...become more orgasmic?

[hotforhim]

I am a female who has no trouble having orgasms alone, and can have them during sex maybe about 1/3 of the time... but it's the same thing every time. When I masterbate, I do the same thing every time, but I know it works. The same applies when I am having sex - I can only come in one specifc way (me on top, nipples stimulated, certain fantasies on my mind). So while I am happy to be having orgasms at all, I need some variety!

So my question is, how can I learn to have orgasms in different ways? You read about all kinds of people having all different types of orgasms on this board, and I know some of it is reality and some fantasy, but I feel like I am stuck in a rut and want to exapnd my horizons. Any ideas?

Thanks for your help!

 

[TigerClaw]

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[sxylegs]

I am a female who has no trouble having orgasms alone, and can have them during sex maybe about 1/3 of the time... but it's the same thing every time. When I masterbate, I do the same thing every time, but I know it works. The same applies when I am having sex - I can only come in one specifc way (me on top, nipples stimulated, certain fantasies on my mind). So while I am happy to be having orgasms at all, I need some variety!

So my question is, how can I learn to have orgasms in different ways? You read about all kinds of people having all different types of orgasms on this board, and I know some of it is reality and some fantasy, but I feel like I am stuck in a rut and want to exapnd my horizons. Any ideas?

Thanks for your help!

Is your partner into really pleasing you.......If so then get some wine and relax.....get a few toys and let him have a go at it......let him experement and you lay back and dont think......turn off your brain and just enjoy.......
In some ways it sounds like you must be in control of the whole thing......once you give up control and just enjoy....you wont belive how good it is......

 

[Mr.G]

It depends

Some people are wired differently. Some people can cum from a sexy look and a whiff of air passing by. Others really have to work at it.

For long term results (training for it just like an athlete would) I suggest doing lots of Keigels as #1. No muscle tone down there and it's like doing chin-ups with no biceps. Ain't gonna happen.

#2 Explore more of your own reactions with just yourself. Play with your own bod and imagination and find out what buttons yo have to be pushed. When you know - SHARE th info with your lover. Too often one partner seems to think we are born with some inheirant knowledge of how EXCATLY to turn our partners on. That doesn't happen either. Ya gotta learn all that and who better to teach it to a partner than YOU?

#3 Read lots. There are techniques in here and other sex self-help sites and books. The more you read and learn, the more you'll realize on what threads of moves and thooughts turn you on.

Variations are the spice of life and you are right and justified to want it. It doesn't just pop out at you tho. Ya have to work at it and it is such a hoot learning. Have a ball!!

 

[hotforhim]

I appreciate all of your responses... I will try your suggestions. I feel pretty comfortable experimenting and I think I just need to keep learning new things about myself so I don't get stuck into a pattern.

Thanks!