Being kissed by a gay man.

[Ms_Lilith]

A little while ago, a friend of mine who'd recently come out, but had never been with anyone, took me out for dinner. He knew I was bisexual, and wanted to talk about being queer, what it meant, how people treat you, and that sort of thing. I think he needed a sounding board for his confusions more than anything else, and I was happy to do it, being as I love this person to pieces, and want him to be happy.

In the middle of dinner, he asked me to lean forward, rather abruptly. I thought I had like, ketchup on my face, or spinach in my teeth or something, and he was going to point it out, or remove it. Something of that sort.

Instead, he leaned across, and kissed me. My eyes flew open, and then I sat back, stunned afterward.

He smiled at me, and told me I was his first heterosexual kiss, and his first KISS, and that I would be his last heterosexual kiss.

While I'm flattered, I'm a little confused.

Have any of you who are gay or straight kissed someone your orientation would generally keep you from kissing? Ever done it like my friend did? Why did you do it?

I'm asking because I'm wondering if he felt like it was something he had to do before he went on with the gay lifestyle, or if it was just a spur-of-the-moment thing, or if I'm just thinking about it too much. I'm just confused.

Help. Please.



Thanks!

 

[Netzach]

Not sure of this guys motives but I've been smooched by the occasional gay leatherguy. We're both on the same page that it means pretty much affection and nothing romantic or loin-grabbing.

 

[jessy19]

damn! I wish a gay guy would kiss me! mmmm!

 

[quietlyHot]

I'm asking because I'm wondering if he felt like it was something he had to do before he went on with the gay lifestyle, or if it was just a spur-of-the-moment thing, or if I'm just thinking about it too much. I'm just confused.

Help. Please.

Thanks!

I think he was trying to tell you how much he loves and wanted you to be the only women he ever kissed. It was a gift, and a surprize party but a gift nonetheless.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Re: Re: Being kissed by a gay man.

I think he was trying to tell you how much he loves and wanted you to be the only women he ever kissed. It was a gift, and a surprize party but a gift nonetheless.

I thought of it as something of a gift.. and like I said, I'm super-flattered.. but.. just... I guess I'm still a little blown away by it all..

 

[Bitchslapper]

I'd have to agree with the consensus here. Without knowing more, I'd guess it was just friendly, not "loin-grabbing."

 

[Cigan]

Sounds sort of Loki like. I'd say be flattered and go on with life. Sometimes kissing when there can be no hormonal attachment is nice, and he was probably just wanting to experience that on a spur of the moment.

 

[ScarredSoul82]

I've been kissed by gay men before, I find it flattering.
In fact, today out of the blue my best friend...who happens to be gay asked me if I would ever consider marrying him....his last boyfriend cheated on him and he hasn't been having much luck since then, he's sick of the whole scene sort of. He just wants someone to cuddle with, drink with, talk to, etc...everything we do now....but I don't know....
The whole situation made me think of an ep. of Will and Grace, when Will and Grace joked about getting married and how within the first month they would end up both having affairs...I don't know though.
Like everyone else said I'd be flattered to be chosen for something that special.