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Latina
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I remember being single mostly sucked. Working two jobs to make ends meet. Dating an endless parade of losers. Almost no sex. House encumbered in two mortgages.
The word I use most to describe my marriage: content. Content to have a man who loves me and whom I love with all my heart and soul. Content to nestle in each other's arms all night. Content to have someone I can talk to at any time about anything. Content in the knowledge that I will face life's challenges from now on, with my true soulmate at my side. Content that I will never again feel lonely and desperate to find a Saturday-night date. Content to be out of that whole ugly dating scene. Content that he and I are progressing socially and financially: good friends, good jobs, nice home, good car, all the things that make life more comfortable.
-- Latina
The word I use most to describe my marriage: content. Content to have a man who loves me and whom I love with all my heart and soul. Content to nestle in each other's arms all night. Content to have someone I can talk to at any time about anything. Content in the knowledge that I will face life's challenges from now on, with my true soulmate at my side. Content that I will never again feel lonely and desperate to find a Saturday-night date. Content to be out of that whole ugly dating scene. Content that he and I are progressing socially and financially: good friends, good jobs, nice home, good car, all the things that make life more comfortable.
-- Latina
CelestialBody
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Latina, Latina, I think you missed something....
TN_Vixen
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I like being single
for the most part. I have a difficult time feeling "obligated" to someone.. feeling I have to check in with them or get their permission to do things. That just aggravates me to death. I prefer to be alone when I want to be alone without having to worry about someone's hurt feelings. I prefer to make what I want for supper, or just eat a bowl of cereal if I please.
No arguing over whether or not the movie is agreeable; who does the dishes tonight; why didn't you put the toilet paper on the roller?; can't you pick up your dirty socks, jesus!.. hehe
Seriously though being single isn't all that bad, but being with someone who compliments you, who shares in your likes and dislikes, who challenges you to be a better person, who calls to say "i love you" out of the blue sure does make living a lot nicer.
for the most part. I have a difficult time feeling "obligated" to someone.. feeling I have to check in with them or get their permission to do things. That just aggravates me to death. I prefer to be alone when I want to be alone without having to worry about someone's hurt feelings. I prefer to make what I want for supper, or just eat a bowl of cereal if I please.
No arguing over whether or not the movie is agreeable; who does the dishes tonight; why didn't you put the toilet paper on the roller?; can't you pick up your dirty socks, jesus!.. hehe
Seriously though being single isn't all that bad, but being with someone who compliments you, who shares in your likes and dislikes, who challenges you to be a better person, who calls to say "i love you" out of the blue sure does make living a lot nicer.
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Well, yes, being single is better than being in a bad, destructive relationship. But my point was that being committed to one you love, in a good relationship, is so much better. I think, like me in my first marriage, most don't KNOW it's a bad relationship until you find a great relationship (like I have now) to compare it against.
-- Latina
-- Latina
Closet Desire
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I've never been...
...single. Unless you count the five days between my divorce and CD-able and me flying to Las Vegas. No regrets unless you count my first marriage.
[Edited by Closet Desire on 01-29-2001 at 08:53 AM]
...single. Unless you count the five days between my divorce and CD-able and me flying to Las Vegas. No regrets unless you count my first marriage.
[Edited by Closet Desire on 01-29-2001 at 08:53 AM]
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I like being single, too. Sometimes I'm so complex my roommates, who I've known forever, can't even figure me out, let alone someone who I would be dating. I've also decided that I don't believe in marriage until I'm thirty.
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livin_simple
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I agree that life is what you make it....
but some things about being single really suck.
Taxes have definitely become a burden - especially on top of child support.
Time to do things myself, or work on the fixer-upper are tougher because I try to visit the children as often as I can, which uses most of my weekends. This also greatly interferes with the ability to meet people.
Nobody to talk things through with, get a back rub or a hug and kiss at the end of a long day.
Remembering where a tool is that you need at the moment, but the location just happens to be at the ex's and you need to acquire the tool once again.
but some things about being single really suck.
Taxes have definitely become a burden - especially on top of child support.
Time to do things myself, or work on the fixer-upper are tougher because I try to visit the children as often as I can, which uses most of my weekends. This also greatly interferes with the ability to meet people.
Nobody to talk things through with, get a back rub or a hug and kiss at the end of a long day.
Remembering where a tool is that you need at the moment, but the location just happens to be at the ex's and you need to acquire the tool once again.
Is EVERYONE missing the point to this?
Ravenloft why would you even ask that? Has something happened? I hope all is well.
I also hope that "M" and "D" are doing well.
Being single isn't bad, you can think of you for a change instead of your partner and what they want.
Being loved is great but love doesn't always last a lifetime, mainly because once people get with "the one" they let themselves go, they don't have any Mystique anymore, there are no secrets, or sneaking up on you and surprising you. I could go on but won't.
The words you speak of Ravenloft, are nice to hear, but nicer to say. I hope all is well.
Ravenloft why would you even ask that? Has something happened? I hope all is well.
I also hope that "M" and "D" are doing well.
Being single isn't bad, you can think of you for a change instead of your partner and what they want.
Being loved is great but love doesn't always last a lifetime, mainly because once people get with "the one" they let themselves go, they don't have any Mystique anymore, there are no secrets, or sneaking up on you and surprising you. I could go on but won't.
The words you speak of Ravenloft, are nice to hear, but nicer to say. I hope all is well.
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Ravenloft said:
You know, if you're having such a hard time fighting the urge to say pretty things to someone....
It just so happens that I'm kinda missin' being told the pretty words by someone.
Maybe we could arrange something? Like a business deal of some kind?
K
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Pretty words make life worth living, and I hate to say it, but they were a rarity even during the last time I was involved.
Being single is miserable.
The only thing worse is being involved-- it gives someone else the power to make you even more miserable.
Being single is miserable.
The only thing worse is being involved-- it gives someone else the power to make you even more miserable.
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Sounds nice Latina... Wanna swap?
Thank you CelestialBody. You aughta make that visit. I'd buy you something to eat... Heheh! Maybe even see if Nick would play some tunes for ya!
I guess I just havn't had the privilage to know what its really like to live with someone like that TN_Vixen, wonder what its like...
I have yet to see love last a life time Nicole... I am begining to think its a joke... Just living to have fun seems a better rout to me... Less pain in that...
Special K, send me an email and I can see what sort of deal we can make. Heheh!
Hell Endlessly, I have so many pretty words to go around you can have some too! HEheh!
In fact, if anyone wants a few pretty words just email me and I will spoon you a bowl full! HEheh!
Thank you CelestialBody. You aughta make that visit. I'd buy you something to eat... Heheh! Maybe even see if Nick would play some tunes for ya!
I guess I just havn't had the privilage to know what its really like to live with someone like that TN_Vixen, wonder what its like...
I have yet to see love last a life time Nicole... I am begining to think its a joke... Just living to have fun seems a better rout to me... Less pain in that...
Special K, send me an email and I can see what sort of deal we can make. Heheh!
Hell Endlessly, I have so many pretty words to go around you can have some too! HEheh!
In fact, if anyone wants a few pretty words just email me and I will spoon you a bowl full! HEheh!
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I've been single most of my life and it has its benefits and its drawbacks.
I think the benefit is that you are forced to learn to be emotionally independent and you have great freedom. I do what I want to do when I want to do it and I don't have to consider what a mate would think or the impact on her- that's nice... that's nice....
But it does get lonely sometimes- no denying it- so lonely it hurts. But I also think that relationships provide us with opportunities to grow and learn about what love really is that you simply will not encounter while single.
I have mastered the art of being single, but I am an amateur when it comes to prolonged relationships- but in the relationships I have had I learned a great deal.
Maybe it is just a case of people who are single can learn a lot from relationships and people who are always in relationships can learn a lot by being single?
Maybe the point is to keep growing no matter which.
I think the benefit is that you are forced to learn to be emotionally independent and you have great freedom. I do what I want to do when I want to do it and I don't have to consider what a mate would think or the impact on her- that's nice... that's nice....
But it does get lonely sometimes- no denying it- so lonely it hurts. But I also think that relationships provide us with opportunities to grow and learn about what love really is that you simply will not encounter while single.
I have mastered the art of being single, but I am an amateur when it comes to prolonged relationships- but in the relationships I have had I learned a great deal.
Maybe it is just a case of people who are single can learn a lot from relationships and people who are always in relationships can learn a lot by being single?
Maybe the point is to keep growing no matter which.
I'm 29, single, hedonistic, promiscuous to a fault, and love the single life..almost asked one of my girls to marry me last fall, glad I didn't---I'm getting bored with the 2 bi-fems I live with and screw other women when the opportunity presents itself...I just can't imagine committing to one woman at this time in my life....too many to screw and too much to do...
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No Ravenloft, being single isn't so bad. It gives me time to think about the kind of guy I really need to be with and keeps me from going from loser to loser. It gives me time to develop myself into a stronger woman. It gives me more bonding time with my little girls (who are growing up too quickly). Yes, it gets lonely, but eventually I will be with someone who will make up for all the lost time.
(it also doesn't make u feel guilty when u flirt with other people)
[Edited by lickerish on 01-29-2001 at 05:12 PM]
(it also doesn't make u feel guilty when u flirt with other people
)[Edited by lickerish on 01-29-2001 at 05:12 PM]
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I can't ever be single again.....
I've gotten too used to a very liberal love/life/sex partner and all that goes with it.
To me - unless you're George fucking Clooney - or Mike Piazza - or Derek Jeeter.......
Ya know you can have it. Fact is - I'll bet my sex life is better than those guys.
Man I love my "married" life.
I've gotten too used to a very liberal love/life/sex partner and all that goes with it.
To me - unless you're George fucking Clooney - or Mike Piazza - or Derek Jeeter.......
Ya know you can have it. Fact is - I'll bet my sex life is better than those guys.
Man I love my "married" life.
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Something I think I should remain til the day I die. I do nothing but hurt those around me. That has been proven time and time again. ~sigh~
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I've spent a lot of time both as a single person, and an attached person. I have found that, financially, I am always better off when I am single.. I don't know if thats true with any of you other guys...
I like being single most of the time. I'm an introverted person in real life and it's really hard for me to be with someone who doesn't understand that I need a lot of 'me' time. Lots of people can't relate to that.
There's only one person I really care enough about to maybe start a relationship with, but I don't think it's going to happen but that's OK too. I don't want to rush into a relationship that won't be right just to be with someone.
Ravenloft you sound like you've lost someone you cared about and if that's the case you have my best wishes.
There's only one person I really care enough about to maybe start a relationship with, but I don't think it's going to happen but that's OK too. I don't want to rush into a relationship that won't be right just to be with someone.
Ravenloft you sound like you've lost someone you cared about and if that's the case you have my best wishes.
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Oh, but lindsay... Don't you love someone there in Omaha? It took us what? Like four months to become as close as we did, which was obviously a joke... To you at least... And a single FUCKING week to realize you suddenly wern't so into me as you though... And that you were still "Hung up on someone else"? The "Just friends" thing is a fantasy, because if you were to keep talking to me all I could do is make you feel guilty bout what you did... And who wants guilt? Hmm? I know for a fact that I am sick of hearing women say "Sorry, sorry, sorry..." Its all a load of shit... Somehow I wasn't what you wanted... I accept that. What I won't accept is this horse shit that your sorry, cause I don't think thats possible... If you really wanna suffer me making you feel like shit then by all means keep talking to me but I can't offer you anything but bitterness... For a long, long time... But pulling back from the situation for a second I must thank you for actually telling me directly. You are a curageous woman Lindsay, but sadly you are still weak when it comes to sex. That is, in my eyes a fact. If you can live with my opinions of you then maybe we can still be able to talk but I really don't think thats gonna happen... Like I offered Nicole before you, I wish you happiness and don't want you to be alone, just as I hope to not be alone forever... There is just so much you can learn from the single life...
Now... To think of somehting else to do with my vacation time... My trip to Omaha seems to be canceled... *Grinning*
Now... To think of somehting else to do with my vacation time... My trip to Omaha seems to be canceled... *Grinning*
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Single or married, you still have the same potential of hurting people. It's not the marital state, it's the character.
In every relationship there are two people. If it fails, both are at fault. Sometimes it only seems as though one person is to blame, but you only have to look deeper to see how both are responsible.
From what I've seen, online love isn't a reliable indicator that an offline relationship will flourish. More often than not, I've seen them fizzle or even explode. Siren and Wolfy are an exception. I hope that skibum and CL are too.
Tiggs and Ravenloft, I wish you both happier in the future.
In every relationship there are two people. If it fails, both are at fault. Sometimes it only seems as though one person is to blame, but you only have to look deeper to see how both are responsible.
From what I've seen, online love isn't a reliable indicator that an offline relationship will flourish. More often than not, I've seen them fizzle or even explode. Siren and Wolfy are an exception. I hope that skibum and CL are too.
Tiggs and Ravenloft, I wish you both happier in the future.
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