Being aggressive in a roleplay

[Jenn1982]

Ok, my husband wants us to do a roleplay in which I am the aggressor/seducer. I am pretty submissive in the bedroom and I'm not sure how to go about this. I can't even seem to think of a good roleplay that would work for this. I want him to enjoy it so I'm hoping that someone here can give me some tips on being more dominating for the roleplay. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

 

[alonelygal]

Consider perusing the BDSM Talk Library. Maybe check the threads under the category of *Dominance* .


Have fun and play safe...

joanna

 

[SmilinAngel]

All I know about this (from a friend who roleplays quite often) is that there needs to be a 'safety word' like, if things get to be too much, and you want to stop, you can't just say 'stop' because you're roleplaying, the other person won't know if you're serious or not. So, you've gotta come up with a non-related word to let the other person know when/if you want to stop. It can be as simple as 'blue' or 'sofa,' so forth and so on. Anyway, have fun, and good luck!

 

[herecomestherain]

http://www.akashaweb.com/goodgirl.html Lots of info here.


Play safe

 

[Jenn1982]

Thanks for all the great ideas so far. I will check out those links right away.

 

[DarkLover]

Jenn,

One thing to keep in mind is that your husband WANTS you to take control of him. The secret desire of most men is to be used as a sex object by a sexy woman. So if your husband is typical, chances are he will have absolutely no problem with anything you do. Think of ways in which you can make him pleasure you (oral or whatever) and then DEMAND that he do it. You see, the pleasure for him here is not just in his orgasm (although that will be fun too) but also in the mindset. He will get great pleasure from just FEELING helpless. It's more of a psychological thrill than anything else.

 

[Jezebelle1458]

many times it's not so much being in control,but just the illusion of control that does it.