I bought a Bam realistic dildo some time ago. I envisioned using it on my wife and did just that. She needed a lot of convincing to let me use it on her but being the good wife, she had some wine and laid back naked by the pool. I lubed up and really opened her up. She loved it. I was so impressed (jealous) that later I tried it in my ass. No fit. It took me weeks of sitting down onto it, pulling it against me and using my other dildos before one day holding the head against my lubed ass, I sat down onto it and kept pushing. When that head actually popped into my ass I screamed in pain or pleasure. I am not sure but it was awesome. Had to take it out but went right back and got about half the length in. Now I routinely ruin my ass with it.