Begging for tips on begging

[one_in_four]

Hello, I'm a new member but long-time lurker here. My husband and I have a D/s relationship, it didn't start that way, it evolved over time. We have a couple that we are friends with and have always been flirtatious with them and they are the only ones that ever picked up on the D/s aspect of our lives. They were over for dinner a few weeks ago and we played a game of Truth or Dare and my husband dared me to crawl to the other woman and beg her for a kiss. They later told my husband that they didn't even make it home before pulling over and having sex. Since then, we've been talking more with them about our sex life and they have expressed interest in joining us and learning more about our lifestyle. My husband told me since seeing me beg had such an effect on them, he's going to have me do it more often when they are around, and I had better get good at it.

So does anyone have any pointers on how I can improve? I try not to just say "Please" over and over, but sometimes I'm at a loss for words.

Thanks!

 

[LWulf]

A script isn't what you want. It sounds practiced and flawed. I'm a firm believer in a person not plagiarizing in the heat of the moment. If words don't come to your mind, then use actions or looks.

What comes from the heart is a heck of a lot more impressive to me than some practiced speech.

*shrugs* that's what I think at least...

 

[DVS]

Hello, I'm a new member but long-time lurker here. My husband and I have a D/s relationship, it didn't start that way, it evolved over time. We have a couple that we are friends with and have always been flirtatious with them and they are the only ones that ever picked up on the D/s aspect of our lives. They were over for dinner a few weeks ago and we played a game of Truth or Dare and my husband dared me to crawl to the other woman and beg her for a kiss. They later told my husband that they didn't even make it home before pulling over and having sex. Since then, we've been talking more with them about our sex life and they have expressed interest in joining us and learning more about our lifestyle. My husband told me since seeing me beg had such an effect on them, he's going to have me do it more often when they are around, and I had better get good at it.

So does anyone have any pointers on how I can improve? I try not to just say "Please" over and over, but sometimes I'm at a loss for words.

Thanks!

I think the more involved you get with this couple, the easier all of this will come to you. Of course, saying "please" is a given, as it is begging. But, if your husband has said he's going to have you do this more often, you might think of other things you could say, to sort of rehearse your little begging scene. I don't mean rehearse it to the point that it's word for word, but just to give you an idea of what you want to say, but not making it seem so rehearsed. It will also help you with that unnerving feeling of being the focus of attention, commonly called stage fright.

Musicians do something similar to this, when they get together and record. In some cases, musicians want an impromptu sound, something rehearsed enough that there won't be any mistakes, but not so much that it sounds too perfect. They talk over the chord structure, the key and even play through it once or twice, to get an idea of how it's going to sound. The result is a relaxed sound, but with enough personal input that it sounds fresh and unrehearsed.

To the random listener, it sounds like they just got together and started playing. That does sometimes happen, but when you are going to record it, it's sometimes better to know a little about it beforehand to help with that relaxed feeling. It allows creativity to flow.

So, just thinking about what you might say is really going to be enough. It will help you create a little mental outline of what you might say. With that outline in your head, you will still feel the erotic excitement of the moment, but with less pressure from stage fright. And be sure to look deeply into her eyes.

Just saying "please" over and over would be a little boring. But saying this a couple of times, with a little more emotion each time, could be a good way to start. Then, maybe telling her you would love to touch her soft sensuous lips with yours and maybe taste her tongue, if it finds its way into your mouth. Bring up how the scent of her hair turns you on, or maybe it's the perfume she's wearing. Breathe mostly out of your mouth while you are talking to her, so your mouth looks sensuous and inviting to her. Maybe you could even wet your lips with your tongue when you say "please" that one last time, with emotion.

And moan a little bit, while you beg. I think you'll begin to feel the power you have over her. You will have her dripping with lust for that kiss by just the simple things you say and do. She might be begging you to kiss her after a little while.

The key to all of this is you'll have more confidence. You won't be so worried about what you have to say. You'll be able to feel more "in the moment" which might even help you think of something to say. And don't be overly concerned about stuttering or stumbling over words. That just seems like you are so turned on that it's difficult to express your desire. And with a little luck, you could ignite something within your group that fuels a very sensual experience.

Good luck and have fun.

 

[damselfly_]

Hello, I'm a new member but long-time lurker here. My husband and I have a D/s relationship, it didn't start that way, it evolved over time. We have a couple that we are friends with and have always been flirtatious with them and they are the only ones that ever picked up on the D/s aspect of our lives. They were over for dinner a few weeks ago and we played a game of Truth or Dare and my husband dared me to crawl to the other woman and beg her for a kiss. They later told my husband that they didn't even make it home before pulling over and having sex. Since then, we've been talking more with them about our sex life and they have expressed interest in joining us and learning more about our lifestyle. My husband told me since seeing me beg had such an effect on them, he's going to have me do it more often when they are around, and I had better get good at it.

So does anyone have any pointers on how I can improve? I try not to just say "Please" over and over, but sometimes I'm at a loss for words.

Thanks!

When my partner or I beg, it's generally for something we really want. If it's something that you really enjoy, focus on the parts of the kiss that you like, and beg for those specific aspects. I do agree with LWulf, you don't want a script.

If the only reason you're into it is because your partner asked you to, I imagine it'll be more difficult. You could practice begging with your husband, when the two of you are alone together. It felt sort of weird the first few times I did it; I thought I sounded ridiculous. But my partner's reactions made it incredible.

Good luck.

 

[StrayKat]

Big puppy eyes welling with tears, half parted trembling lips. Soft, husky, hardly audible voice (you can say whatever, they will hear what they want to hear).
Works for me every time.
From husbands, over grocers when I forget my wallet, to police officers who stop me for speeding.

 

[NiceNastyMann]

Big puppy eyes welling with tears, half parted trembling lips. Soft, husky, hardly audible voice (you can say whatever, they will hear what they want to hear).
Works for me every time.
From husbands, over grocers when I forget my wallet, to police officers who stop me for speeding.

Tears just starting in the corner of your eyes...

I imagine they just melt like chocolate in a double boiler.

 

[KlaytonFrost]

Say what you want. Say how bad you want it. I agree that stuff you copy from other sources is never going to be as good as what comes genuinely from you, but it can be really helpful to copy stuff to begin with, to help you loosen up and get used to expressing yourself in this new way. It'll become more natural with time.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

Generic sexually charged begging feels kind of forced or staged like porn. Begging the way that comes naturally in the moment and finding chemistry there seems something far more intimate, special, and a totally different kind of fun.


Pleeeeaaase do have fun!