wasn't the positive attention (oh you poor dear, have some tea and sympathy) they pulled it.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I actually read the original post, (just wasn't in a typing mood; it's amazing how many letters that we need are on the left hand!). It looked like either a private spat "leaking" onto the forums (where it had no business being) or a cry for attention, and when the attention the OP got wasn't the positive attention (oh you poor dear, have some tea and sympathy) they pulled it.

YEAAAAAAAAAAAAA... Bronn is back!!!!

God I missed you, dolly. Did snowy tell you?

 

[BloodFluke]

THE LITEROTICA BDSM FORUM IS NOT A PLACE FOR TWO INDIVIDUALS TO SETTLE THEIR PERSONAL DIFFERENCES.

Sure it is. Don't listen to her. Air the cyber dirty laundry in the cyber dirty air.

 

[bronntanas]

YEAAAAAAAAAAAAA... Bronn is back!!!!

God I missed you, dolly. Did snowy tell you?

She did! I missed you to, dear sweet Rose!

 

[A Desert Rose]

She did! I missed you to, dear sweet Rose!

Hey, read my sig line doll... I'm not sweet. I'm the dark soul now.




And oh so happy to see you back here. Hope your fingers are mending up real fast!!!

 

[bronntanas]

You, the Dark Side? Izzat a light sa- er, oh nevvermind. The truly sad is that it's my wanking hand. My other hand just doesn't know me so well. They ought to mend up well, but if I make any glaring typos, please forgive me. I only have 8 fingers right now.

 

[A Desert Rose]

You, the Dark Side? Izzat a light sa- er, oh nevvermind. The truly sad is that it's my wanking hand. My other hand just doesn't know me so well. They ought to mend up well, but if I make any glaring typos, please forgive me. I only have 8 fingers right now.

LMAO... 'my other hand doesn't know me so well'. You so funny, doll.

There's nothing about you that will ever need forgiving.

 

[D's mariposa]

The truly sad is that it's my wanking hand. My other hand just doesn't know me so well.

The Domly One says "by the time he heals up, it will!"

I have a question for you, dear. Did you howl at the moon with Morgaine before or after you broke your fingers? I'm just wondering if the painkillers had anything to do with it?