Been trying to get the nerve to ask this...

[InSaNe]

I have had Oral by different girls and I have never been able to cum....when they masterbate me I find myself cuming more easily.......Am I just messed up ?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

maybe you just arent that relaxed while you're receiving.. one thing that i have been told by many people on numerous occasions.. sex starts in the brain, and ends in the brain.. so its got a lot to do with your mindset.. i know if my mind is elsewhere when i'm receiving, i pretty much dry up and my man thinks he did something wrong (even though he didnt)

 

[InSaNe]

I dunno when this was all happening I had a pretty closed mind about sex in general....I was always wondering if the girl was getting anything out of it and if she wasn't It made me uncomfortable even when they where masterbating me if I wasn't in someway doing something for them it bothered me...I bet thats what it is thanks alot willing and unsure

 

[juicylips]

You are thinking WAY too much about what is happening

RELAX!! ENJOY!!

You might not have found the right person with whom you feel the most comfortable.

Or

Maybe there is a certain touch, feel or motion that would set you off.

Find someone to experiment with and have fun!!!!

Cassidy

 

[cyndiesweet]

Don't worry! Assume that she is doing it because she likes it and you. I love doing it for hubby.
Relax and enjoy. You can do it for her later.

 

[JUDO]

Is it Good?

I -

Well, it has to be done well to work. I find that many people engaged in sex see intercouse and oral as two different things. As though the stimulus sought were also different.

News flash! The nerve endings don't change. They are still in the same place and are still looking for like sensation, whether it be oral or otherwise. See note below about the higher practices of great oral sex.

A good place to start with oral (on male or female) is to know what needs to be stimulated (the where of everything). That's whey so many men say, "Give me a map!" They don't know where to begin.

But given that many of us have gotten past that first little hurdle, let's concentrate on the conceptual. Great Oral Sex Note: Now, I am referring to a good place to begin, this is not advice for the advanced sensationalists out there, who have left behind the Earthly bond and seek higher the planes of sexual experience. Just the starting point for now.

Conceptually, as the oralist, think about what your mouth, tongue, fingers are simulating. You are simulating the nerve endings that the genitals desire in sex. Hopefully, in the way that the "perfect" sexual partner would do us. You know, the one we all crave and seek.

So, in giving head to a guy, my mouth is a vagina, but with very few exceptions, the muscles of the mouth will never equal the muscles of the vagina. Hence, I need a hand (or two, depending on the depth of my task) to really recreate the sensation. Given a little practice and a lot of saliva, I can give a pretty darn good imitation of the perfect pussy.

Likewise, in giving head to a girl, my fingers can stimulate the perfect locations that the shaft of a penis should (but often don't) find. And as a fun addition, I have the added benefit of stimulating the clit (often left out in the cold by simple copulation, particularly the friggin' missionary position) with my mouth and tongue.

(Of course, there are those more fortunate than myself whose clit is actually located close enough to their vaginas to get simultaneous stimulation from the simple act of sliding a penis inside--so this doesn't necessarily hold a lot of truth for you gals, but I'm talking about generalities and majorities for now).

To sum up, I think a lot of people simply think the act of placing a cock in their mouth is enough to get guys off. And if they don't get off, then something is wrong with them. Not so, bad head is bad head. Learn the concept and then practice, practice, practice!


- Judo

 

[kiwiwolf]

You say you come easily when your lady masterbates you, so why not get her to combine the oral with some hand action. Do it simultaneously... gotta be a winner.

 

[Guest]

You are thinking WAY too much about what is happening

RELAX!! ENJOY!!

Cassidy

Thats not so easy, all the pressures of performance is on a man, while a woman can just lie there and be good a man has to last long enough to satisfy but not to long to bore, women are constantly critical and so as a man you cannot enjoy sex as much as you would like, and thus you tend to over think everything. This situation is also a big reason that there is so much impotence in our societity.

Women can help solve this problem by being a little more understanding toward your men and less demanding, sex isn't just for a woman it is to be shared between a loving couple. Do not treat it as something that is owned by you or even as a weapon, it's not, it is a gift.

 

[cyndiesweet]

Thats not so easy, all the pressures of performance is on a man, while a woman can just lie there and be good a man has to last long enough to satisfy but not to long to bore, women are constantly critical and so as a man you cannot enjoy sex as much as you would like, and thus you tend to over think everything. This situation is also a big reason that there is so much impotence in our societity.

Women can help solve this problem by being a little more understanding toward your men and less demanding, sex isn't just for a woman it is to be shared between a loving couple. Do not treat it as something that is owned by you or even as a weapon, it's not, it is a gift.

I think I detect some bitterness here.

 

[Guest]

I have a similar problem. I reccomend three things: First, make sure her teeth aren't scraping you. That could dull the sensation. Two, find something to do with your hands. Try not to be self-conscious. Three, scream. It's okay to make a little noise.

 

[BlondGirl]

Do not treat it as something that is owned by you or even as a weapon, it's not, it is a gift.

Gee. Do you think that you could tell that to my ex? He never understood that sex is not for his pleasure only and that "punishments" that relate to sex are not acceptable.