Being pickey.

[ammre]

(this pretty much refers to the bisexuals -and up- out there, but everyone is invited to comment on their preferences)
I'm fresh out of a plain ol' heterosexual relationship and i want to try some more stuff with girls. Unfortunatelly, i'm really REALLY pickey about females. Males oddley enough i'm not pickey about, but females i like em thin, athelitic, perferibly smallish breasts, aggressive yet feminine. That's somewhat hypocritical of me considering i'm pretty much none of those.

But anyway, Do you ever notice you have higher standards for one gender than the others?

 

[John Doe]

No.

 

[oo0_boo_0oo]

I'm pickey with both males and females! and I'm pickey in similar ways to both sexes... eg I'm not one for blondes...

 

[blue eyed muse]

i find that i'm picky when it comes to girls and my husband is pretty picky when it comes to guys. it's a completely different story if we sort of know the people though. once we actually know someone a little bit, their appearance becomes less and less important. for some reason though, on a completely physical level i'm very picky when it comes to women.

lately i've been getting less picky for both sexes. i hope thats a trend that lasts. getting hung up on physical attraction is kind of silly. when you make love to a person, it's not only physical. i can't think in terms of purely physical for very long at all, and especially in a sexual or sensual setting.

 

[Rhys]

I am picky but it has more to do with the way a person thinks not the way they look or dress. Looks are important but I am more inclined to be attracted to an intellect or personality first.

I am just weird that way I guess.

 

[ammre]

well i mean pickey about mental characteristics as well often.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Pickiness

I am way more picky when it comes to guys as there are very few I actually like. (and most of the guys I do like and can hang out with are gay)

Women on the other hand are all beautiful to me and even though i have my preferences (Caramel skin, dark hair, sloe eyed, tall, built with a healthy ass and breasts) I have never dated a woman (or not dated a woman) because of those preferences.

The traits I do worry about are all emotional (mental):honesty, goal-oriented, intelligent etc, etc.

A guy has to be damn near perfect to get through all of my defenses; a woman just has to be herself.

pet

 

[april-wine]

Re: Pickiness

I am way more picky when it comes to guys as there are very few I actually like. (and most of the guys I do like and can hang out with are gay)

Women on the other hand are all beautiful to me and even though i have my preferences (Caramel skin, dark hair, sloe eyed, tall, built with a healthy ass and breasts) I have never dated a woman (or not dated a woman) because of those preferences.

The traits I do worry about are all emotional (mental):honesty, goal-oriented, intelligent etc, etc.

A guy has to be damn near perfect to get through all of my defenses; a woman just has to be herself.

pet

Damnnnnnnnn caramel skin, I better get to the tanning booth....

 

[Quint]

Well, I'm attracted to beauty in women and strength in men. Occasionally I get it backwards but that's usually how it goes. Emotionally, I prefer women who are completely into it and men who are more distant (or at least seem to be). And of course, I'm much pickier about men as far as D/s goes---if they act hesitant or indecisive, it's pretty much over. Girls can let me be the strong one, or they can throw me on my ass. Whichever.

 

[Pookie]

I do look for some different things when looking at men vs women. But I wouldn't say that I have higher standards for one or the other.

 

[Mikijl Dragon]

I like ordinary guys or full on TV I really dont care for the flambouyant type, but if i get to know someone and liek them looks dont matter but then its just about the person not the looks.

 

[Effigy]

But anyway, Do you ever notice you have higher standards for one gender than the others?

Not higher standard, but slightly different standards

Guys I'm more picky about, which is why I havent seriously had one in years... girls I'm apparentally not so much

And I looooovve Q!

 

[John Doe]

I do look for some different things when looking at men vs women. But I wouldn't say that I have higher standards for one or the other.

 

[lovelylisa]

Re: Pickiness

Women on the other hand are all beautiful to me and even though i have my preferences (Caramel skin, dark hair, sloe eyed, tall, built with a healthy ass and breasts)
pet

You rang?

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Re: Re: Pickiness

You rang?

LOL....

 

[lovelylisa]

Re: Re: Re: Pickiness

LOL....

 

[gumbie]

Picky, picky...

i am picky about men and women insofar as they need to be clean, polite and well-mannered in public. In private... ;-)

 

[LarzMachine]

(this pretty much refers to the bisexuals -and up- out there, but everyone is invited to comment on their preferences)
I'm fresh out of a plain ol' heterosexual relationship and i want to try some more stuff with girls. Unfortunatelly, i'm really REALLY pickey about females. Males oddley enough i'm not pickey about, but females i like em thin, athelitic, perferibly smallish breasts, aggressive yet feminine. That's somewhat hypocritical of me considering i'm pretty much none of those.

But anyway, Do you ever notice you have higher standards for one gender than the others?

Sounds like my taste in women.

And yeah, I've noticed I'm not that picky when it comes to guys, but I am fairly picky with women.

 

[BohemianEcstasy]

I'm somewhat like that. I mean, I prefer different things depending on the gender when it comes to appearance. e.g.,

Guys--Heightwise, taller than I am is preferrable. Tall, dark, and handsome blows my mind. Ditto for long hair. I don't like 'em skinny, usually. Facial hair is always, ALWAYS a plus. Baritone or bass for voice.

Girls--around my height is good. Brunettes are so much better than blondes. I love long hair (past the shoulders) or really short hair (pixie cuts, not too butch). Buildwise, I prefer a little bit curvy or athletic. Alto voice, usually.

Behaviourally, I want the same from both--straight edge, activist, intelligent, kind/tender, etc.

And I think it's because of these different preferences that I'm more picky with girls than with guys, just because there aren't as many girls who fit the bill, it seems.

Part of it, though, could be the socialization of beauty. I mean, the media is far more picky for women, so our minds can be shaped very early on to find different features attractive and have different standards of beauty for women than for men because that's what we've been taught.

 

[OzDvl]

For me to be attracted to a female it is not so much the outer beauty..I think if you look further into the person soul and get to know them they are beatiful..but if we are talking about what we like on the outside, a girl with a wicked grin and mischievous eyes will always get in my head

same goes with being with guys..you can find someone that fits your checklist of what you find physically attactive..but more importantly they have to be emotionally attractive other wise your just dating a empty shell