Being Shown Off to Others

[traveler99]

Writing to a friend prompted me to think more about the pleasures of showing off a lover. And about what it is about being shown off which can so turn on a woman, especially one who is submissive. I totally LOVE how wet and excited a lover can get just anticipating being shown off to others!

Examples -

I had a girlfriend who I'd have kneel down and take my cock in her mouth (with her naked) by a 3d floor hotel window, where the window went down to the floor. She'd be sucking at my cock as I bent over her a bit to spank or play with her ass.

Another girlfriend -- on first date, at a crowded Sat nite movie theater, I reached under her skirt after a bit, her legs opened invitingly, and soon I was fingering her very wet pussy -- a bit and then deeper - with her skirt covered now by a sweater, and her trying not to squirm too much. Me not letting her cum through the whole movie. At the car, after, sitting in car at a corner in rain with people walking by, she leaned over to take my cock into her mouth as I reached to finger her pussy more till she and I both came. When we got to her place, I saw/found that she loved being tied, spanked, told what to do, and was sweetly submissive. mmm!

I'd love to know - from sub women, as well as from their lovers, such experiences and, especially, what it is about being shown off or seen which so can turn a woman on.

David
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[catalina_francisco]

I think you will find there are many answers to your question, some differing, some very alike. It can be as simple as being an exhibitionist and getting off on the attention....or the danger of being caught doing something many would not dare or approve of..and the possible consequences. For some it may relate to feelings of humiliation, degradation, worship, power, submissiveness, or selflessness....and the list goes on. The trick lies in those involved being able to answer each others needs in a way which proves satisfactory for all involved.

Catalina

 

[Seduce]

I am still very much in doubt about me being truly submissive....... but showing off in public is maybe a thing that provokes me most.

I am very shy and when my man insist that I show I get very much embarrased...... but I feel strange kind of pleasure coming from that embarrasment.
He usually has to persuade me, even direct, and I have very mixed feelings about it. I am a bit angry for I cannot say no to him, and I am embarrased and I feel so exposed and vulnerable with no clothes on........ but all that really turns me on.

 

[traveler99]

yes

A woman friend tells me that the reason she likes being shown off to others is that it makes her imagine being taken by the others.

 

[laughingbadger]

Equal parts exhibitionism and pleasing Master here. I try not to overthink the whys of it, because as long as it works, why fix it?

 

[Ophelia_221]

I'm one of those

My Dom takes me and my girlfriends to this club on the weekends where his boys typically clamour to him to have me pole dance. I think I just naturally polarize to the trashy side, and its nice to be able to indulge in it. That, and Im an attention whore.
I thinks its pretty safe to say he gets off on the idea of people wanting what is his. He lets men dance with me and just watches from a corner of the bar. It's so damn hot...

 

[Liana26]

I looove it when T shows me off. Especially because when he does that, it means he's proud to have me and wants everyone to know it.

 

[His_pita]

Hello, I’m new here and I’ve been given the task by my Dom to reply to this thread as my first post.

We are in a long distance relationship but have plans to meet for the first time this fall and I know it is one of his big fantasies to show me off in public.

I don’t have the best body image and have spent my whole life not wanting to bring attention to myself. Yet since I know this is something important to him I want to do everything I can to overcome my own embarrassment and please my Sir.

I do admit that as I get in shape and my Dom dresses me the way he thinks I should look, I can see the appeal of being shown off in public. I know my Dom has very good taste and will never dress me in a way that will make me feel sleazy, but in a way to make me feel sexy.

I mostly think the turn on for me will be knowing that people will look at me and know that I belong to him. I can imagine the looks I get will make me feel sexy and that will make me aroused. I mostly want to see the look of pride and lust in my Dom’s eyes as we go out in public and for him to be pleased with my willingness to give him what he wants.

 

[traveler99]

Thanks -- pleasure and public

Thanks for all the replies. I do know/see that women who like to be shown off receive a lot of support and caring and are extra turned on seeing their lover/Master and how much he likes seeing her exposed and shown off to others.

I know that when I have had a lover stand by a window and undress,
or
touch herself where she could be seen,
or
I've played with a lover's body in public
or
whatever

She has been turned on seeing me turned on.
And I am turned on, of course, seeing/feeling her.

I think also (thinking of a particular cumslut I knew) that a woman who hungers for a cock in her mouth is both turned on by the feeling of that, but also by knowing that her guy is watching her suck so beautifully at his cock

David

 

[His_pita]

I think my post before was misunderstood by the PM I received. It seemed to suggest that I am vulnerable and open to sex other than with my Dom. I am not weak nor do I lack loyalty to my Dom. I take being His sub very seriously, and I’m on this forum to learn from others who have more knowledge than me and, hopefully, to be a part of this community.

The point of my post was to convey how terrified I am of being shown off in public. My issues with it go deeper than my body and self-image and just not wanting to show off my body. I am changing my body image and my body, encouragement and support from my Dom, and it won’t be a problem for me once I am with my Dom in real life.

He knows that my post before didn’t dig deep enough into my feelings about being on display, and He wanted me to clarify more. I have been thinking a lot about this, and I think my fear goes to not wanting too much attention. I have always received attention from men and much of it has been unwanted. And with my sub nature they have tried to use me throughout my life. Some have succeeded. This is an entire other issue I am trying to understand and deal with.

I think I may have sometimes sabotaged my appearance and self-confidence as a defense mechanism to be unattractive to men and to keep men from pressuring me. If I really think about it, I get afraid that if I am shown off in public wearing revealing clothes I will be making myself vulnerable to people who won't respect me. In my mind I know my Dom will protect me from harm, but it’s a feeling that is there nonetheless.

My question is to the other subs here: is this a feeling you understand? I don’t like to feel out of control, and being on display is a place where I think I will feel out of control. I am a new sub, and learning to give-up control and let my Dom have it is a learning process I am working on.

I would appreciate any insight or advice on how I can conquer my fear and please my Sir. Thank you

 

[curiousjen]

I think my post before was misunderstood by the PM I received. It seemed to suggest that I am vulnerable and open to sex other than with my Dom. I am not weak nor do I lack loyalty to my Dom. I take being His sub very seriously, and I’m on this forum to learn from others who have more knowledge than me and, hopefully, to be a part of this community.

The point of my post was to convey how terrified I am of being shown off in public. My issues with it go deeper than my body and self-image and just not wanting to show off my body. I am changing my body image and my body, encouragement and support from my Dom, and it won’t be a problem for me once I am with my Dom in real life.

He knows that my post before didn’t dig deep enough into my feelings about being on display, and He wanted me to clarify more. I have been thinking a lot about this, and I think my fear goes to not wanting too much attention. I have always received attention from men and much of it has been unwanted. And with my sub nature they have tried to use me throughout my life. Some have succeeded. This is an entire other issue I am trying to understand and deal with.

I think I may have sometimes sabotaged my appearance and self-confidence as a defense mechanism to be unattractive to men and to keep men from pressuring me. If I really think about it, I get afraid that if I am shown off in public wearing revealing clothes I will be making myself vulnerable to people who won't respect me. In my mind I know my Dom will protect me from harm, but it’s a feeling that is there nonetheless.

My question is to the other subs here: is this a feeling you understand? I don’t like to feel out of control, and being on display is a place where I think I will feel out of control. I am a new sub, and learning to give-up control and let my Dom have it is a learning process I am working on.

I would appreciate any insight or advice on how I can conquer my fear and please my Sir. Thank you

Hello His_pita, and welcome to lit. I'm afraid I can't be much help in that I am not one for dressing to impress or public shows of exhibitionism. I tend to dress down, and I mean down to the point where my dress sense is almost masculine. I don't look like a man, don't get me wrong, but I am more likely to swing by a army surplus store to get my new pair of trousers than I am a little fashionable boutique.

Owen (my husband and master) is working very hard to make me more feminine in my dress sense. Like you, I dress down for self defense and a lack of self confidence. Now I am much more assertive these days, and so my dress has gradually reflected that. I'm not quite up to a miniskirt and stockings yet- but I am learning to wear things that accentuate my breasts and hips and bum rather than disguise them. Its hard going at times and I have actually cried before because I feel so self conscious, but on the other hand I have sort of enjoyed people looking at me twice rather than straight through me.

Hope this was of some help!

Edited to add: And don't worry about any weird PMs you might get, it comes with the territory of being a woman on lit I'm afraid. You didn't send out the wrong message in your first post, just some people are desperate and will PM anyone who proclaims to be female. I was a bit freaked out by a couple I got at first, but now I just delete them and ignore. For some reason i don't get as many now, maybe they like to target newbies?

 

[-Ravena-]

Being shown off, sometimes even in a subtle way, is something that definitely turns me on.

When we go out, I am often dressed very well on the "outside". Underneath, I am usually wearing thigh high stockings and no panties. Makes for interesting drives and some intersting play depending on our destination, if the opportunity presents itself.

We have on several occasions purposefully "performed" on hotel balconies or front of hotel windows.

Why does it turn me on? Because this is ultimate submission. I'm showing my Master, and anyone who sees me, that I am HIS. And I'm showing Him that I am worthy of being His slave, worthy of pleasing Him. Not to mention that I have an absolute blast

 

[His_pita]

Hello His_pita, and welcome to lit. I'm afraid I can't be much help in that I am not one for dressing to impress or public shows of exhibitionism. I tend to dress down, and I mean down to the point where my dress sense is almost masculine. I don't look like a man, don't get me wrong, but I am more likely to swing by a army surplus store to get my new pair of trousers than I am a little fashionable boutique.

Owen (my husband and master) is working very hard to make me more feminine in my dress sense. Like you, I dress down for self defense and a lack of self confidence. Now I am much more assertive these days, and so my dress has gradually reflected that. I'm not quite up to a miniskirt and stockings yet- but I am learning to wear things that accentuate my breasts and hips and bum rather than disguise them. Its hard going at times and I have actually cried before because I feel so self conscious, but on the other hand I have sort of enjoyed people looking at me twice rather than straight through me.

Hope this was of some help!

Thank you curiousjen

Like you I dress way down. My job doesn't require anything more then jeans and T-shirts. I just haven't dressed-up in such a long time. I'm grateful that my Dom wants to dress me and he has great taste and understands me well enough not to push more then I can handle. But I do want to do this for Him.

 

[Softouch911]

I would appreciate any insight or advice on how I can conquer my fear and please my Sir. Thank you

You already have, pita, very much. Congratulations on overcoming your first obstacle of coming here and admitting the fear lies inside of you. You're very clear and, I'm guessing, correct.

I hope, too, that your comfort level will increase, and I'm sure it will if you keep trying and finding your pleasure in your submission, just as I do. Yes, I will encourage you for, as Ravenna points out:

Why does it turn me on? Because this is ultimate submission. I'm showing my Master, and anyone who sees me, that I am HIS. And I'm showing Him that I am worthy of being His slave, worthy of pleasing Him.

Thank you, pita

 

[His_pita]

Thank you, pita

Thank you Sir

 

[catalina_francisco]

bump...

 

[myinnerslut]

well, ive always been a bit of an exhibitionist. im more likely then A to fantasize about being used (or in his case, using me) in public. it has happened a few times and i loves it. i usually get very embarresed and almost shy and he forces me to get past that. afterwards i always feel closer to him/

 

[Chicklet]

It's interesting to me because I absolutely hate being 'shown off' in public, that i can stand public play at all. I don't even like a lot of PDA (public displays of affection) past hand holding and maybe a small hug. I don't kiss outside of a private setting.

In a public play space, my usual social standoffness is still there. I don't want to snuggle, hug, cuddle, kiss, etc. But I will do bondage. (I've also done beatings in public but they were not at all enjoyable for me)

One PYL who had played with me in public had me at his house, and his friend was over. The PYL had a bamboo cane in hand and was smacking at me a little bit, and in front of this one person, I cannot even describe to you how uncomfortable and unhappy it made me. I wouldn't let the PYL touch me at all.

He was understandably confused, because he'd beaten the snot out of me in front of tons of people before I think the intimacy of the situation makes my stomach churn.

 

[twysted73]

My question is to the other subs here: is this a feeling you understand? I don’t like to feel out of control, and being on display is a place where I think I will feel out of control. I am a new sub, and learning to give-up control and let my Dom have it is a learning process I am working on.

I would appreciate any insight or advice on how I can conquer my fear and please my Sir. Thank you

Although not subject to this particular form of vulnerabilty through exposure, I can easily see and understand your concern.
But with your Dom this will (If he is a good one and as I am sure you are coming to realize) be a perfect opportunity to accomplish two things in one. To chisel away at that fear while simultaneously strengthening your trust and bonds with Him as he shows you that, while with Him, you are always under the very best of care and protection. And I cannot help but think that within those bounds of saftey you will learn to let go of that fear.
Very best of luck to you.

 

[Quint]

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[twysted73]

Do I get a cookie for reading the old stuff anyway?

Psst....pita posted 2 years ago! She's probably gotten over it by now!

You know I had seen a post by that name earlier and thought (as I read) how experienced it sounded. Then to run across this...Now I feel like a maroon.

But thanks for lettin me know in the way you did. *gets out eraser and tries to fix the "Experienced" moniker under his name back to Virgin**

 

[callinectes]

Being shown off in that way is not for me or Daddy. On the other hand, he loves to take me out to dinner, a show, etc., dressed beautifully and groomed to perfection. That is his flavor of "showing off".

 

[JMohegan]

Being shown off in that way is not for me or Daddy. On the other hand, he loves to take me out to dinner, a show, etc., dressed beautifully and groomed to perfection. That is his flavor of "showing off".

Your Daddy sounds like me in this regard.

I am fascinated by the different things people consider to be ultimate submission. Ravena's description of "ultimate submission" in performing off balconies, etc., did not resonate with me at all!

Different strokes, and whatnot.

 

[intothewoods]

I'm a bit of an exhibitionist, and a PYL I play with is soooo not. So that wouldn't exactly be the ultimate submission for me. As a result, lol, I do most of my own showing off.

 

[PassionateStars]

mmmm

love it