being shared, so many ?????

[Pretty_kitty169]

thank you all in advance for any advice! I will explain a bit and try not to be long winded so I also thank you for understanding that! So I met my now husband when I was 17 I am now 33 and we got on the subject of fantasy and found out we both have a common fantasy. I want to be shared! I have to tell you our sex life simply exploded when we talk about this, I have never been fucked harder, or has more cum in me then when we talk and do things to make this happen! we are so close, we love each other so much, we don't want to jeopardize ANYTHING. but we also like keeping things new and fresh! we have been to strip club and some things happened with another girl and it was so very HOT, now we both want to go slow but experiment. the problem is, we do not want any problems. have you done this? how did it turn out? I have posted things online and man was it fun! again, thanks for any help! the communication is there, the love is there. no problems have happened. do you think this would be fun or end the fun we have?

 

[Jonny55431]

I'm sure you'll both be fine... have fun girl

 

[Ahi_Viking]

cool

As long as you both keep each other's concerns first you should really enjoy it. I've done similar things and it didn't affect my relationship negatively. It can be really fun! Enjoy!

 

[Pretty_kitty169]

thanks, just a little nervous! I am sure that is very normal. Just wanted to make sure, we have been taking baby steps and communication has been EVERYTHING! just wanted to be reassured others have felt this way. sometimes it seems crazy that another man fucking me with my husband watching.....just don't seem normal? but then again, what is considered "normal"

 

[texasace]

thanks, just a little nervous! I am sure that is very normal. Just wanted to make sure, we have been taking baby steps and communication has been EVERYTHING! just wanted to be reassured others have felt this way. sometimes it seems crazy that another man fucking me with my husband watching.....just don't seem normal? but then again, what is considered "normal"

Life is to enjoy and explore... throw out all stops, but be safe and and HAPPY!!! Ace

 

[bill3901]

thank you all in advance for any advice! I will explain a bit and try not to be long winded so I also thank you for understanding that! So I met my now husband when I was 17. I am now 33 and we got on the subject of fantasy and found out we both have a common fantasy. I want to be shared! I have to tell you our sex life simply exploded when we talk about this, I have never been fucked harder, or has more cum in me then when we talk and do things to make this happen! we are so close, we love each other so much, we don't want to jeopardize ANYTHING. but we also like keeping things new and fresh! we have been to strip club and some things happened with another girl and it was so very HOT, now we both want to go slow but experiment. the problem is, we do not want any problems. have you done this? how did it turn out? I have posted things online and man was it fun! again, thanks for any help! the communication is there, the love is there. no problems have happened. do you think this would be fun or end the fun we have?

Same thing happened with us when we started talking about sharing her, our sex life went through the roof, it's so damn hot, but I don't think we will ever make it happen, probably not...lol

 

[bill3901]

Also, with regards to going slow with this, I think that in itself raises the sexual tension and makes everyone more horny...

 

[texasace]

If you two do everything together....it will be fine.

You KNOW how I LUV your vib pics... Ace

 

[CBM514]

Haven't done that in reality yet, but if you want to make your relationship still work, you both need to be transparent and honest about anything either of you feel every step of the way and respect that either of you can change your mind about something and not judge the other for it...aside from that it sounds like you will have a lot of fun, good luck!

 

[suckonsimon]

My guess, Pretty, is that you need to find a guy who clearly doesn't have 'needs' in terms of a relationship, but who is excited about delivering that extra pleasure for a couple who clearly have their own profound relationship. My guess is that one of the possible 'dangers' is that such a guy may prove to be massively attractive to you, or even to your man, and you both need to be aware that appreciating what he brings to you both is as far as it goes.

I say all this because, as a confident lover, I feel hugely attracted to doing this for a couple, though I never will for reasons of where I am at with my woman.

So, you two look after each other well eh? and while you dream about the possibilities, may the mega horn continue!

 

[littlecordelera]

My husband and I have been swingers for years, and I must say, the swing community is very understanding of "taking it slow." Join a swingers site. Communicate your desires in your profile, and you will find couples, guys, and girls who share your level of experience, or lack thereof, and your desires. You will also find swinger clubs, which in my opinion, is the best way to meet compatible people. Forget the preconceived notion of sex everywhere in a swinger club. It's not that way. Some don't allow sex in the club at all.

Lastly, accept the fact that sex is not love. They are two completely different things.

Good luck. You are welcome to PM me if you would like more details.

 

[orallover1956]

After 28 years of marriage and years of naughty talk we began a sharing lifestyle a couple of months ago. My wife now has two regular FWB. Both are good friends, with one we all three get together, the other is not comfortable with that so it is just him and my wife. Our love and our marriage have never been stronger. And our sex life, between her and I, has gone through the roof.

It may not be the lifestyle for everyone but it has been one of the best decisions of our life. Be open, be honest and as has been said, sex is not love.
Good luck

 

[littlegrizz02]

I let my friend have sex with my wife. *(years ago) It was awesome. Watching him fuck her, watching him cum in her mouth and pussy. AWESOME!!

 

[MercedeSexy]

It's been years since I was in the lifestyle. My first marriage was an open one. I am not all that experienced at it to be truthful, so take this for what it's worth...

Every step you take toward the actual act is an opportunity to evaluate your next move. Each sharing or swinging opportunity that comes your way will be evaluated at that moment and the outcome will be dependent on a number of factors, including your mood at that time, your feeling of security in the relationship, your sense of threat by the other member(s) on your relationship, and your level of physical attraction and arousal. Those things are not constants and will vary from opportunity to opportunity.

Be prepared to walk away from any swinging opportunity because it isn't quite right for your spouse. No matter how much you might be turned on by it. If you force it to happen, you'll regret it later. (This advice goes both ways. Discuss your go/no-go signals in advance.)

On the up side, swinging couples are the best people to get to know. They are understanding and not at all pushy because they know the drill, and they are already in a committed relationship.

This can be one of the most fulfilling things you do as a couple. It sounds like you have a great start and that you're approaching it with your eyes open. I do hope this is something you move forward with, even if it's only once. Life is too precious to get to the end of it and wonder, "What if we would've...?"

 

[soflabbwlvr]

It's been years since I was in the lifestyle. My first marriage was an open one. I am not all that experienced at it to be truthful, so take this for what it's worth...

Every step you take toward the actual act is an opportunity to evaluate your next move. Each sharing or swinging opportunity that comes your way will be evaluated at that moment and the outcome will be dependent on a number of factors, including your mood at that time, your feeling of security in the relationship, your sense of threat by the other member(s) on your relationship, and your level of physical attraction and arousal. Those things are not constants and will vary from opportunity to opportunity.

Be prepared to walk away from any swinging opportunity because it isn't quite right for your spouse. No matter how much you might be turned on by it. If you force it to happen, you'll regret it later. (This advice goes both ways. Discuss your go/no-go signals in advance.)

On the up side, swinging couples are the best people to get to know. They are understanding and not at all pushy because they know the drill, and they are already in a committed relationship.

This can be one of the most fulfilling things you do as a couple. It sounds like you have a great start and that you're approaching it with your eyes open. I do hope this is something you move forward with, even if it's only once. Life is too precious to get to the end of it and wonder, "What if we would've...?"

My husband and I have been swingers for years, and I must say, the swing community is very understanding of "taking it slow." Join a swingers site. Communicate your desires in your profile, and you will find couples, guys, and girls who share your level of experience, or lack thereof, and your desires. You will also find swinger clubs, which in my opinion, is the best way to meet compatible people. Forget the preconceived notion of sex everywhere in a swinger club. It's not that way. Some don't allow sex in the club at all.

Lastly, accept the fact that sex is not love. They are two completely different things.

Good luck. You are welcome to PM me if you would like more details.

Great advice. My wife and I have been swinging for almost 15 years, and from our experiences I have to agree with MercedeSexy and littlecordelera. Take your time--babysteps give you the opportunity to push your boundaries as your comfort level increases. Talk to experienced swingers, and ignore the naysayers who have never experienced the lifestyle. Feel free to write me if you have any specific questions.

 

[Pretty_kitty169]

After 28 years of marriage and years of naughty talk we began a sharing lifestyle a couple of months ago. My wife now has two regular FWB. Both are good friends, with one we all three get together, the other is not comfortable with that so it is just him and my wife. Our love and our marriage have never been stronger. And our sex life, between her and I, has gone through the roof.

It may not be the lifestyle for everyone but it has been one of the best decisions of our life. Be open, be honest and as has been said, sex is not love.
Good luck

thanks, I am a bit more adventurous when it comes sex then my husband, I know that seems odd, And when I admitted what I like and found out that he liked it to I was a bit shocked! again, thank you for all the words. we communicate about everything and at this point it hasn't happened, and if it does it will be fun! we just started having me flirt online and sending pictures of myself in many ways! haha, I never thought that would happen 10 years ago, but here we are!

 

[Island_Barbarian]

Good for you Kitty. Go for it.

I wish my wife was more adventurous. I really feel we are starting to grow apart due to her lack of interest there.

 

[Yachtsman69]

I have been the " other guy " in married couple based MFM situations a few times, hopefully many more, and will give my perspective.

First I have shied away from situations where one was trying to get the other interested but both were not sure. This seems like the recipe for disaster, or at least a lot of drama, and I don't want to be part of it. I think both should be ready and convinced they want to try before going down that path.

As the third I am always looking to have a hot time, but want to be careful and considerate of the couple, and respect their limits. I think it is a good idea to think about what you do and do not want to do, at least to start out with, and what you might do if you are comfortable... Just yesterday I got together with a couple for the first time after a couple weeks planning and a pre-meeting for drinks and appetizers. They told me what they wanted for the first meeting and I was totally OK with that. We ended up clicking really well and we all went well beyond what they thought their limits were, and even discussed some new kinky stuff which neither of them had tried before for next time

The couples I have been with have had a great time and seem to be really adjusted ( with each other ) to the whole thing. Each couple has their own little twist on how they want it to go down. Finding a partner or partners that fit your expectations is key. I have heard from the couples I have met that they have run into "duds", "whackos", and / or people who were just a bad fit. Being patient to find the right fit is really important.

Hope you guys have a lot of fun

 

[MaineFemale]

thank you all in advance for any advice! I will explain a bit and try not to be long winded so I also thank you for understanding that! So I met my now husband when I was 17 I am now 33 and we got on the subject of fantasy and found out we both have a common fantasy. I want to be shared! I have to tell you our sex life simply exploded when we talk about this, I have never been fucked harder, or has more cum in me then when we talk and do things to make this happen! we are so close, we love each other so much, we don't want to jeopardize ANYTHING. but we also like keeping things new and fresh! we have been to strip club and some things happened with another girl and it was so very HOT, now we both want to go slow but experiment. the problem is, we do not want any problems. have you done this? how did it turn out? I have posted things online and man was it fun! again, thanks for any help! the communication is there, the love is there. no problems have happened. do you think this would be fun or end the fun we have?

There's NO way I could share if I loved my man. So I guess my advice won't be very helpful. Lol

 

[hispanic1]

I let my friend have sex with my wife. *(years ago) It was awesome. Watching him fuck her, watching him cum in her mouth and pussy. AWESOME!!

Tell more would love to hear the whe story

 

[tjernst]

Sharing is Caring

I have shared her many times in many ways. From simple MFMs to some kinky stuff. Pm if you want to chat.

 

[fasolati23]

wife sharing

I find it amazing that this thread has ended so abruptly! Is it my puter?
There are two overwhelming fantasies that seem to florish thru out the realm of "Adult" entertainment. they are " Bi-curious" commentary and "Share the wife" fantasies.

 

[jonjonz68]

I find it amazing that this thread has ended so abruptly! Is it my puter?
There are two overwhelming fantasies that seem to florish thru out the realm of "Adult" entertainment. they are " Bi-curious" commentary and "Share the wife" fantasies.

I stumbled across it just today, so I guess it's still going.

I know for me "bi-curious" and "share the wife" are both very much a part of my fantasy life. I'd love to push them a little closer to reality.

 

[Mrclean_sober]

Share, but not bi

We started doing mfm's at the beginning this year after 11 years of marriage and it is incredible, but no interest in bi. Though she is Enjoy a straight up hetero double team! Never thought I would but, she said she was up for a ffm but also wanted a mfm so we tried it. Just had our most recent one Fri night and it was great.

 

[sandymonroe]

Just do it