bedroom spice ideas

[tasteofme]

ok I am sure we all have been here before .. I need some male input or female as in something new to spice up my love life in the bedroom..lol

done candles and costumes ,, and oils with massages.. anything else??

 

[great lover]

A can of whipped cream and a roll of duct tape.

 

[subwannabe]

It's hard to give advice when we don't know the list of things you have already done. In any event, you may be thinking too much from the female perspective and not considering the male perspective at all - which I guess is why you posted this question. What I am trying to say is that you may be approaching this from the totally wrong angle. Maybe you need to be thinking outside the bedroom, instead of inside, and I don't necessarily mean having sex in the living room or kitchen, or necessarily even having sex at all. Males are visual. Visual things stimulate us as well as the spoken word. Males have an inner desire to fuck all females in order to propogate the species. Maybe what you need to do is be "the other woman". Dress up like a hooker and go to a bar. Tell your husband to meet you there at a particular time so you don't have to be there by yourself for too long of a period. When he comes in he will be floored and you can ask him if he'll buy you a drink and then wind up going home with him. This is just one idea. Other ideas would be to dress revealing and meet him somewhere else, such as a mall, shopping center, restaurant, etc and let the eyes pop out of his head. Deep down inside we would all like our wives to be sluts so give him what his primal instincts want. Sometimes the events leading up to the main event can be even better than the main event itself.

 

[love_269_girl]

Games

My husband and I have been playing a game called Wild Sexy Dares. It was recommended on by someone on Lit. It has definitely recharged our sex life.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Both of you write down 10 things you'd like to try, explore, fantasy, etc. Separate the items and place them in a container. When you're in the mood for something different, pull out a slip of paper and do the thing written on it.

Crawl into bed behind her and whisper in her ear "brace yourself Effie ... "

Crawl into bed behind him and whisper in his ear "brace yourself Effie ..."

 

[mynameiskate]

I still think reading erotic literature is a great idea. There's a lot of great stories on here.

 

[SweetErika]

Have you been through The Blank Manual sticky recently?

Another thread w/ ideas

And, depending on what you're into, you might consider some light BDSM activities, like soft bondage, blindfolds, bedroom domination, playing with different sensations, playful spankings, a little hair pulling, etc. Check out the BDSM Talk forum--and particularly the BDSM Library sticky at the top of it--for things along these lines and more.

 

[hellsgate]

Easy access nursing bras, baby play or pregnancy risk screwing with a third as hubby watches & you're ovulating in real life, then feeling your third pulsating DEEP inside you without a party hat.

 

[infinity706]

Well, here's my answer to a similar question from last month.

Lets see, you could always try the old favorite of whipped cream. It works even better with some chocolate sauce, too. You could even make chocolate sundaes on each other. Jellies, Jams, honey, fruit juice, and even oil can be good.
You could try some nice oils with that massage. They even come in nice flavors: strawberry, banana, kiwi, peach, etc. You could even go all around her body with your mouth.
A vibrator could be fun. There's hundreds of kinds from bullets, to g-spot, to rabbits, butterfly, pocket rockets,... They come in all sorts of textures, too. You can get glass, rubber, plastic, acrylic, or metal. They come in various speeds, sizes, shapes, colors, and features, too.
You could try some anal play if you feel up to it. Just go slowly and gently at first. A single finger (or tongue if you're brave) is good to start with. Then, you can move up to butt plugs, flared dildos/vibes or even your cock after a while. Just remember that for penetration, you need lots and lots of lube. You can get generic brands for something like $2 a tube, though.
You could even try tit fucking her. Of course, if you're planning to get off with it, you should probably make sure she's comfortable with cum on her chest/neck/face.
You could try fingering. Chances are, you're probably better with your hands than anything else. Try them on her pussy and see how that goes.
You could try covering each other in oil. You'll need to put down a plastic cover, but you'll probably have a lot of fun slipping and sliding around.
You could try a strap on. Plenty of women like to return the favor and fuck guys, too.
You might want to try handcuffs. Being bound and at your partner's mercy can really get some people excited. Once you get more experienced, you can try some soft ropes, too. A spreader bar can be fun, too if you're adventurous. It keeps your arms and legs both restrained, opening you up for whatever sexy things might happen.
Like was mentioned above, a blindfold can be useful. That forces you to rely on your other senses. You can even use earplugs, too. Being deprived of sight and hearing can really alter your experience.
Spanking might also be something to try. You can use your hand at first and possibly progress up to other objects, too. Different things can produce different sensations. You don't have to hit hard, though. Even light taps can be exciting. You could even try it on her cunt. Now, you can't hit it hard, but it's sensitive enough that you wouldn't need to anyway. A well done pussy spanking can very well get her off, though.
You could try a cock ring. It might even help your confidence since it keeps you hard longer and even increases thickness a little bit.
Some sexy undies might work, too. You could shop for some together or it could be a surprise.
A sex swing might be fun, too. That way, you can try positions and angles that would be difficult to do without one. Even without one, you could try tons of different positions. The arm of the couch might produce a nice angle. That countertop could be just the right height. The floor could even be nice.
Nipple clamps might be nice, too. They work well on both men and women. They can also go from barely on, to light pinching, to even leaving marks depending on how intense you want them to be.
You could try different locations. Rent a hotel room. Try the back seat of the car. Out in the woods could be fun. Even the shower could be a nice change. You can even try out different smelling soaps and shampoos.
A detachable shower head could become a nice toy. It can go from a light spray all the way up to shooting mist in every direction. You could also experiment with the temperature.
You could try watersports. I know it's not for everyone, but pissing is actually safer from a health prospective than kissing, so if it seems interesting, it might be worth a try.
Since it hasn't been mentioned, porn might be worth a try, too. You can get all kinds of kinky ideas from watching people fuck. Amateur is probably even better since it's not scripted and you can see what people really do. It's also a great way to see what you're into without having to worry about possible consequences. You can even pop one in and mimic the pornstars if you're having trouble with creative roleplaying. Besides, it's a great way to get excited.
You could even take that strapon from earlier and use it for double penetration if you have one that allows for that. It's a great way for a woman to get the experience without any of the risks that come from multiple partners.
There's some nice strapon dildos that don't go in traditional places, too. You could get a chest harness strapon for some extreme closeup action. Some of them can also double as a standard strapon, too. Just run two of the straps between your legs for a "crotchless" fun toy.
Anal beads are another consideration. Some people even claim pulling them out at the right moment can really intensify an orgasm. They just might be nice in a woman's pussy, too... Just make sure you don't use the same ones for both or clean them in between.
For those size lovers out there, you can get inflatable toys to fit the exact size you want. They come in both dildos and butt plugs. You might just be amazed at exactly how much you can handle once it's inside.
If you're thinking anal or even for extended sessions, lube is a must. Just like the massage oils, they come in a variety of flavors. They can be a lot of fun and a great way to initiate people that are a little hesitant to try oral.
For those times when a woman isn't desiring penetration, she doesn't have to limit herself to handjobs and tit fucking if she wants to get a guy off. There's plenty of "male toys" out there that she can use on him from fleshlights to pocket pussies to blowjob replicators. Sure, they'll never match up to the real thing, but they can still be a nice additon.
Cock pumps can be a useful toy for those guys that need a little extra help and can even be used with a cock ring. They also feel nice and can be used to play with a guy that has no problems getting hard, too. It's pretty amazing how big a guy's cock can look inside that tube. You do have to be careful with them, though, and not go past the point of comfort. You don't want to rupture any blood vessels.
Sex dice might also do the trick. They're the perfect recipe for a truly random fuck session.
There are also many sexy games out there that can lead to learning some of your partner's likes that they may be hesitant to talk about otherwise. Some of them, too, are more like the sex dice and explicitly lead to fucking each other's brains out.
If you're looking for a personalized toy, there are even kits out there for creating a dildo/vibe to replicate a guy's own dick. Yeah, it gives a new meaning to "Go fuck yourself" and it also can lead to plenty of extra practice should the real thing be unavailable at the moment.
Of course, you don't necessarily have to buy anything at all. That candle on the dining room table? I wonder how that would feel... That hairbrush on the dresser? It can work well for tickling, stroking, or even spanking. Many things you already have can be turned into "pervertables" (thanks Ms Erica for the dirty new term )

 

[WestVaCouple]

Agree

My husband and I have been playing a game called Wild Sexy Dares. It was recommended on by someone on Lit. It has definitely recharged our sex life.

Agree. Wild Sexy Dares is a great game with easy to hard dares. Plus, you avoid the "YOU WANNA DO WHAT?!" response you may get from something you write down yourself and put into that container. Good Luck.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Agree. Wild Sexy Dares is a great game with easy to hard dares. Plus, you avoid the "YOU WANNA DO WHAT?!" response you may get from something you write down yourself and put into that container. Good Luck.

Technically, the items should be topics of discussion and agreed upon by both BEFORE being tossed into the container and blindly drawn. What fun is exploration if you're both not into trying the deed?

 

[WestVaCouple]

Lol

Technically, the items should be topics of discussion and agreed upon by both BEFORE being tossed into the container and blindly drawn. What fun is exploration if you're both not into trying the deed?

LOL, Good point.

 

[NakedMale]

I will try to get the other half to play the dare game

 

[1DirtyDuck]

We have a special night at least once a month where I'll run us a bath, light some candles and ready some wine... We soak in the hot water for awhile, relax together, and reveal any fantasies that may have come to mind since the last time we did this.

Found out some really interesting things doing this...
Seems talkingabout ideas outside of the actual bedroom helps both of us let out more ideas.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Seems talking about ideas outside of the actual bedroom helps both of us let out more ideas.

Generally, this is where you're going to get the best and most honest Q&A sessions about all things sexual between you and your partner. The bedroom, in the heat of the moment, is rarely a place to discuss new things.

 

[Greytop]

And you've tried?

Everyone's different - spontaneity and risk are my things. Simply walking into a shower, waking up in the middle of the night with lips caressing, mine or hers on either of us, something in public daring to be caught.

I guess it has to be different, exciting, daring, unexpected.