bdsm in school?

[Cheyenne]

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=200193

 

[Cheyenne]

They say a bdsm club at a college will increase the rape problem there.

 

[Peter2002]

I always wondered...

if life was kinky out there.

 

[P. B. Walker]

They say a bdsm club at a college will increase the rape problem there.

I'm just guessing... but I think their reasoning there would be that there would be a situation where a sub woman starts to play with a dom male and it gets too intense for her. Then she either lets it happen instead of using her safe word (or maybe they don't have a safe word) because she doesn't want to feel she lead him on and afterward she calls "rape". Or some small variation on that theme. Basically, the male gets out of control and since she's given her consent he thinks he can do anything he wants. Which is totally not what BDSM is about.

Personally I would support a BDSM type clubs at colleges as long as they educate the members before they begin to even mess around with BDSM.

They have gay/lesbian clubs at most colleges, why not BDSM?

 

[pussykattlove]

i totaly agree with you P.B. when i was collage student (taking a break for now) i never new anything about dom/sub clubs untill my Human Sexuality teacher talked about them durring that chapter. after she mentioned they even exsited i still had a hard time trying to find one i even liked. so many people i know have to drive 30 min or more to get to the closest one. and as for my self, i have to drive 40 min or more. it sucks!
Kat

 

[Netzach]

Personally, I think it's really good and possibly less intimidating for people to start out talking about this stuff with others remotely in their own age group. Rather than always being the 23 year old baby Domme at the munch, I wish that I had been able to go to something like this.

Too bad Marxist-Feminist uptight ways lingered at my school till 1997, right after I graduated. Feh.

 

[Cheyenne]

i totaly agree with you P.B. when i was collage student (taking a break for now) i never new anything about dom/sub clubs untill my Human Sexuality teacher talked about them durring that chapter. after she mentioned they even exsited i still had a hard time trying to find one i even liked. so many people i know have to drive 30 min or more to get to the closest one. and as for my self, i have to drive 40 min or more. it sucks!
Kat

Is a sub/dom club anything like a swingers club?

 

[MissTaken]

Is a sub/dom club anything like a swingers club?

Not generally.

If the club is set up like a munch group, which is what it sounds like, it is likely to be social activities where like minded people can meet and share ideas without feel freakish.

The only swinger's clubs I am aware of are more likely to be fuck fests as opposed to engaging anything even remotely cerebral or truly social beyond sex.

But then, my experience with swinger's clubs occurs only by how I live vicariously through my friend's adventures.

 

[pussykattlove]

well Cheyenne the club i went to had a bar and dance club on the first floor. the second floor is a play room. they have whips and paddles and all sorts of toys. the club has dominates that work there to give you pleasure. but my favorite part is the clothing you wear is next to nothing(only nipples and privates must be covered) and it is so much fun. you could wear a 3 piece suit or jeans and a tank. or g-string undies with eletrical tape over your nipples and a pair of stileto heels. there is no sex aloud of course but who you go home with is your choice. the plicy there (like most) is ask before you touch. well hope that answered it for you.
Kisses, Kat

 

[MissTaken]

Oops, my misunderstanding.

Yes, there are BDSM clubs. Here, they generally involve a tight knit group of people who share an evening out.

But in Montreal there are clubs that are open to lifestylers, complete with devices, furniture and toys.

 

[thegreenfairy]

my school has a bdsm club... i'm trying to get up the courage to go to a meeting. they have sex toy workshops... i'm not really sure what else.

green fairy

 

[Cheyenne]

Oops, my misunderstanding.

Yes, there are BDSM clubs. Here, they generally involve a tight knit group of people who share an evening out.

But in Montreal there are clubs that are open to lifestylers, complete with devices, furniture and toys.

But if so much of the bdsm lifestyle revolves around building trust between partners before any sex is even involved, then these clubs seem odd to me. How do they keep just the curious from walking in off the street? People who wouldn't have a clue what bdsm was all about, I mean. Or is it hard to find these places unless you're already accepted into the lifestyle by someone with connections to the club?

 

[pussykattlove]

dose every one seem to realize i ment a night club? not a school club?

 

[Cheyenne]

dose every one seem to realize i ment a night club? not a school club?

Yup, I understood that.

 

[pussykattlove]

ok well i was at work all weekend so here is my respons. you can take your partner with you to the clubs. also for peopl who are new to this (like me) i can go with people i trust and get a feel of every thing. you can go and watch or explore the posibilities. i went for the frist time with my best friend Nichole and that was when i truely understood what i wanted. the people at the club were very understanding. when i told the dom that i had never done anything like this he was very gentle at frist. then he would ask if i was ok and as time progrssed he got harsher with the whip. i was in a room fool of people watching me while i was tied to a post in the middle of a room. it was one of the most erotic moments in my life...and i was fully clothed. ok well thats all i have to say
Kat

 

[Etoile]

dose every one seem to realize i ment a night club? not a school club?

I understood it too, but I think (my humble opinion here) that since this thread is about school clubs, it's confusing to talk about nightclubs in the same thread. I'm pretty sure there are other threads about nightclubs and play clubs. Again, this is just my personal opinion, trying to keep things straight.

 

[Etoile]

As for school clubs related to kink and BDSM, I think they're a cool idea. There's definitely plenty of additional "education" to be had about that kind of thing! There are all kinds of affinity groups on university campuses, why not this one? I think the important thing is that it not devolve into a pick-up joint or sex fest. Meetings could include lectures, demonstrations (of equipment, probably not practices), etc. If two people in the club found they had other things in common and decided to date (including kink play), that could be okay, but that shouldn't be the primary focus of such a group.

 

[pussykattlove]

well i feel like a big dork ...so ya just ignore me...i am ganna go crawl under a rock...
Kat

 

[Etoile]

well i feel like a big dork ...so ya just ignore me...i am ganna go crawl under a rock...
Kat

That isn't what I meant. Why do people always think I'm trying to tell them to go away? Kat, please don't take it that way. I didn't mean it like that, okay? I was just trying to keep things easy to understand and on-topic.

 

[pussykattlove]

don't worry i didn't take it seriously...i just was kind of acting the way i do i just missunderstood the beguinging of the thred. by the way i do think that collages should have the club. i would have been interested
Kat

 

[Cheyenne]

I think it is interesting that people say they would have joined such a club in college. Did everyone realize as far back as college that they were into bdsm? For some reason, I guess I thought of it as something people fell into later in life, almost accidently figuring out bdsm is their "kink."

 

[DisGirlisNutz]

If more men and women would know more about BD/sm I believe people would have more respect for each other in general.

DGN

 

[pussykattlove]

well when i was in high school (i'm only 22) i started realizing somthing was missing when i had a boyfriend or girlfriend. well one day my boyfriend just to be funny was pertending to spank me and well he did one big smack at the end and i was so turned on. i was always thought to like things out of the norm was bad. so for a long time i was ashamed of my self when ever i liked pain. untill i went to my human sexuality class my first semester of collage. durring that class we discussed every thing and i was so happy to realize that it was ok to like bdsm. well some of the kids in the class were in to dom/sub and i starter to hang with them and ask questions. accually it was like our oun privite club. well 4 years later i'm still learning what i like and still asking questions. this is the only place that i feel comfortable talking about bdsm. my friends are ok with me, but the just don't understand. so this is deffinatly why i would have loved it if there was a club at my local collage.....ok i just went off on a long ass tangint....sorry i tend to just keep writing and don't realize it.
Kat

 

[James G 5]

I think it is interesting that people say they would have joined such a club in college. Did everyone realize as far back as college that they were into bdsm? For some reason, I guess I thought of it as something people fell into later in life, almost accidently figuring out bdsm is their "kink."

Oh heck no
We've got a TON of discussion here about people having the desires and fantasies before they even hit sexual maturity, and finding information & literature in their early teens
It's just hard to get truly involved until you're older