I know this is going to sound pathetic, but I was wondering how other BBW out there find mates. I'm 28 and not too experienced and I want to find friends to help me explore myself sexually more. It doesn't seem like a common problem, but I have been unable to find men to just be friends with.
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TexasWife25
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to just be friends?
I have made friends on lit...
they are my online friends...
This is going to sound trite but
you just go out and do the things you love
and try not to be shy about it
hobbies, clubs, classes, sports, etc...
and when someone seems cool you
put yourself out there and give them your #
If you are shy
Lit is a great way to explore
and most of the men, imho, are really great
NippleMuncher
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Every good sized town has a club that caters to BBW clientele. You might try checking out a few of those
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How long have you been looking, and where have you been looking? Do you believe you're sexy and give off a confident vibe?
I think truly good friends are hard to come by regardless of what one looks like, and finding really great available friends plus mutual attraction/chemistry is even tougher to find. Most guys are more than happy to get their rocks off with whomever, but it can be very difficult to find available high quality men who want a real friendship in addition to sex. They're out there for sure, but you have to be willing to sort through the toads to find your prince(s) and put your best self out there.
TexasWife gave you great advice WRT just meeting people you like while you're engaged in your interests and passions. What are your hobbies? What would you like to try? Have you tried hooking up with people with similar interests via local groups and sites like MeetUp? How about putting yourself out there as looking for friendship that could potentially develop into more if there's chemistry on OKCupid?
If your main goal is exploring sexually, how about checking out sex-positive groups and events? Most cities have sex-positive communities (from interest-specific groups to swinging to BDSM) that are very accepting of different body types. And meeting people in semi-public spaces can certainly have advantages in terms of personal safety (e.g. parties and clubs often have a universal safeword and rule that anyone within earshot WILL come to a person's aid immediately if that person calls it and their partner doesn't stop instantly).
I think truly good friends are hard to come by regardless of what one looks like, and finding really great available friends plus mutual attraction/chemistry is even tougher to find. Most guys are more than happy to get their rocks off with whomever, but it can be very difficult to find available high quality men who want a real friendship in addition to sex. They're out there for sure, but you have to be willing to sort through the toads to find your prince(s) and put your best self out there.
TexasWife gave you great advice WRT just meeting people you like while you're engaged in your interests and passions. What are your hobbies? What would you like to try? Have you tried hooking up with people with similar interests via local groups and sites like MeetUp? How about putting yourself out there as looking for friendship that could potentially develop into more if there's chemistry on OKCupid?
If your main goal is exploring sexually, how about checking out sex-positive groups and events? Most cities have sex-positive communities (from interest-specific groups to swinging to BDSM) that are very accepting of different body types. And meeting people in semi-public spaces can certainly have advantages in terms of personal safety (e.g. parties and clubs often have a universal safeword and rule that anyone within earshot WILL come to a person's aid immediately if that person calls it and their partner doesn't stop instantly).
I think Erika nailed it because its all about confidence. When you see a honkin' man that turns your screw just go for it. If he turns you down then move on to the next one. We all experience rejection and its those who don't let it bring them down who win in the end.
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It is about the confidance. What does BBW actually mean? Could be a million different definitions. What is the exact criteria? Probably nobody knows. I have seen 115 pound women freaking out about how fat they are. A friend of mine actually prefers larger women. I think his reasoning is that they are actually better sexually than miss Barbie Doll, who can supposedly get whatever she wants without having to do much. Quit looking at yourself negatively and realize you have a lot of positives to offer. Everyone has positives and negatives, even miss Barbie Doll.
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hello there.
Im from cali and wouldnt mind being your friend and we could sexplore together if you want. Anyway im 22 and am a fan of large confident women.
Im from cali and wouldnt mind being your friend and we could sexplore together if you want. Anyway im 22 and am a fan of large confident women.
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Shit, if you were in Louisville I'd give you my number. I'm having the problem of not being able to find any bbw/ssbbw's to be with.
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I'm a BBW as well, and also have to echo what other people have said...it's all about confidence. The other thing is that if you're out having a good time and being yourself, you're going to attract people to you. In my experience, if you're looking for someone, you're not going to find them. And the fact is that while there are plenty of men out there attracted to skinny little things, there are plenty men attracted to women with curves.
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My current girlfriend is a BBW and let me tell you, everyone's advice so far has been spot on. Obviously confidence is the underlying theme here. I have dated the full spectrum of beauty when it comes to women and I am currently happier in this relationship, both sexually and emotionally, than any I have ever been in.
Regardless of stereotypes about what a woman should look like, I think it is safe to say that most (worthwhile) men believe that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. What attracted me to her was the fact that I couldn't help but either be intrigued or laugh hysterically at everything that came out of her mouth the first time we met. She is not only beautiful, but she exudes more confidence than most of my past lovers combined. This has led to the most care-free relationship and the most explosive sex I have ever experienced. If a man is too closed minded to give a woman whom he may not typically think he could be attracted to a fair chance, then he has robbed himself of countless opportunities of true happiness in his life. Furthermore, he isn't worth the effort of your company... be it in sexually or even just in friendship. A man worth your time will not judge any woman's beauty until he has come to know her from within.
Regardless of stereotypes about what a woman should look like, I think it is safe to say that most (worthwhile) men believe that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. What attracted me to her was the fact that I couldn't help but either be intrigued or laugh hysterically at everything that came out of her mouth the first time we met. She is not only beautiful, but she exudes more confidence than most of my past lovers combined. This has led to the most care-free relationship and the most explosive sex I have ever experienced. If a man is too closed minded to give a woman whom he may not typically think he could be attracted to a fair chance, then he has robbed himself of countless opportunities of true happiness in his life. Furthermore, he isn't worth the effort of your company... be it in sexually or even just in friendship. A man worth your time will not judge any woman's beauty until he has come to know her from within.
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Its not how you look, its how you're feeling inside. ('18 till I die' - Bryan Adams)
I'm attracted unashamedly to curvaceous women, but a resident shy gene in my system prevents me from making outright moves. But if she's willing to play and tease a bit and there's some light flirting and hints of intent, I unleash uninhibitedly once it has been established that there's a connection that will not lead to me being in her friends' zone.
Additionally, there's lots of men on lit that are into curvy women. ( I somehow don't like the term 'BBW' much). Finding someone local and seeing how that clicks might work wonders.
If nothing else, move to Norway. I'm here
I'm attracted unashamedly to curvaceous women, but a resident shy gene in my system prevents me from making outright moves. But if she's willing to play and tease a bit and there's some light flirting and hints of intent, I unleash uninhibitedly once it has been established that there's a connection that will not lead to me being in her friends' zone.
Additionally, there's lots of men on lit that are into curvy women. ( I somehow don't like the term 'BBW' much). Finding someone local and seeing how that clicks might work wonders.
If nothing else, move to Norway. I'm here
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Dude. You. Are. In. Kentucky. If you can't find any BBWs in Kentucky, then you're not trying. Does Louisville not have a Walmart or two?
Uh-huh.If you want somebody to talk to then I am available. I know I'm not around the corner, but having someone to chat with might help & no I'm not some kind of creep that wants to get his rocks off.
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If nothing else, move to Norway. I'm here
I wish I would have a cent for every offer to move someplace around the world for a *maybe* fuck
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I wish I would have a cent for every offer to move someplace around the world for a *maybe* fuck
How many hundreds of dollars richer would that make you?
If you want somebody to talk to then I am available. I know I'm not around the corner, but having someone to chat with might help & no I'm not some kind of creep that wants to get his rocks off.
I'm not a creep either but at least I admit that I do enjoy getting my rocks off (hence hanging out on Lit. forum)
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I for one love bigger women. I have been with one super skinny girl, think 90-95 lbs, and a bigger girl. I have no idea how many lbs. she had, she had a great personality and loved sex. Guys are just as afraid of rejection as women IMO.
I love bbws especially snuggling their thick arms like a teddy bear. And those big booties- oh they drive me crazy, wish I could oil and massage them every morning. I'm not the only guy who fantasizes about this.
In short, you need not feel uncomfortable about yourself.
In short, you need not feel uncomfortable about yourself.
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Dude. You. Are. In. Kentucky. If you can't find any BBWs in Kentucky, then you're not trying. Does Louisville not have a Walmart or two?Uh-huh.
Yeah damn near everywhere you look theres some sexy bbw/ssbbw. My problem is usually i only attract trannsexuals. Although three of them have been bbws.
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I can find them online easily. You probably already got 10+IMS just from posting this thread.
IRL it's harder. There's some truth to stereotyping..blacks and hispanics love the BBWS. I recently went to a concert in NYC and out of all those people it was of course a black guy that approached me. Nobody else noticed me.
IRL it's harder. There's some truth to stereotyping..blacks and hispanics love the BBWS. I recently went to a concert in NYC and out of all those people it was of course a black guy that approached me. Nobody else noticed me.
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