BiBunny
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It was a rather restrained response in comparison with my initial one.
Being tricked?
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It was a rather restrained response in comparison with my initial one.
no_morals
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I know that it sounds totally unbelievable (and I wonder now how and why I believed it at the time) but that is what she said to me. I think I will need to talk a little more with the person before even thinking about a possible relationship with them.
satindesire
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I know things are shitty right now and you feel very cranky and hateful, but taking it out on people who really need help isn't very healthy. And it certainly won't make you feel any better in the long run.
She's already got a history of being a liar, and a bad one at that. What really makes you think you will be able to talk any sense into her? Girls like that do this kind of thing all the time, and one man saying "Hey, maybe you shouldn't make up crazy lies to people?" isn't going to make her see the light.
no_morals
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Yeah, I was a little to believing when it came to what she said. I should have stopped things when she said that there was a second girl that wanted to join. I guess it was just a mistake on my part and a mistake that I won't make again.
satindesire
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I know what it's like to want a relationship, but I'd personally rather be alone than be taken in by this kind of person. Stress and unhappiness, no trust, worry, that's not the kind of relationship I'd ever want, no matter how lonely I was.
CutieMouse
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What planet do you live on to still be thinking of a "possible relationship" with this chick?
The only reason I can even think of to continue talking to this online persona would be that you, yourself, have precious little understanding of personal boundaries and healthy relationships.
chy_girl
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See... You were 8 posts shy. That's what threw us.I know. It's rare. But it does happen about every 25 posts.
Ok. Speaking from experience as the Queen of Bad BDSM Choices... Stop trying to turn a turtle into a cow. Stop talking to psycho pseudo-sub, make a couple friends (not potential partners - friends) here or join a group on fetlife, figure out what you want and go to a munch... And make a friend or seven there.
This person is either bat shit insane (which there is a thread on) or some 14 year old masquerading as a grown up. Both will get you in trouble. Block them.
And hi, by the way. Snacks are in the cafe, bathroom is 2nd door on the left. Don't leave crumbs on the couch, it makes us mom-type people cranky.
TypicalDeviant
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Disassociate yourself from that girl (those girls?) now. Quickly and permanently. For your health and safety.
They're up to no good, and no good to you.
They're up to no good, and no good to you.
no_morals
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Thank you for the welcome. I'm kinda new to the whole d/s lifestyle.
Bandit58
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If the hairs on the back of your neck are prickling, and you have a funny feeling in your tummy, then red flags are waving and I would block and delete this person and never have any contact with them again.
Now that would do it for me *where's a flag waving smiley when you need one?*
Now that would do it for me *where's a flag waving smiley when you need one?*
Zachariah_Cane
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chy_girl
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You're welcome.
Don't worry about being new - we all started out at the beginning. And as someone who is still on the new end of things, seriously consider the advice that those more experienced are providing. It's wisdom usually earned the hard way.
Lizzie_Borden
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Well I wasn't, but I *was* questioning the lad's commonsense.
no_morals...please don't get involved with girls on the net again until you've gotten your BS meter back from Radioshack and fieldtested it extensively.
There's some whacked out people out there and they're assholes. Have a search around here, there's some good threads that have advice on how to spot the good from the bad from the ugly from the Jerry Springer show.
And while you're doing that, check your dictionary. They totally took the word "gullible" out of it. True story.
sb2009
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I am often called the most gullible person anyone in my group of friends knows. My husbands cackles joyfully daily at how "easy" I am to get going. My kids don't lie to me becuase they feel guilty taking advantage of someone so lacking in defense.
So please, take this with the gentleness with which i give it - make some real life friends at munches, etc and learn to interpret body language alone with the words, and you may be able to notch your bs-dectector up a bit.
So please, take this with the gentleness with which i give it - make some real life friends at munches, etc and learn to interpret body language alone with the words, and you may be able to notch your bs-dectector up a bit.
rosco rathbone
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And lose the anime avatar, it screams "ambivalent gender".
Stella_Omega
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Oh, kid. You've hit the delete button by now, right?
I had a neighbor who fell for something like this. he became harder and harder to be around, more distant and withdrawn-- including from his young son.
At last he told me about the subby girl in the UK he'd been emailing-- this was back in the early days of the internet. he'd been cyber-topping her, and she'd been telling him about her very wealthy father and his powerful friends and the ways in which they would brutalise her. The fantasies got heavier and heavier, including (I got the impression, I would not let him share the details) amputations that put her in the hospital-- always telling him that there was no way to rescue her, and did he hate her for it?
This person never asked him for money, you understand-- but completely victimised him by making him an unwilling witness to horror that he was too chivalrous to back away from. He really believed he was her only link to sanity. meanwhile, the emotional strain was taking its toll.
As we talked, he began to admit that if she could talk to him on the internet she could talk to the FBI or the UK police just as easily. I reminded him that anyone can say anything on the internet, and that his son needed him to remain sane and whole right here and now.
He's still bitter about being duped, some ten years later.
I had a neighbor who fell for something like this. he became harder and harder to be around, more distant and withdrawn-- including from his young son.
At last he told me about the subby girl in the UK he'd been emailing-- this was back in the early days of the internet. he'd been cyber-topping her, and she'd been telling him about her very wealthy father and his powerful friends and the ways in which they would brutalise her. The fantasies got heavier and heavier, including (I got the impression, I would not let him share the details) amputations that put her in the hospital-- always telling him that there was no way to rescue her, and did he hate her for it?
This person never asked him for money, you understand-- but completely victimised him by making him an unwilling witness to horror that he was too chivalrous to back away from. He really believed he was her only link to sanity. meanwhile, the emotional strain was taking its toll.
As we talked, he began to admit that if she could talk to him on the internet she could talk to the FBI or the UK police just as easily. I reminded him that anyone can say anything on the internet, and that his son needed him to remain sane and whole right here and now.
He's still bitter about being duped, some ten years later.
Stella_Omega
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You got a problem with ambivalent gender?
Scotsman69
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I have sympathy for the OP, especially as he's lacking in experience in d/s.
I thought I wasn't till this weekend. Just made a 370 mile round trip to meet a sub with whom I'd had very intense and convincing emails for a week.
And guess what? No show. I'd been convincingly and thoroughly conned.
Ach weel. I learn slowly, but I learn.
I thought I wasn't till this weekend. Just made a 370 mile round trip to meet a sub with whom I'd had very intense and convincing emails for a week.
And guess what? No show. I'd been convincingly and thoroughly conned.
Ach weel. I learn slowly, but I learn.
Zachariah_Cane
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There are good reasons for everything ZC, and even you don't know them all.
rosco rathbone
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You got a problem with ambivalent gender?
Not that there's anything wrong with that...
