Be sweet

[kimbernee]

I like to do mini self-improvement projects, weekly resolutions. Last night I asked my BF to assign me this week's resolution and he said "be sweet." Sweet isn't exactly me (when I think of sweet, I think of cloyingly saccharine phoniness) but the point of the weekly resolution is to change, so OK. But I don't have the first idea how to go about it.

What is genuine sweetness to you? What are sweet things I could do (not just for him) that don't involve puppies or Care Bears? How do I "be sweet"?

 

[mjl2010]

I like to do mini self-improvement projects, weekly resolutions. Last night I asked my BF to assign me this week's resolution and he said "be sweet." Sweet isn't exactly me (when I think of sweet, I think of cloyingly saccharine phoniness) but the point of the weekly resolution is to change, so OK. But I don't have the first idea how to go about it.

What is genuine sweetness to you? What are sweet things I could do (not just for him) that don't involve puppies or Care Bears? How do I "be sweet"?

Send/give him something he likes that you normally don't.
Kiss him and thank him for something he did.
Make him breakfast.
Buy him a puppy. (sorry I had to throw it in)
Without his asking, give him his fav sexy thing.

I could write a whole list. Being sweet means doing things because it's the nice thing to do. Changing means you need to think of some on your own.

MJL

 

[fire_breeze]

I like to do mini self-improvement projects, weekly resolutions. Last night I asked my BF to assign me this week's resolution and he said "be sweet." Sweet isn't exactly me (when I think of sweet, I think of cloyingly saccharine phoniness) but the point of the weekly resolution is to change, so OK. But I don't have the first idea how to go about it.

What is genuine sweetness to you? What are sweet things I could do (not just for him) that don't involve puppies or Care Bears? How do I "be sweet"?

Being sweet doesn't mean being phony nor does it involve such nauseating actions and attitudes that can cause an insulin shock. As MJL said, it's doing nice things for the sake of doing them. It's putting the other person before you because it feels good to make them happy. It's being considerate of their feelings, being kind and polite. Genuinely thanking a person when they did something. It's also occasionally putting the other person's needs before your own without expecting anything in return. It doesn't mean being a brainless, androidal sorority girl or being a doormat.

As someone who's been accused of being sweet more times than I care to count, I don't consider myself fake or below the other person - I'm by all means equal to anybody and everybody and expect to be treated as such (what can I say? I'm a lady ). I am stubborn, demand respect and woe is to those who doesn't give it. But I do like to see that I made a person smile for no reason, that I made their day a little better. And that's the best feeling there is.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[kimbernee]

I think I am all those things. Truthfully, I'm having a hard time being anything but sad today. I've worked so hard at being complimentary, appreciative, considerate, affectionate, etc. to him that what he said was a real kick in the teeth. I thought maybe I was missing something but when I read what you guys are saying, there's nothing there I don't do regularly and often. Nevertheless, I'm not "sweet".

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[kimbernee]

Thanks. I'm sure you're right. It's just that it was his first thought off the top of his head makes me feel like there's something he's missing. But anyway, enough about him. I *am* sweet to him, no matter what he thinks

I'm not very sweet in general though. Today I bought some people some flowers and made someone a Halloween mask. I'm open to ideas for non-romantically involved people. What makes you say "that was so sweet" to someone as opposed to "thank you"?

 

[SweetErika]

Did you ask HIM what his idea of "sweet" is?

Maybe he has a unique definition (e.g. "being more enthusiastic about my love of football and feet" ), is thinking of specific behaviors or sees something that you don't.

If the whole point is to improve, I'd suggest asking him for his specific thoughts, and if he doesn't have any, figure out something else to work on for the week.

 

[callinectes]

Is he Southern? Telling a child to "be sweet" is a very common thing to say, even when the child is "being sweet". For example, when I drop my daughter off at school each morning I usually bid her goodbye with an "I love you! Be sweet!"

 

[ImOnIt]

Get up 10mins early and make breakfast? something that you dont normally have... i was about to give specific advice, but its only because i'm hungry atm

Say 'i love you', write a note/letter + draw a little picture...

do that to show you care, and be a little more foward about sex than usual (if thats what you mean, i have no idea what being sweet implies sexually)

 

[bailadora]

I'm not very sweet in general though. Today I bought some people some flowers and made someone a Halloween mask. I'm open to ideas for non-romantically involved people. What makes you say "that was so sweet" to someone as opposed to "thank you"?

The flowers and mask are a good start. Other "sweet" things to do for non-romantically involved people:

bring them something they like - a favorite candy bar, some sweet smelling lotion, a pretty candle - just because..

let a stranger go ahead of you in line, especially when their cart is fuller than yours AND they have screaming kids in tow

take someone out - your treat - doesn't have to be fancy - can be as simple as coffee and a snack.

If you know someone is in a jam - offer to help if you can.

These are all thing that would make me say - that's so sweet.

 

[SimpleGifts]

I seem to be stuck with the label "sweet" quite a bit, often without any romantic connotation (even if I'd like there to be one...).

If he means that he thinks you should be "sweet" in general--not just to HIM--then I'd follow what others have said about being considerate, compassionate, charitable. If you're not by nature a "sweet" person to those you don't know well...you can change that by stopping to listen to someone's problems, giving unsolicited compliments, offering comfort to someone who needs it when they don't ask. That's what usually earns me a compliment for being sweet.

SG

 

[kimbernee]

Thanks, SG. You do sound sweet. I can't say I've done a very good job this weekend, no better than average anyway. I'll try to put some of this into action.

 

[SmilesByMiles]

Has anyone ever tried NLP? Neuro Linguistic programming? I'm sure my spelling is out, but the books i've read have made me think in a far better positive light

 

[toys_em_us]

I like to do mini self-improvement projects, weekly resolutions. Last night I asked my BF to assign me this week's resolution and he said "be sweet." Sweet isn't exactly me (when I think of sweet, I think of cloyingly saccharine phoniness) but the point of the weekly resolution is to change, so OK. But I don't have the first idea how to go about it.

What is genuine sweetness to you? What are sweet things I could do (not just for him) that don't involve puppies or Care Bears? How do I "be sweet"?

Strip off all your clothes, pour honey all over your body and offer yourself to him to be licked.... Pure Sweetness!

 

[webber1998]

Being Sweet to me

would be to just think of the other person, before yourself. Lets them know they are important.