BDSM while pregnant

[deliciously_naughty]

Anyone know any good BDSM while pregnant sites? We want to keep playing throughout the pregnancy, but I want to find tips on how to keep it safe.

 

[catalina_francisco]

There are some threads about it around here and I am sure some of the ladies will be able to give some advice. If I find the threads later I will post the links if someone doesn't beat me to it. Congratulations by the way.

Catalina

 

[graceanne]

I'd say to use common sense. Don't do anything rough around the vaginal area or your stomach. Frankly, a spanking won't effect the baby in any way, neither will things done to your arms and legs.

I don't know how extreme you all are, but remember to be extra careful about any type of infection.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I am thinking about this too now and then cuz i am pregnant as well. I dont feel limited atm at all, but it might change with time cuz of the intense of orgasms i am getting.

I have a lame question, but i am not really sure if thats possible so i am gona ask anywayz lol..

Do you think a very intense orgasm could call out an preterm birth?? Like in the 8 month of pregnacy for example. Is that possible?? My orgasms are quite powerfull and strong, uhmm could that make things happen sooner than they would normaly???

 

[nh23]

I am thinking about this too now and then cuz i am pregnant as well. I dont feel limited atm at all, but it might change with time cuz of the intense of orgasms i am getting.

I have a lame question, but i am not really sure if thats possible so i am gona ask anywayz lol..

Do you think a very intense orgasm could call out an abortive birth?? Like in the 8 month of pregnacy for example. Is that possible?? My orgasms are quite powerfull and strong, uhmm could that make things happen sooner than they would normaly???

Sex and orgasms are perfectly safe in a healthy, normal pregnancy. If you have any complications such as preterm labor, ect.. then the Dr. will usually put you on restriction. I'd discuss it with my Dr. if I was you and worried. That way you have peace of mind.

 

[SheDevilShay]

I am thinking about this too now and then cuz i am pregnant as well. I dont feel limited atm at all, but it might change with time cuz of the intense of orgasms i am getting.

I have a lame question, but i am not really sure if thats possible so i am gona ask anywayz lol..

Do you think a very intense orgasm could call out an abortive birth?? Like in the 8 month of pregnacy for example. Is that possible?? My orgasms are quite powerfull and strong, uhmm could that make things happen sooner than they would normaly???

Orgasms are perfectly safe during pregnancy and usually can help induce labor when its "time"... but won't usually do it before hand unless your in a high risk situation....

Enjoy your pregnancy

Just avoid any kind of trauma to your vagine (due to infection risk) and keep the belly safe as possible.. your back side's usually okay, but be careful because of pressure on your lower back... some massage points can cause contractions and you will want to educate yourself on these pressure points to avoid them untill it gets close to your due date.

Edit : asking a doctor is your best bet, but even then second guess their information and odn't hesitate to get a second doctor opinion or research to YOUR satisfaction... www.webmd.com has "okay" generic advice...

 

[catalina_francisco]

Here is one of the threadds which have discussed such things...if I find the rest I will post them.

Catalina

 

[HottieMama]

**Puts on cute little nurse uniform**

Can i just give some general med. advice about pregnancy/impact/and orgasms?

Spanking will not directly harm the baby. However, once you start showing you will want to avoid laying on your stomach for extended periods of time. The combination of laying on your belly and spanking at the same time could cause problems with your uterus...which will already be very swollen. An irritated uterus can cause contractions and preterm birth.

Be aware that the further along you are in pregnancy the less iron you have in your blood and therefore you will bruise more easily.

On that note...PLEASE tell your OB of your behavior. Why, you ask? Because the laws for reporting "signs of abuse" for pregnant women are VERY VERY VERY strict. Bruises/welts etc...would get a call to the local police as well as child protective services. Don't be embarrassed to say something....Trust me..we have heard it all.

As for orgasms...Orgasms after 34 weeks of pregnancy have been known to bring on labor. The rhythmic contractions you feel while having the orgasm stimulate the uterus and can lead to labor...

 

[catalina_francisco]

**Puts on cute little nurse uniform**

Can i just give some general med. advice about pregnancy/impact/and orgasms?

Spanking will not directly harm the baby. However, once you start showing you will want to avoid laying on your stomach for extended periods of time. The combination of laying on your belly and spanking at the same time could cause problems with your uterus...which will already be very swollen. An irritated uterus can cause contractions and preterm birth.

Be aware that the further along you are in pregnancy the less iron you have in your blood and therefore you will bruise more easily.

On that note...PLEASE tell your OB of your behavior. Why, you ask? Because the laws for reporting "signs of abuse" for pregnant women are VERY VERY VERY strict. Bruises/welts etc...would get a call to the local police as well as child protective services. Don't be embarrassed to say something....Trust me..we have heard it all.

As for orgasms...Orgasms after 34 weeks of pregnancy have been known to bring on labor. The rhythmic contractions you feel while having the orgasm stimulate the uterus and can lead to labor...

Thanks HM for giving such accurate and useful advice. Don't suppose I could twist your virtual reality arm to post anything you think useful on the Our Bodies, Our Brains thread?

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

I'm sorry but I would never tell my doctor of my behavior that too is asking for trouble IMO. I guess I'd just have to keep the trauma type play down instead.

 

[HottieMama]

I'm sorry but I would never tell my doctor of my behavior that too is asking for trouble IMO. I guess I'd just have to keep the trauma type play down instead.

Fury...i am referring to a situation such as...She has an OB appt and still has some healing bruises on her ass. When the Dr asks about them, don't lie...tell the truth.

 

[FurryFury]

I understand that but if her doctor isn't open minded about kink that might not help her situation.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

nhl23 - yeh i think i will discuss that with my Doc with time yes

SheDevilShay - Oh yes i do enjoy my pregnancy

**Puts on cute little nurse uniform**

This made me smile, thank you very much.

As for orgasms...Orgasms after 34 weeks of pregnancy have been known to bring on labor. The rhythmic contractions you feel while having the orgasm stimulate the uterus and can lead to labor...

Thats what i meant. The rhytmic contractions i feel while having the orgasm. Thats what i thought so, i really think it could call out preterm birth. Well, guess i'll just have to be careful after the 30 week of my pregnancy. Thank you for advice HottieMama

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Thanks for the link.

I don't know if it's safe (possibly/probably not) but I love how Japanese Rope Bondage looks, and I think it would particularly erotic on a 3rd trimester woman (myself, if I were lucky).

 

[alexanna]

Thats what i meant. The rhytmic contractions i feel while having the orgasm. Thats what i thought so, i really think it could call out preterm birth. Well, guess i'll just have to be careful after the 30 week of my pregnancy. Thank you for advice HottieMama

I usually try to have as many oragasms as possible as the pregnancy wears on just to get the damn thing out and exercise my uterus. I'm at 35 weeks now and I make sure to walk and cum as often as possible.

Is this your first? Once they start checking you at 36 weeks you'll know if the orgasms are helping to make any progress or not. You often start dialating weeks before actually going into labor.

If you think you are having too many contractions drink lots of water, take a warm bath, lie on your left side blah blah blah. Personally with my first and even second I constantly thought I was in labor but 32 oz of fluid and a bath always settled things down.

I think its way more common to accidentally induce labor by being dehydrated and irritating your uterus than by having too many and too strong orgasms.

 

[CutieMouse]

Braxton Hicks contractions should begin around the 20th week; if they last for more than 15 minutes, and don't go away after lying on the left side/drinking water, it may be pre-term labor; they are often triggered from contractions during orgasm.

Generally speaking, most OBGYNs recommend abstaining from sex from the 32nd to 34th week, onward. Semen contains prostaglandins, which will soften the cervix and prep it for labor; strong contractions/oxytocin release (from orgasm) + a softened cervix can lead to labor. If one is even slightly dialated (which can happen weeks before labor), there is also an increased risk of uterine infection. Nipple/breast play is also usually put on the "off limits" list around the same time, as it stimulates the release of oxytocin - the body's natural hormonal trigger to induce labor

On the flip side, most midwives and CNMs will clear a healthy woman to continue having sex as long as she likes, and will often prescribe sex + nipple stimulation to either trigger labor in an "overdue" woman, or suggest one or the other (usually nipple stimulation) to assist in a stalled labor.

FYI - the medications used to soften the cervix/stimulate labor are a synthetic version of prostaglandin, and the IV drips used to "speed labor" are usually a synthetic form of oxytocin. The synthetic forms are *generally* accepted amongst certain medical communities (primarily midwives/doulas) to be more stressful on the uterus/unborn child, than the same hormone in its natural form. If you can get medical clearance to use nipple stimulation or sex to induce labor or speed a stalled labor, it is *generally speaking* a safer alternative, and worth discussing with our health care providor.

 

[Tabea]

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[slavin]

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Thank you.

 

[slavin]

This may sound like a silly question but I was also wondering about the psychological aspect. For instance if you're into fear play would that also effect your baby? Would the baby sense that the mother is scared? Would it "know" that it's not actually in any danger even though the mother is scared?

I hope my rambling makes any sense.

 

[CutieMouse]

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[HottieMama]

Years ago I read some studies that suggested that an adrenalin rush *might* adversly effect a baby in utero, but I'm not sure how accurate it is.

My personal thoughts are that stress, fear, panic, etc are best avoided during pregnancy, if for no other reason than to keep one's blood pressure down. If you intentionally engage in "fear play", (IMO) you're going to be dumping a lot of "fight or flight" hormones into your body, which means you are subjecting the baby to those same stressors. It probably sounds weird, but to me *personally* that crosses a consent barrier - the baby doesn't have a say or a choice in being exposed to the stress of "fear play."

I googled and found an article on in utero stress and fetal brain development. I didn't read the whole thing, but it's dated 1999 - which would correspond with the studies I was vaugely remembering having read during some study of the subject back then.

In Utero Stress

CM, i totally agree.

 

[A Desert Rose]

This may sound like a silly question but I was also wondering about the psychological aspect. For instance if you're into fear play would that also effect your baby? Would the baby sense that the mother is scared? Would it "know" that it's not actually in any danger even though the mother is scared?

I hope my rambling makes any sense.

Yes to the first and second question. And sense is not the 'correct' word but still, yes to both.

No to the last.

 

[slavin]

If you intentionally engage in "fear play", (IMO) you're going to be dumping a lot of "fight or flight" hormones into your body, which means you are subjecting the baby to those same stressors.

That's exactly what we (my husband/owner and I) were thinking as well. I just couldn't find anything about the mental aspect of BDSM and pregnancy online. (I am not very good at the Googling thing).

It probably sounds weird, but to me *personally* that crosses a consent barrier - the baby doesn't have a say or a choice in being exposed to the stress of "fear play."

I don't think that sounds weird at all. It seems very logical to me.

I googled and found an article on in utero stress and fetal brain development.

Thank you so much for sharing your views with me. I really appreciate it.

 

[slavin]

...sense is not the 'correct' word...

Ah, okay. English is not my first language so I sometimes make mistakes. I'm glad it was clear to you what I meant anyway. Thank you for your input. It is much appreciated.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I usually try to have as many oragasms as possible as the pregnancy wears on just to get the damn thing out and exercise my uterus. I'm at 35 weeks now and I make sure to walk and cum as often as possible.

Is this your first? Once they start checking you at 36 weeks you'll know if the orgasms are helping to make any progress or not. You often start dialating weeks before actually going into labor.

If you think you are having too many contractions drink lots of water, take a warm bath, lie on your left side blah blah blah. Personally with my first and even second I constantly thought I was in labor but 32 oz of fluid and a bath always settled things down.

I think its way more common to accidentally induce labor by being dehydrated and irritating your uterus than by having too many and too strong orgasms.

No this is my second baby and i am at 24 week now. I don't have any contractions yet, i was just wondering if an intense orgasm could call out an labor.

I am doing fine except i often feel like i got kicked by a horse right inbetween my legs. I usualy whimper in pain before i fall asleep in the night now. Feel like after some damn fisting lol. I remember the bones around my pussy hurted like this for a while after my first labor, but not before so dunno wtf is this. Guess my body getting ready. I am not mentaly ready for my labor at all just yet heh, i am afraid like hell.

The first time i was afraid cuz i didn't know what it takes to give a birth....now i am afraid cuz i know lol. I dunno how about your labors, but mine wasn't easy. I was passing out while it and most of what happened i know from my man who was there with me.

Remeber when i couldnt take it anymore they gave me dolsin, dont remember much of it after i get it cuz i kinda fall alseep after they gave it to me. Woke up when i heard some unhuman screaming and was shocked and ashamed when i realised it was me who screamed there.

There was a doc who was bïtching me i screamed, eventho i screamed just once. I was young and very shy that time so i didnt tell him anything, but this time if there will be some idiot who will bitch me for being noisy or anything like that i will be very not nice to him.

If a woman told me to be quiet i would understand, but from a man who know a shit about how painful give birth can be it was just stupid. I would still slap that nerd bigtime when i remeber it lol.

Hopefuly this second labor will be easier....one can always hope lol.