Being "hard" while dancing (club)

[csanders2]

Guys and Gals-

I am 21, almost 22 and I have an odd question. Recently I have been going clubbing a lot - and having a great time. But I sometimes wonder about getting "excited" while dancing with a girl. I don't know if the ladies expect or enjoy it, or if it is a turn off when a guy gets hard when we are getting into it. If it is a turn off - what can I do to hide it, or prevent it? I have some ideas, but nothing seems reasonable. I guess I want some input on this from both sides, let me know what you think.

Thanks.

 

[car nut]

Duct Tape?

 

[flawed_ethics]

Embarrassing, isn't it? And it's not like you can stop, because you know they're going to ask, and you can't just say "''Cause my freind Woody is here."

I've had it go both way for me. I too am curious to hear others opinions (and to think, I thought it was just me)!

 

[JRaven]

In the fickle mind of this woman...

If I like the guy, I think of it as a wordless compliment. And something to take care of for him.

If I don't really like the guy, and he has a woody from dancing with me, he's a pervert and I won't make the mistake of dancing with him again.

Sometimes us women will dance with a guy we don't really care for, just to let the ones we do like know that we're approachable.

:sigh:
Haven't been dancing in years. But your Q does bring up some fond memories.

 

[TaintedB]

If this bothers you personally or is a source of embarassment, why not masturbate just before you go out?

 

[fgarvb1]

If you are slow dancing and she is rubbing it all over your crotch and has her tits rubbing your chest, how do you not get a hard on?

 

[ReadyOne]

Go ahead and don't try to hide it. Girls aren't dumb, they know what it is and why it's there. They will deal with it how ever they choose, mostly by quietly enjoying their effect on you.

If they don't like it, then they don't like you, and that's good to know so you both can move on.

If they ignore it, don't be shy. Just keep doing what you've been doing.

If they rub against it or even fondle it a bit then you're doing another step in the great dance of love.

 

[dollface007]

Unless she initiates the grinding in the pelvic area, step back a little. And please please don't go up to random girls in a club and start rubbing your stiffy all over them. Yes, guys do that. Yes, ReadyOne probably does that. He knows nothing about women. Since I AM a woman, I can tell you that you should err on the side of not being that skeevy guy who can't control his dick on the dance floor.

Take TaintedB's advice and masturbate beforehand.


Oh, and don't tell me you've never heard the following song. It got constant airplay in the late 90s. I was in college at the time, so frequented alot of dance clubs and it really hit home. My friends and I deemed it the creepiest song ever written:

Baby when we're grinding
I get so excited
Oh how I like it
I try but I can't fight it
Oh you're dancing real close
Plus it's real real slow
You're making it hard for me

All the slow songs you requested
You're dancing like you're naked
Oh it's almost like
We're sexing

Yeah ooh I like it
No I can't deny it
But I know you can tell I'm excited

Step back you're dancing kind of close
I feel a little pull coming through
On you

Now girl I know you felt it
Before you know I can't help it
You know what I want to do

Baby when we're grinding
I get so excited
Oh how I like it
I try but I can't fight it
Oh you're dancing real close
Plus it's real real slow
You're making it hard for me

Baby us dancing so close
Ain't a good idea
'Cause now I want you now and here
The way that you shake it on me
Makes me want you so bad sexually

Step back you're dancing kind of close
I feel a little pull coming through
On you

Now girl I know you felt it
Before you know I can't help it
You know what I want to do

Baby when we're grinding
I get so excited
Oh how I like it
I try but I can't fight it
Oh you're dancing real close
Plus it's real real slow
You're making it hard for me

I love when you shake like that
I see that you like it like that
I love when you shake like that
I see that you like it like that

Baby when we're grinding
I get so excited
Oh how I like it
I try but I can't fight it
Oh you're dancing real close
Plus it's real real slow
You're making it hard for me

Baby when we're grinding
I get so excited
Oh how I like it
I try but I can't fight it
Oh you're dancing real close
Plus it's real real slow
You're making it hard for me
-Blue

 

[ReadyOne]

Unless she initiates the grinding in the pelvic area, step back a little. And please please don't go up to random girls in a club and start rubbing your stiffy all over them. Yes, guys do that. Yes, ReadyOne probably does that. He knows nothing about women. Since I AM a woman, I can tell you that you should err on the side of not being that skeevy guy who can't control his dick on the dance floor.

You have a dirty mind.

A guy would know that "Doing what you've been doing" means "making room for your erection by adjusting your pants as needed."

A guy would also know that "Doing what you've been doing" does not mean "try calculating the square root of pi to kill your horniness and make your hard-on go away".

Did I ever say "start grinding it against her?"

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

This is just me....

But I don't care if I just masturbated in the men's room of the club. If an attractive woman started dancing with me (not grinding) I would get a hardon. That is just the way it works. We ( the male animal) are visually stimulated. I find it funny that woman know this but then become offened when someone else stimulates us.

But hey what do I know I am just a man

Holden

 

[trinityjons]

Okay, If this was a guy that I liked and had already been intimate with, or knew I was soon going to be intimate with-it would probably turn me on.

If it was just some casual dance partner I wouldn't be offended, I don't think you can help it after all, but I would prefer that it be dealt with as discreetly as possible and not brought to the center of my attention. I would probably just ignore it and keep dancing in that case. If you needed to excuse yourself to visit the restroom, I would not feel abandoned in the slightest.

So I say, if you can deal with it by ignoring it then do. If not, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom. You don't have to add that it's the enormous bulge in your pants that necessitates the visit, no woman will interrogate you if you say you need to go the john.

 

[College_geek]

I've never gone to a club or dancing (if I ever did, I'd be the wallflower), but if someone actually asked me to dance and I was put into a situation such as this, I would probably be flattered sexually, because rarely do I make that effect on the guys up here at school.

 

[Cakegirl]

Go ahead and don't try to hide it. Girls aren't dumb, they know what it is and why it's there. They will deal with it how ever they choose, mostly by quietly enjoying their effect on you.

If they don't like it, then they don't like you, and that's good to know so you both can move on.

If they ignore it, don't be shy. Just keep doing what you've been doing.

If they rub against it or even fondle it a bit then you're doing another step in the great dance of love.

Actually, I agree with everything ReadyOne said. And I'm a woman.

Cakegirl

 

[pii_smith]

i dont dance often and even more rare i would get a hardon from it..... but i rmember this one drunken evening with a girl on a very loud dance floor. we not even talked a word but after some random touching we got closer and closer and in the end it was nearlly like fucking but with all our cloth on, in the middle of the room. funny thing is that after this wordless 30mins i never saw her again.

 

[csanders2]

Appears to be mixed results - just as I suspected. I think that I will try masturbating before heading to the clubs, but as someone else stated - it's probably not going to make much of a difference. Also, if I masturbate at 10 - before heading out, I know that by 2am that will no longer be "sufficient" in restricting my arousal. I guess I am just going to take some measures to hide or lessen the effects of my excitement, and otherwise just let nature take its course. I guess I havent had any women leave quickly when I got hard, so it cant be that big of a deal. Thanks for your input guys.

 

[mystic_maiden32]

Re: In the fickle mind of this woman...

If I like the guy, I think of it as a wordless compliment. And something to take care of for him.

If I don't really like the guy, and he has a woody from dancing with me, he's a pervert and I won't make the mistake of dancing with him again.

Sometimes us women will dance with a guy we don't really care for, just to let the ones we do like know that we're approachable.

:sigh:
Haven't been dancing in years. But your Q does bring up some fond memories.

I agree 110%. couldn't have said it better myself!

 

[manofsteel52]

I've never gotten a hardon from dancing with someone I've met casually. The ones I've had have always been with a woman I've had a relationship with, we both were into it, and it's always turned out to be a steamin' night...

 

[Raeth]

Take TaintedB's advice and masturbate beforehand.

I don't think that this is a solution for most guys here in their early 20's. Past that I don't know, haven't gotten that far. It's just not that hard to get aroused. I could go masturbate right now and never actually lose an erection.

If you want to dance like that then you should know the effect it's going to have. If you don't like it just don't dance with him anymore, no need to be nasty about it. If you really just want it to go away I guess you could just babble about your mother or something.

On the other hand... if some guy is forcing his erection on you I hope you rip him a new one.