Basic question about sex in spoon position

[seattlelevel27]

I'm a guy. What's the best way to have spoon position sex with my GF? Should I kinda lift up one leg onto her hip?

It'd be cool if one of you could give me a detailed step by step! I don't wanna look like a fool when I initiate it next time I'm with my girl...

 

[JamieB]

Tough position

It helps if she reaches back and holds your leg, kind of pulling you against her. Speaking personally, I haven't had much luck with this position....there's not enough "traction."

J

 

[Delighted]

I love this position, it's perfect for those 'lights out going to sleep but feeling horny' kind of moments, you know the ones!!??

I'm no expert but what works for us is if my GF raises both knees quite high and I tuck around the back of her but lower that you might expect you'd need to be. This way you can get really good penetration. I tend to reach around and put my hand on her clit for extra stimulation for her but also to sort of pull her closer to me. As things progress and get hotter I usually move my upper body away from hers a little (so that our position becomes more like the usual position for rear entry, except of course we're lying on our sides (can you picture all of this??)) and she'll push her bottom out towards me so that we can get really deep. For a 'gentle' position it's given us plenty of hot action.

Well, that's my take on it anyway.

 

[mynameiskate]

I think it's such a bizarre position, but if you can make it work, then hey. It seems like you'd need a lot of dexterity for it.

 

[Delighted]

just determination

 

[SweetErika]

How exactly you do it is going to depend on the length of your cock and size of your stomach and her ass and thighs, quite honestly. Here's an illustrated guide on spooning, including several variations. Be prepared to experiment and for things not to go as effortlessly as you might like even after doing this research, though. Trying new things and laughing at the weird results are some of the best parts of sex!

We don't bother with this position because to get good penetration, we basically have to do doggy style on our sides, like Delighted said, which is awkward and doesn't allow much in the way of thrusting or intimacy. Anal sex in the spooning position is easier since everything matches up better, but it's still not our favorite. Not to deter you at all - this is just our experience, and you may very well find it easy and love it!

 

[Username_In_Use]

I've never really been able to pull this off. My cock is only average length and my fiance has a perfect big round ass so...

 

[elib257]

I've only just been able to do this position recently with my new boyfriend despite the fact that his penis is much smaller than I'm used to and I've got a big ass.

We find it works well at the beginning of sex when it's all about romance and intimacy and cuddling but it doesn't allow for deep thrusting or penetration so we more often than not move onto other positions. Like has been said before we often end up doing a sort of doggy style on our sides which is nice but kinda destroys the point of all the intimacy and cuddling. I think of it as almost part of the foreplay now.

We get into the position by me lifting my leg up for entry and then putting it down so that they're closed. I wrap my top foot behind his for extra leverage.

 

[seattlelevel27]

thanks to all for the input! I'll give it a go, but as I remember, there's not too much thrusting movement, so yeah, it'll likely be an opener, not a finisher!

 

[kassie]

Start every morning like this

Never really thought about it... Usually I'm still still sleeping while s/o wakes me up this way... I guess I'm curled up on my side. I don't think we need a specific "technique" but to be honest it ends up being foreplay... it's very rare that he finishes like that. I love the feeling of him pulling me close as I wake up.

 

[paulny]

SweetErika,

That site you posted with positions is a great resource! I had never seen that site before but its giving me ideas!

Actually my wife and I have never exactly been able to get comfortable in the spoons position before (at least for a long period of time) but for the time we do it I love it.

 

[In Anticipation]

I'm a guy. What's the best way to have spoon position sex with my GF? Should I kinda lift up one leg onto her hip?

It'd be cool if one of you could give me a detailed step by step! I don't wanna look like a fool when I initiate it next time I'm with my girl...

My partner and I can't really get this to work. Nothing quite lines up correctly, the angles are all wrong. However, it used to work a dream with my ex. Conclusion: women's pelvic structures vary widely.

I could go into more detail but I guess I don't need to.

 

[Dreamliner]

This is a great position during those sensual times where touch and feel are more important. I find it best either for slow morning wake-up sex or at times after a romantic dinner.

I have never had difficulty with the position with partners.

It can be better to start with her on her side, leg lifted and to kneel with one of her legs in between yours, the other either up by your waist or even shoulder. Once engaged, slowly slide around the back, maintaining contact...don't rush!

When you are behind her she can either have her legs together or one resting on your upper leg.

If this is still not working or uncomfortable, try easing away from her a little bit, where you are more angled but still engaged, not quite as close but may provide better angle and access for each other.

Have fun exploring...

 

[SubNebGuy]

I can pull it off, with an average length penis, and a wife with some junk in the trunk.

but not very deeply. its almost a bit of a tease. its not something we do a lot of, and usually only and an 'intermediatary position' before we get to the hard-bangin' action

 

[jo_love_pink]

We can never get it to work but it lines up for anal sex whicc is great

 

[cinnamon1977]

I remember a boyfriend and my ex-husband loved waking me up this way. I'll be lying asleep, dreaming a wonderful sex dream; then slowly wake up and realize that someone has gotten sneeky, but it feels so good.
It's especially great on cold winter mornings, cuddled up under the covers for heat. You'd be surprised how much heat you can generate spooning slowly under a heavy comforter. We have actually gotten to the point at times when we just throw the covers off and get into a more comfortable and cooling position, and just continue.

 

[Mr.G]

""I remember a boyfriend and my ex-husband loved waking me up this way. ""

Gawd!! Lucky YOU.

Did they take turns or just whomever woke up closest to you?

 

[cinnamon1977]

""I remember a boyfriend and my ex-husband loved waking me up this way. ""

Gawd!! Lucky YOU.

Did they take turns or just whomever woke up closest to you?

Goodness me, they weren't at the same time! Gosh, they were too possesive to share me with any other guy. No; the boyfriend was over 10 years ago, the husband . . . well last time he touched me in that matter was about three years ago.
But the spooning position is a great starter early in the morning. He'd be nibling at my neck, caressing with his hand up and down my side, his thighs spreading my legs just so and slipping in. *sigh* That was a great way to jump start the morn.

 

[In Anticipation]

Goodness me, they weren't at the same time! Gosh, they were too possesive to share me with any other guy. No; the boyfriend was over 10 years ago, the husband . . . well last time he touched me in that matter was about three years ago.
But the spooning position is a great starter early in the morning. He'd be nibling at my neck, caressing with his hand up and down my side, his thighs spreading my legs just so and slipping in. *sigh* That was a great way to jump start the morn.

You've been waiting three years for a repeat? Unfortunately the position doesn't really work with my partner, but I remember what you relate with my ex.

And welcome, or welcome back if you are a reincarnation. Good to see a fellow designer too.

 

[lltking]

spoon position

This is a good position if your girl has a nice cut butt with easy access to the goods, and you are working with 8 or 9 inches.