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I have been lurking for a while, especially around the BBW threads since I am one (well for sure the first B anyway). I very much appreciate that there are men out there who appear to be "normal" who enjoy a women with some meat on her bones :D. I really am just curious though and I often find myself wondering how guys define BBW. I imagine it is one of those things that are different for each person. I completely get the love affair with a women who has larger breasts and butts . . . hourglass figures I think are the most appealing (based solely on wishing that was my shape :eek: ). But what about women who have big bellies, fat arms, a 2nd chin, dimpled cottage cheese legs (and arms) :eek: . . . do they fit in your BBW definition? In my ongoing struggle to feel ok about being substantially larger than most women and not being endowed with breasts and a butt that are larger than my middle, I find it difficult to believe that my body shape is appealing to men. I have read the "all women are sexy" lines, which is such an ambiguous blanket statement that it does little to diminish my concerns. Being 40ish, single since the dawn of time (or at least it feels that way), and not seeing any real change in that status on the horizon I find myself wondering if I should just accept that I am not likely to find a decent single guy who is actually sexually attracted to me. I suppose I should define decent since that is likely person-specific as well. What I mean by decent is a guy who is intelligent, socially engaging, responsible, trustworthy, kind, respectful, has good hygiene, isn't looking for someone to be his mom and/or sugar momma, and is emotionally intact though baggage is fine since he will have to deal with mine (compatible baggage would be ideal ;) ). I look at some of the pictures posted of BBW and the women are gorgeous (round higher breasts, round ass, sensually hips that curve into a tighter waist, gently rounded bellies, graceful limbs, and not a dimpled patch on their thighs-though I have seen some with the dimples and even their breasts migrating south). After I take off my green tinted envy goggles, I try to remind myself that some of the smooth skinned plump beauties have been photoshoped or they are genetically blessed to be curvy in the “right” places, but the drooling from the men (and women) over the pictures reinforces the idea to me that I perhaps don’t fit the BBW definition because I don’t look like that :confused:. On occasion I will see a cellulite goddess posted who’s belly folds over onto her thighs and who’s breasts point to her toes and I wait with bated breath to see what the guys will say, how they will respond. There is usually one or two that make a comment about the women being hot and I smile and check their profile . . . they are married or in a LTR. Ahhhhhh!!!!! Ok, now I am just ranting, I will stop. But I just thought I would put this out there to see what people think, just in case my thoughts are irrational or skewed (which has been known to happen on occasion). :)
 
I'd say there is a lot to define.

For me, BBW means Big Beautiful Women. And what that means is going beyond the social norms and stereotypes that are out there about how women should look and act and accepting all types of beauty.

I think that all women are beautiful, big or small or whatever. And to add those social norms onto someone is just awful.

Yes, it's tough being bigger. My weight goes up and down and I know what it's like to feel beat down by the ads and the movies and the TV shows. It's hard. And it puts a lot of pressure and stress and it makes you really question a lot about yourself.

But the best thing is additude. Being yourself and just going with it. People don't like it, move on and keep on going. No one is going to please everyone. That's another truth.

I don't know, I'm rambling, but I care about women and I care about getting away from social "norms" and opening my damn eyes.
 
MissBonita2012 said:
I have been lurking for a while, especially around the BBW threads since I am one (well for sure the first B anyway). I very much appreciate that there are men out there who appear to be "normal" who enjoy a women with some meat on her bones :D. I really am just curious though and I often find myself wondering how guys define BBW. I imagine it is one of those things that are different for each person. I completely get the love affair with a women who has larger breasts and butts . . . hourglass figures I think are the most appealing (based solely on wishing that was my shape :eek: ). But what about women who have big bellies, fat arms, a 2nd chin, dimpled cottage cheese legs (and arms) :eek: . . . do they fit in your BBW definition? In my ongoing struggle to feel ok about being substantially larger than most women and not being endowed with breasts and a butt that are larger than my middle, I find it difficult to believe that my body shape is appealing to men. I have read the "all women are sexy" lines, which is such an ambiguous blanket statement that it does little to diminish my concerns. Being 40ish, single since the dawn of time (or at least it feels that way), and not seeing any real change in that status on the horizon I find myself wondering if I should just accept that I am not likely to find a decent single guy who is actually sexually attracted to me. I suppose I should define decent since that is likely person-specific as well. What I mean by decent is a guy who is intelligent, socially engaging, responsible, trustworthy, kind, respectful, has good hygiene, isn't looking for someone to be his mom and/or sugar momma, and is emotionally intact though baggage is fine since he will have to deal with mine (compatible baggage would be ideal ;) ). I look at some of the pictures posted of BBW and the women are gorgeous (round higher breasts, round ass, sensually hips that curve into a tighter waist, gently rounded bellies, graceful limbs, and not a dimpled patch on their thighs-though I have seen some with the dimples and even their breasts migrating south). After I take off my green tinted envy goggles, I try to remind myself that some of the smooth skinned plump beauties have been photoshoped or they are genetically blessed to be curvy in the “right” places, but the drooling from the men (and women) over the pictures reinforces the idea to me that I perhaps don’t fit the BBW definition because I don’t look like that :confused:. On occasion I will see a cellulite goddess posted who’s belly folds over onto her thighs and who’s breasts point to her toes and I wait with bated breath to see what the guys will say, how they will respond. There is usually one or two that make a comment about the women being hot and I smile and check their profile . . . they are married or in a LTR. Ahhhhhh!!!!! Ok, now I am just ranting, I will stop. But I just thought I would put this out there to see what people think, just in case my thoughts are irrational or skewed (which has been known to happen on occasion). :)
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My personal opinion:

There are STILL men out there that do not wish to have the "stigma" of being a chubby chaser, someone that does love, what I call "Bakery Women": Women with rolls, big buns, and cookies :D They are caught in the media ideal of the perfect woman: Tall, thin, 12-year-old boy-like chest. They won't, will not, be honest to themselves.

It is unfortunate that most of us that do love BBWs are married. There are some signle men out there: They're just a little too chicken to come out.
 
MissBonita2012 said:
I have been lurking for a while, especially around the BBW threads since I am one (well for sure the first B anyway). I very much appreciate that there are men out there who appear to be "normal" who enjoy a women with some meat on her bones :D. I really am just curious though and I often find myself wondering how guys define BBW. I imagine it is one of those things that are different for each person. I completely get the love affair with a women who has larger breasts and butts . . . hourglass figures I think are the most appealing (based solely on wishing that was my shape :eek: ). But what about women who have big bellies, fat arms, a 2nd chin, dimpled cottage cheese legs (and arms) :eek: . . . do they fit in your BBW definition? In my ongoing struggle to feel ok about being substantially larger than most women and not being endowed with breasts and a butt that are larger than my middle, I find it difficult to believe that my body shape is appealing to men. I have read the "all women are sexy" lines, which is such an ambiguous blanket statement that it does little to diminish my concerns. Being 40ish, single since the dawn of time (or at least it feels that way), and not seeing any real change in that status on the horizon I find myself wondering if I should just accept that I am not likely to find a decent single guy who is actually sexually attracted to me. I suppose I should define decent since that is likely person-specific as well. What I mean by decent is a guy who is intelligent, socially engaging, responsible, trustworthy, kind, respectful, has good hygiene, isn't looking for someone to be his mom and/or sugar momma, and is emotionally intact though baggage is fine since he will have to deal with mine (compatible baggage would be ideal ;) ). I look at some of the pictures posted of BBW and the women are gorgeous (round higher breasts, round ass, sensually hips that curve into a tighter waist, gently rounded bellies, graceful limbs, and not a dimpled patch on their thighs-though I have seen some with the dimples and even their breasts migrating south). After I take off my green tinted envy goggles, I try to remind myself that some of the smooth skinned plump beauties have been photoshoped or they are genetically blessed to be curvy in the “right” places, but the drooling from the men (and women) over the pictures reinforces the idea to me that I perhaps don’t fit the BBW definition because I don’t look like that :confused:. On occasion I will see a cellulite goddess posted who’s belly folds over onto her thighs and who’s breasts point to her toes and I wait with bated breath to see what the guys will say, how they will respond. There is usually one or two that make a comment about the women being hot and I smile and check their profile . . . they are married or in a LTR. Ahhhhhh!!!!! Ok, now I am just ranting, I will stop. But I just thought I would put this out there to see what people think, just in case my thoughts are irrational or skewed (which has been known to happen on occasion). :)
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Hi MissBonita..it is hard to be a BBW in today's society...But there are men out there that do find us attractive...I have learned I just have to accept myself for who I am and if I do that than others will too....yes a majority of the men that love us are married but there are some single ones out there that may be to shy to show their appreciation yet but they will....Hang in there...It will get better I promise! *HUGS* to you!!
 
RjThoughts said:
My personal opinion:

There are STILL men out there that do not wish to have the "stigma" of being a chubby chaser, someone that does love, what I call "Bakery Women": Women with rolls, big buns, and cookies :D They are caught in the media ideal of the perfect woman: Tall, thin, 12-year-old boy-like chest. They won't, will not, be honest to themselves.

It is unfortunate that most of us that do love BBWs are married. There are some signle men out there: They're just a little too chicken to come out.
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lol, I love that term . . . Bakery Women. :D
 
BeeLou said:
Hi MissBonita..it is hard to be a BBW in today's society...But there are men out there that do find us attractive...I have learned I just have to accept myself for who I am and if I do that than others will too....yes a majority of the men that love us are married but there are some single ones out there that may be to shy to show their appreciation yet but they will....Hang in there...It will get better I promise! *HUGS* to you!!
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Thanks Bee and I appreciate the postivie encouragement. I feel a little whiney for what I posted, I honestly was just curious to see what would be said about ample women who are not hourglass shaped. I am not the most overtly sexually provocative person which I am sure adds to my lack of guys expressing interest in me, it is not just a size thing. I am actually pretty happy with who I am and have learned to accept my body shape, I just wish I had a committed someone in my life to share in the journey (and of course have sex with becuase I wouldn't be on lit if that wasn't an interest :D).
 
MissBonita2012 said:
Thanks Bee and I appreciate the postivie encouragement. I feel a little whiney for what I posted, I honestly was just curious to see what would be said about ample women who are not hourglass shaped. I am not the most overtly sexually provocative person which I am sure adds to my lack of guys expressing interest in me, it is not just a size thing. I am actually pretty happy with who I am and have learned to accept my body shape, I just wish I had a committed someone in my life to share in the journey (and of course have sex with becuase I wouldn't be on lit if that wasn't an interest :D).
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You are welcome! Don't feel whiney..it is something that has crossed more minds but we didn't have the nerve to say anything..LOL..I hear you and I understand totally your last statement! And I hope you can find that someone..I can tell you I am a pretty shy one but have been pushing myself lately to be more out there... :) :rose:
 
Hi. I'm new to the forum. I'm a BBW, and I'd just like to say how great it is to see us getting some appreciation. Keep it up and maybe we'll become less shy. *hides*
 
Lettergnome said:
Hi. I'm new to the forum. I'm a BBW, and I'd just like to say how great it is to see us getting some appreciation. Keep it up and maybe we'll become less shy. *hides*
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HI Lettergnome...Welcome to our place on the forum..Glad to have you jump in... No need to hide..the guys here don't bite, well unless you ask kindly! ;)
 
I want to post something for a beautiful bbw angel. Id like to talk over yahoo messanger. If youre a big beautiful women who likes to have fun. Pm me. <3
 
Morning BeeLou and all - it was a good weekend - it was just too dang short!:D PA, how much snow did you get?
 
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