Being naughty, yet deeply shy.

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

I'm extremely naughty, yet I am deeply shy. This is sort of a problem for me, because sometimes I feel as if I hold myself back because I'm scared and nervous about letting this other side out and just let go. Sometimes I need to just let go and not worry or think so much. There's things that arouse me and I know that they arouse me, I still hold myself back sometimes and it gets frustrating.

One of my fetishes is sex toys, lingerie and dirty talking. Dirty talking seems to arouse me and helps me move on past things. I've had boyfriends in the past and I let go with them at certain moments, just not completely. The one thing that scares me I think is that I tend to think of being bad or that I'm a slut for doing certain things, so I hold myself back. Feel ashamed and I'm trying to get past these things, so I know longer become ashamed of certain things that arouse me. Believe this is one of the reasons why I decided to join Literotica, so I could push past these fears and not become afraid anymore when it comes to sexual things.

Just wanted to express this because it's been sort of frustrating me a lot lately and troubling me a bit. Anytime I open up and write more about my fetishes and kinks on here, I feel relieved to have shared it. Yet nobody knows about these things and I tend to hide them from a lot of people. I'm deeply shy about the things that arouse me or turn me on. I think way too much about things. Sometimes I wish I could just let go and not worry/think so much. *sighs* Thanks for listening. I'm glad I finally admitted this. I feel relieved.

 

[TheDarksiders]

We get it! Until we found each other on Lit, we also kept our pervy longings to ourselves. We now find it to be utter bliss to share them with each other. In fact, we find the secrecy around our kinks and fetishes to be erotic in itself.

Perhaps you can take some pleasure--instead of shame--in holding close your naughty thoughts? Perhaps there's something fun in walking the world and knowing that no one would guess that you're ... "bad"?

It would be helpful to say that you'll find others out here who share your inappropriate desires ... but the truth is that it's pretty hard to find someone who is deeply kinky/dirty/"bad" ... and is also grown-up and sane.

Good luck!

 

[Tcs1956]

I'm extremely naughty, yet I am deeply shy. This is sort of a problem for me, because sometimes I feel as if I hold myself back because I'm scared and nervous about letting this other side out and just let go. Sometimes I need to just let go and not worry or think so much. There's things that arouse me and I know that they arouse me, I still hold myself back sometimes and it gets frustrating.

One of my fetishes is sex toys, lingerie and dirty talking. Dirty talking seems to arouse me and helps me move on past things. I've had boyfriends in the past and I let go with them at certain moments, just not completely. The one thing that scares me I think is that I tend to think of being bad or that I'm a slut for doing certain things, so I hold myself back. Feel ashamed and I'm trying to get past these things, so I know longer become ashamed of certain things that arouse me. Believe this is one of the reasons why I decided to join Literotica, so I could push past these fears and not become afraid anymore when it comes to sexual things.

Just wanted to express this because it's been sort of frustrating me a lot lately and troubling me a bit. Anytime I open up and write more about my fetishes and kinks on here, I feel relieved to have shared it. Yet nobody knows about these things and I tend to hide them from a lot of people. I'm deeply shy about the things that arouse me or turn me on. I think way too much about things. Sometimes I wish I could just let go and not worry/think so much. *sighs* Thanks for listening. I'm glad I finally admitted this. I feel relieved.

WOW! Are you my wife? I’m in a hurry right now but this sounds so much like my sexy wife! Maybe we can chat sometime.

 

[Mtnmike]

I'm extremely naughty, yet I am deeply shy. This is sort of a problem for me, because sometimes I feel as if I hold myself back because I'm scared and nervous about letting this other side out and just let go. Sometimes I need to just let go and not worry or think so much. There's things that arouse me and I know that they arouse me, I still hold myself back sometimes and it gets frustrating.

One of my fetishes is sex toys, lingerie and dirty talking. Dirty talking seems to arouse me and helps me move on past things. I've had boyfriends in the past and I let go with them at certain moments, just not completely. The one thing that scares me I think is that I tend to think of being bad or that I'm a slut for doing certain things, so I hold myself back. Feel ashamed and I'm trying to get past these things, so I know longer become ashamed of certain things that arouse me. Believe this is one of the reasons why I decided to join Literotica, so I could push past these fears and not become afraid anymore when it comes to sexual things.

Just wanted to express this because it's been sort of frustrating me a lot lately and troubling me a bit. Anytime I open up and write more about my fetishes and kinks on here, I feel relieved to have shared it. Yet nobody knows about these things and I tend to hide them from a lot of people. I'm deeply shy about the things that arouse me or turn me on. I think way too much about things. Sometimes I wish I could just let go and not worry/think so much. *sighs* Thanks for listening. I'm glad I finally admitted this. I feel relieved.

Hi BBS, very well written. I am in the same boat, every time I've tried to open up with a partner, I've been called a pervert, insane etc. So like you I shut down years ago and know that I'm older I'm always wondering what I missed out on. I'm a good listener and don't judge people, so if you'd ever like to talk, just pm me and maybe we can help one another rise from our shells.

 

[TheWorldBuilder]

I'm extremely naughty, yet I am deeply shy. This is sort of a problem for me, because sometimes I feel as if I hold myself back because I'm scared and nervous about letting this other side out and just let go. Sometimes I need to just let go and not worry or think so much. There's things that arouse me and I know that they arouse me, I still hold myself back sometimes and it gets frustrating.

One of my fetishes is sex toys, lingerie and dirty talking. Dirty talking seems to arouse me and helps me move on past things. I've had boyfriends in the past and I let go with them at certain moments, just not completely. The one thing that scares me I think is that I tend to think of being bad or that I'm a slut for doing certain things, so I hold myself back. Feel ashamed and I'm trying to get past these things, so I know longer become ashamed of certain things that arouse me. Believe this is one of the reasons why I decided to join Literotica, so I could push past these fears and not become afraid anymore when it comes to sexual things.

Just wanted to express this because it's been sort of frustrating me a lot lately and troubling me a bit. Anytime I open up and write more about my fetishes and kinks on here, I feel relieved to have shared it. Yet nobody knows about these things and I tend to hide them from a lot of people. I'm deeply shy about the things that arouse me or turn me on. I think way too much about things. Sometimes I wish I could just let go and not worry/think so much. *sighs* Thanks for listening. I'm glad I finally admitted this. I feel relieved.

Feeling relaxed around a potential lover is so important. I'm usually outgoing and confident, but if there's any sort of tension or miscommunication leading up to intimacy I just can't get into it. Finding that person who you can totally open up to can be difficult. Most British people are more reserved than I am when it comes to discussing sexual matters, whereas my continental friends treat the Anglo-Saxon attitude to sex as comedic.

All I can offer is: don't force it, take your time and find the genuine diamonds who 'get you' in your posts.

WB

 

[FGB]

Sigh.

What I have made ladies like this into!

A raving Sexaholic Lunatic just ready to happen.


Damned shame you don't live closer to East Texas...

 

[Erosfan]

I'm extremely naughty, yet I am deeply shy. This is sort of a problem for me, because sometimes I feel as if I hold myself back because I'm scared and nervous about letting this other side out and just let go. Sometimes I need to just let go and not worry or think so much. There's things that arouse me and I know that they arouse me, I still hold myself back sometimes and it gets frustrating.

One of my fetishes is sex toys, lingerie and dirty talking. Dirty talking seems to arouse me and helps me move on past things. I've had boyfriends in the past and I let go with them at certain moments, just not completely. The one thing that scares me I think is that I tend to think of being bad or that I'm a slut for doing certain things, so I hold myself back. Feel ashamed and I'm trying to get past these things, so I know longer become ashamed of certain things that arouse me. Believe this is one of the reasons why I decided to join Literotica, so I could push past these fears and not become afraid anymore when it comes to sexual things.

Just wanted to express this because it's been sort of frustrating me a lot lately and troubling me a bit. Anytime I open up and write more about my fetishes and kinks on here, I feel relieved to have shared it. Yet nobody knows about these things and I tend to hide them from a lot of people. I'm deeply shy about the things that arouse me or turn me on. I think way too much about things. Sometimes I wish I could just let go and not worry/think so much. *sighs* Thanks for listening. I'm glad I finally admitted this. I feel relieved.

Thanks for sharing this. You sound a lot like my late wife. She was very shy and she loved sex. We had some great times. I was shy back then as well. We kind of worked through our inhibitions over time and really enjoyed ourselves.
I remarried and now have a wife that is very open to most things sexual. She makes me feel quite normal. She calls me her slut and I love that.
With all that said, people we are friends with would be shocked to know what we do when we are alone.
Don't ever give up. You are on the right track.

 

[HornyProf]

I'm extremely naughty, yet I am deeply shy. This is sort of a problem for me, because sometimes I feel as if I hold myself back because I'm scared and nervous about letting this other side out and just let go. Sometimes I need to just let go and not worry or think so much. There's things that arouse me and I know that they arouse me, I still hold myself back sometimes and it gets frustrating.

One of my fetishes is sex toys, lingerie and dirty talking. Dirty talking seems to arouse me and helps me move on past things. I've had boyfriends in the past and I let go with them at certain moments, just not completely. The one thing that scares me I think is that I tend to think of being bad or that I'm a slut for doing certain things, so I hold myself back. Feel ashamed and I'm trying to get past these things, so I know longer become ashamed of certain things that arouse me. Believe this is one of the reasons why I decided to join Literotica, so I could push past these fears and not become afraid anymore when it comes to sexual things.

Just wanted to express this because it's been sort of frustrating me a lot lately and troubling me a bit. Anytime I open up and write more about my fetishes and kinks on here, I feel relieved to have shared it. Yet nobody knows about these things and I tend to hide them from a lot of people. I'm deeply shy about the things that arouse me or turn me on. I think way too much about things. Sometimes I wish I could just let go and not worry/think so much. *sighs* Thanks for listening. I'm glad I finally admitted this. I feel relieved.

Your openness is wonderful. I do think these issues arise from the combination of basic reptilian desires and our big brains and complex social norms that overlay it.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I'm extremely naughty, yet I am deeply shy. This is sort of a problem for me, because sometimes I feel as if I hold myself back because I'm scared and nervous about letting this other side out and just let go. Sometimes I need to just let go and not worry or think so much. There's things that arouse me and I know that they arouse me, I still hold myself back sometimes and it gets frustrating.

One of my fetishes is sex toys, lingerie and dirty talking. Dirty talking seems to arouse me and helps me move on past things. I've had boyfriends in the past and I let go with them at certain moments, just not completely. The one thing that scares me I think is that I tend to think of being bad or that I'm a slut for doing certain things, so I hold myself back. Feel ashamed and I'm trying to get past these things, so I know longer become ashamed of certain things that arouse me. Believe this is one of the reasons why I decided to join Literotica, so I could push past these fears and not become afraid anymore when it comes to sexual things.

Just wanted to express this because it's been sort of frustrating me a lot lately and troubling me a bit. Anytime I open up and write more about my fetishes and kinks on here, I feel relieved to have shared it. Yet nobody knows about these things and I tend to hide them from a lot of people. I'm deeply shy about the things that arouse me or turn me on. I think way too much about things. Sometimes I wish I could just let go and not worry/think so much. *sighs* Thanks for listening. I'm glad I finally admitted this. I feel relieved.

Thank you for sharing and opening up - even on an anonymous forum like this with a bunch of perverts lurking around I know it isn't always easy being so honest. It is certainly a first step in coming to terms with your hidden self. I think what you express is more common than what you might imagine. Many of us have secret lives, secret desires, secret fantasies that scare us for various reasons - often by mixed up ideas of sex and sexuality.

The biggest challenge is finding a partner who not only values your hidden desires, but has the capacity to draw them out of you, to guide you to fulfilling your desires, to providing you the space and experiences to being fully you. Not all of us are so giving, as the tendency is always to approach sex through very selfish lens of self-gratification.

I hope you find some outlet for your needs and desires. Have you thought of making your own videos or taking some pics (not necessarily to share on here, but for yourself)? Do you provide yourself the private time to explore fully your interests in toys and lingerie?

I know it is easier said than done, but you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of - being a sexual being is being human