bdsm Vs nilla orgasms

[ownedsubgal]

Ty OSG for your response. It, combined with the links that S'lara provided, helps me to understand your perspective better. I get that his pleasure is the only thing that matters in your relationship with him, and whether or not you orgasm is not something he even troubles himself with. Am I getting that right?

If so it makes perfect sense to me.

well, just about. my pleasure matters to him, the pleasure in my heart and soul and spirit. but as for my direct physical pleasure, no that is not something that matters one way or the other in our union. pleasantly surprised to hear that it makes sense to you.

 

[redelicious]

well, just about. my pleasure matters to him, the pleasure in my heart and soul and spirit. but as for my direct physical pleasure, no that is not something that matters one way or the other in our union. pleasantly surprised to hear that it makes sense to you.

Ah ok, well the physical pleasure was really what I was speaking about anyway, though the other is nice to know.

I may not be able to personally relate to some of the different type of relationships that are exhibited here, and many I could never imitate in my own life - husband or not, but that doesn't prevent me from understanding at least on some level.

 

[Netzach]

I find that I am much less preoccupied with *my* orgasms as a result of SM or concurrent with SM activity. I'll take them vanilla style with a lot of licking service and attention, like I'll take my massages or tea.

I'm much more interested in the feeling I have of vertigo, hyperconnectedness and the primal, sadistic, purely carniverous feeling when you know you have them....fuck you HAVE them in your wicked claws.

In comparison to that sadistic paroxysm orgasm is weak and flaccid. An orgasm is pure twitching silly sensuousness.

 

[Kajira Callista]

I find that I am much less preoccupied with *my* orgasms as a result of SM or concurrent with SM activity. I'll take them vanilla style with a lot of licking service and attention, like I'll take my massages or tea.

I'm much more interested in the feeling I have of vertigo, hyperconnectedness and the primal, sadistic, purely carniverous feeling when you know you have them....fuck you HAVE them in your wicked claws.

In comparison to that sadistic paroxysm orgasm is weak and flaccid. An orgasm is pure twitching silly sensuousness.

Isnt BDSM play like one big long extremely intense mental orgasm anyway?

 

[Sir's Plaything]

I hardly ever had/have vanilla orgasms---with sir the feelings are so intense, have such a build up, I have the pleasure of knowing that he is pleased when I come for him and my own pleasure is more intense than anything I have ever known. Sir controls my orgasms by making me ask ---actually beg--to be allowed come, and when he tells me to come for him I just explode in body and spirit----oh yeah

 

[thegreenfairy]

I have lots of orgasms, nilla and kinky. The best that I've ever had have come from BDSM - I'm talking about mind blowing orgasms that cause unconciousness and good stuff like that. BUT, not all of my BDSM orgasms are like that - some are mundane as orgasms go (which is pretty amazing to begin with).

 

[Romany]

Quote from Netzach:-

I find that I am much less preoccupied with *my* orgasms as a result of SM or concurrent with SM activity. I'll take them vanilla style with a lot of licking service and attention, like I'll take my massages or tea.

I'm much more interested in the feeling I have of vertigo, hyperconnectedness and the primal, sadistic, purely carniverous feeling when you know you have them....fuck you HAVE them in your wicked claws.

In comparison to that sadistic paroxysm orgasm is weak and flaccid. An orgasm is pure twitching silly sensuousness.

WOW you sound just like my Master talking there!! He rarely bothers with orgasm, explaining to me that his pleasure is in the utter control of me, and in the release of his sadistic tendencies.

As for me, bdsm orgasms make the previous nilla ones pale into insignificance. I can now ejaculate like a man, and when I do so it feels like everything exploded all at once.

 

[Romany]

Quote from Netzach:-

I find that I am much less preoccupied with *my* orgasms as a result of SM or concurrent with SM activity. I'll take them vanilla style with a lot of licking service and attention, like I'll take my massages or tea.

I'm much more interested in the feeling I have of vertigo, hyperconnectedness and the primal, sadistic, purely carniverous feeling when you know you have them....fuck you HAVE them in your wicked claws.

In comparison to that sadistic paroxysm orgasm is weak and flaccid. An orgasm is pure twitching silly sensuousness.

WOW you sound just like my Master talking there!! He rarely bothers with orgasm, explaining to me that his pleasure is in the utter control of me, and in the release of his sadistic tendencies.

As for me, bdsm orgasms make the previous nilla ones pale into insignificance. I can now ejaculate like a man, and when I do so it feels like everything exploded all at once.

 

[justnoldfriend]

BDSM vs Vanilla orgasms?

Totaly incomparable, at least for me.




Very old thread but nvm, I've enjoyed reading it.

 

[VelvetSin]

Goodness this is an old thread to bump, but it is a good read. I thought perhaps I was imagining things, but I do feel a definite difference. I've started to suspect that I had not had a real orgasm until a few months ago when we started down this road and I felt what a real O was. I experienced "releases" that most definitely felt good, but they were nothing compared to the body-contorting, mind-blanking, "I might happily die from pleasure" moments I get from TTWD. I would accuse the denial and extreme foreplay, but there have been a few times when he "got right to it" so to speak before really getting started with a session, and the big moment was just as intense.

Also, prior to starting with all this, I had a very hard time achieving even those little o's, whether by myself or with someone else / him. There must be different types of orgasms, because orgasms from masturbation or 'nilla (I hate that word) sex feel like just a physical release, where the ones he gives me or allows me to have from TTWD seem to come from somewhere much deeper. I would do / have done / will do some seriously ridiculous things for his amusement and endured things I used to swear I never would for these "new" ones, whereas the little o's were okay but nothing I'd go out of my way to achieve. He's joked that he's made an O-junkie out of me (and he has!)

 

[MatthewJudeBrown]

Perhaps, VelvetSin, it was because your orgasms before were only physical without too much mental involvement, and now the mental side of arousal is so much bigger?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

80% of mine are still much the same. I don't cum often when we're together.

Those other ones though, wowsers. The mental engagement and the intense physical sensations combined = yeah, I'm a screamer after all.

 

[VelvetSin]

Perhaps, VelvetSin, it was because your orgasms before were only physical without too much mental involvement, and now the mental side of arousal is so much bigger?

Maybe? I'm tempted to say there was a decent amount of mental and emotional involvement before and it's with the same partner, but with something to compare it to now, it's almost like 'nilla style is just going through the motions. So maybe that's it.

LOL, either way, like Lizzie said. We used to be able to do whatever with people in the next room, but now, anyone in a five-block radius is going to know exactly what we're doing unless he feels like using the gag.

 

[sb2009]

my orgasms vary depending on how long the build up was, how intense of a time I'm having, if I'm feeling less peachy, if i'm in a hurry because dinner is in the oven, etc......whether it's BDSM related or not doesn't seem to make a difference.