Being Easily Forgotten

[Johnny Mayberry]

Have you ever felt like this? Like, everyone is nice to you to your face, no one seems to dislike you, and then, *poof*, you completely disappear from their minds the second you walk out of the room? Well, that's how I feel, all the time. People act like they are my friend, and I'm sure that the like me, in a way, but then when it comes time to make plans for the weekend, unless I am in teh room, they forget all about me. I've had people actually walk up to me, seemingly angry, and ask me why I didn't show up for a birthday party, and then have to patiently explain that they never actually bothered to invite me. I've had people forget that I worked in the same building as them, and was once promoted in the Marines because everyone forgot I existed.

Is it possible to make such a small impact on those around you that you may as well not exist at all? How many of you are going to scroll down the list of threads, and not even see this one?

 

[april-wine]

EVERYONE has invisabilty issues....Some days I get phone calls, where the caller asks to talk with my co-worker....We do exactly the same job....Ahhhh well, I just figure at least I am tied up on the phone lol....There's an saying the squeeky wheel gets the oil....The more people whine and complain the more they get noticed....Apparently YOU and I aren't those people lol....

 

[tyme]

I know how you feel. you have alot of friends but no close friends or only one or two. story of my life. Its worse for me I am stuck in my house unable to leave only going out a few times a week at most. so I really get forgotten now.

edited for spelling

 

[medjay]

Is it possible to make such a small impact on those around you that you may as well not exist at all?

You know what you should do? Wear a top hat and a cape everywhere you go. That way no one will ever forget you!

 

[juicylips]

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You know what you should do? Wear a top hat and a cape everywhere you go. That way no one will ever forget you!

Is that your secret?

 

[medjay]

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Is that your secret?

Yeah, and I've got a pair of tight-ass yellow plaid pants like Daniel Day-Lewis in Gangs of New York. Chicks love it!

 

[juicylips]

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Yeah, and I've got a pair of tight-ass yellow plaid pants like Daniel Day-Lewis in Gangs of New York. Chicks love it!

I've not seen that movie, yet.

Any good?

 

[medjay]

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I've not seen that movie, yet.

Any good?

Good. Not Scorsese's best, though.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

See, I've done things to try to boost my 'visibility'...but that gets tiring pretty quick, and as soon as I stop, I sink back into obscurity again. I think the worst of it is when I stoop to getting attention, and it is the wrong kind, and I still wind up being invisible and ignored. Sometimes, it makes it hard to get out of bed, especially when you feel certain that no one will notice if you don't.

 

[medjay]

See, I've done things to try to boost my 'visibility'...but that gets tiring pretty quick

What kind of "things"?

 

[Quiet_Cool]

The General Board...

Basically, I'm like that here. On the ORP board they know me fairly well, but things moved too quickly here on the board. It's odd how people seem to know each other so well here...How do they find the time to be here and post so often?
In all honesty, I don't care much about my existance here, it just came to mind that it seemed that way when you brought it up.
*shrugs*
Oh, well. RL is the real issue isn't it?
I'm pretty much in the same boat you are. It's to the point where people who know me better know me as a listener, since I rarely talk much about myself, just tell jokes and goof off. I figured a long time ago, what's the point? No one's listening anyway...
Now, they ask me to talk, and I don't know what to say...

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Well, I've only been here a week, so i don't expect anyone here to be my best friend or anything. RL is the real problem. No one knows me, no one notices me. I barely even register with my family. All I got for Christmas this year was gift cards...I'm 28 years old, and no one knows enough about me to buy me a gift.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Johnny, and I say this sincerely and without malice, if this many people in your life find you invisible, I would suggest that you might want to look at yourself for the answer, because, after all, you are the common denominator in all of these relationships. Yes?

 

[juicylips]

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Good. Not Scorsese's best, though.

Is Daniel Day-Lewis as good as the reviewers say?

 

[Carp]

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Is Daniel Day-Lewis as good as the reviewers say?

Ummm Juicy!!!

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Johnny, and I say this sincerely and without malice, if this many people in your life find you invisible, I would suggest that you might want to look at yourself for the answer, because, after all, you are the common denominator in all of these relationships. Yes?

Trust me, I have...and I do assume that I have a big chunk to do with it, but i don't know how it happens, or what I can do about it! I don't understand how it could be nearly universal, unless it is my fault. And if I am so invisible...should I just quit trying and pull away from everyone, so at least I would be invisible by choice?

 

[Carp]

Trust me, I have...and I do assume that I have a big chunk to do with it, but i don't know how it happens, or what I can do about it! I don't understand how it could be nearly universal, unless it is my fault. And if I am so invisible...should I just quit trying and pull away from everyone, so at least I would be invisible by choice?

OK, here's the deal. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Are you just hanging around, letting life flow around you? Waiting for someone to notice you? Ya gotta be seen to get noticed.

Are you shy? There's nothing wrong with that, but if so, you have to make an effort to put yourself out there. Talk to people! Be seen! Don't worry about failing, or that someone won't like you! Take charge of your life. Lord knows, no-one else can!

There's the 20 second pop-psych statement. PM me if you ever want to talk.

Carpe Carpio! (sieze the carp, for those who, like me, are latin impaired- did you see this, Juicy- Sieze the carp???)

 

[juicylips]

Carpe Carpio! (sieze the carp, for those who, like me, are latin impaired- did you see this, Juicy- Sieze the carp???)

Yes...I saw it.

You make me laugh.

 

[juicylips]

Johnny...forgive me for popping in here and posting all around you. It's a legitimate thread about your pain. I didn't mean to make light of it.

 

[bknight2602]

There are times when I feel forgotten, but then reality slips back in rears its ugly head!

One can't be the center of attraction all the time.

 

[medjay]

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Is Daniel Day-Lewis as good as the reviewers say?

Yes he is. And then some.

Now let's all concentrate on helping Mr. Mayberry through this rough period.

 

[weed]

Trust me, I have...and I do assume that I have a big chunk to do with it, but i don't know how it happens, or what I can do about it! I don't understand how it could be nearly universal, unless it is my fault. And if I am so invisible...should I just quit trying and pull away from everyone, so at least I would be invisible by choice?

I know how you feel. Offline I'm a quiet sort. I encourage folks to talk to me but I'm often too shy to talk about myself or my ideas. Socially, anyway. The workplace is different but even those friends don't seem to feel like engaging me in any other way than professionally and in the workplace.

It's ok for me because I've come to realize I don't have a lot in common with them anyway.

I think if you can have even one or two good friends to talk to and go out and do things with you are blessed and I would encourage you to be yourself. Sooner or later those friends will be obvious to you.

Lit has been nice for me because I can make contact with people without worrying about making plans. And I can do it in my jammies.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

If I were just shy, I would know where to lay the blame...people seem to like me, seem to be interested in me, but only when I am physically present. As soon as I'm out of the room, I seem to get forgotten again. It's the strangest feeling, as though I only register on the top part of people's consciousness. I never seem to make a deeper connection with anyone, at least not anymore. Sometimes I do make that sort of connection, but it is so rare, so infrequent, that it sometimes doesn't seem worth all the effort.

juicylips, you've got nothing to apologise for...chatting around a thread is standard behavior online, and I'm used to it, not to mention guilty of it myself.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Trust me, I have...and I do assume that I have a big chunk to do with it, but i don't know how it happens, or what I can do about it! I don't understand how it could be nearly universal, unless it is my fault. And if I am so invisible...should I just quit trying and pull away from everyone, so at least I would be invisible by choice?

I think it's about letting yourself be vulnerable with people, Johnny. You already pull away. Is that making you happy? If not, try something new. Connect with people intimately. Be open. It's scary, but the rewards are worth it.

We're all scared, but when you open up, you make those around you feel secure in doing so as well.

It's a good thing.

 

[weed]

If I were just shy, I would know where to lay the blame...people seem to like me, seem to be interested in me, but only when I am physically present. As soon as I'm out of the room, I seem to get forgotten again. It's the strangest feeling, as though I only register on the top part of people's consciousness. I never seem to make a deeper connection with anyone, at least not anymore. Sometimes I do make that sort of connection, but it is so rare, so infrequent, that it sometimes doesn't seem worth all the effort.

juicylips, you've got nothing to apologise for...chatting around a thread is standard behavior online, and I'm used to it, not to mention guilty of it myself.

Are you ever the one to make the plans?

Do you engage them?