Best left unsaid

[hotwords229_A]

We can all agree that open communication in a relationship is best for everyone. That said, some things are best left unsaid.

This thread is all about those tiny little omissions in a relationship that you have decided your partner maybe doesn’t need to know about your past.

For example:

You were crowned 2007’s Ms. Bukake of Intercourse, Pennsylvania.
You took it in the ass a LOT in prison and pretended it was just for the cigarettes.
You have/had an Onlyfans page and that’s how you paid for that zippy little car of yours.
You were a male stripper and got tons of blowjobs from Brides-to-be at bachelorette parties.
You did a small amount of porn during college.
You did a small amount of porn last week.

These are examples of some things you may be hesitant to share with your partner. Or maybe you aren’t.

When is it appropriate to bring these things (and others) up during a relationship?
What are you keeping from your relationship?
What did your partner share with you that maybe you wish they hadn’t?

Feel free to take this in any direction you would like.

 

[bashfull]

Interesting thread. I've omitted Lit.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Interesting thread. I've omitted Lit.

This is probably a very common thing among many of us for a variety of reasons.
In some ways, it covers a lot of topics—Litlationships, DIY porn, sharing nudes with strangers, same sex experimentation, secret desires and “perversions”, etc.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I would share my Lit stuff. Seems like we could just cut to the chase!

 

[bashfull]

This is probably a very common thing among many of us for a variety of reasons.
In some ways, it covers a lot of topics—Litlationships, DIY porn, sharing nudes with strangers, same sex experimentation, secret desires and “perversions”, etc.

Yes. And I long for a relationship where I could share Lit. And have full disclosure with each other. I came close once but really glad I didn't. I did have a real life relationship for awhile with someone from here but it was the wrong time for one or both us. Besides, she has since gone from being sub to Dom! We are still friends tho.

 

[Noor]

Yes. And I long for a relationship where I could share Lit. And have full disclosure with each other. I came close once but really glad I didn't. I did have a real life relationship for awhile with someone from here but it was the wrong time for one or both us. Besides, she has since gone from being sub to Dom! We are still friends tho.

I haven’t had a relationship since I’ve been on lit where I haven’t disclosed it plus several of my friends know and are sometimes on lit. It does make life much easier.

 

[Noor]

I guess I usually don’t mention any dangling relationships.

 

[StillRain]

I am pretty open with my current partner. I have been far less so with other partners. I don’t feel I have a need to protect him from me or my history.

 

[dkak001]

My partner knows everything about me. (Except for that one thing... ). I wouldn't have it any other way.

Lit: Yes, she knows I'm here. I tell her about PM conversations with friends here, etc. We read the stories together in bed (the kinkier the better!).

 

[morelikeasong]

My partner doesn’t know that a lot of the kinky stuff I’ve suggested isn’t new to me like it is to him

 

[Apisto42]

That while I was sitting in that meeting, I was thinking about throat fucking the woman across the table. Probably better not to mention to anyone.

 

[Hollybushes]

Everything I do on here

 

[hotwords229_A]

That while I was sitting in that meeting, I was thinking about throat fucking the woman across the table. Probably better not to mention to anyone.

Unless she works in H.R. and likes it. Then you’re in the clear!

 

[MindYaBitness]

Everything I do on here

And, I'd add the Lit peripheral things like chat apps, etc

 

[Boonerboy]

Oh man, I can't think of anything good I keep from my current partner, we text each other anything "new" we come across, to see if we want to try it.

I think it's important to have these conversations early on, I'd hate for something from my past to turn them off after we've been together for a while. But I'm an over sharer

 

[ImpishSeraph]

Wow, I told him everything. Didn't keep secrets. I'm not a good fib teller. I literally can't think of something I didn't tell him. In the 27 years not a thing was kept. He even knew about my Lit experiences among other things.

Maybe I should have kept things from him because honesty didn't work.

 

[ImpishSeraph]

Awww, don't be sad, Biggalute. I will get by...
I will get by
I will survive
It's a lesson to me
The Ables and the Bakers and the C's
The ABC's
We all must face
And try to keep a little grace
It's a lesson to me
The Deltas and the East and the Freeze
The ABC's
We all think of
And try to keep a little love

 

[hotwords229_A]

Maybe I should have kept things from him because honesty didn't work.

Or did it?

 

[tnman03]

Hmm...some hidden secrets were in hiding for a damned good reason. So it's kind of a share at your own risk...otherwise, take it to the final dirt nap.

 

[ImpishSeraph]

Or did it?

like taking out the trash?

 

[Azuldrgon]

I keep Lit from her.

It goes back to a time when she did things without me.
It's made things complicated, but we made through it.

 

[MissMaidenMinx]

From my husband of 20 years, very little. He knew I was here and on Fet, he even knew of online playmates. Except towards the end. He couldn't provide what I needed, so I stopped seeking anything sexual like from him, and stopped telling him where online lay was taking me.

Current Master, I never lie to. I do sometimes break the rules but always fess up.

 

[Dashabout]

My husband is pretty well informed of my activities tho for sure some details and even adventures may have lapsed from my memory.

 

[Dirtyoldhornyman]

In conversations, I tend to forget to mention Lit and my strong like to porn, my fantasy of multiple girls at one time, and my masturbation habits.
Other than that I’m an open book!!

 

[daldog]

My partner doesn’t know that a lot of the kinky stuff I’ve suggested isn’t new to me like it is to him

How did you get started?