Balancing Vanilla and Kink Life

[honeybee_345]

I am new to the kink lifestyle and am connecting with my kink self. I'm thrilled by all the knowledge and readings and fun things and this and that and sex that I'm trying to be careful to make time for my non-kink life. Is anyone else struggling with this?
Any tips/advice on balancing life are greatly appreciated.

<3 HoneyBee

 

[honeybee_345]

I think this is like any aspect of life in general; it must be taken in small doses. Too much TV or chocolate can be a bad thing just like too little TV and chocolate can also be a bad thing
I just have to find a balance for me.
Feel free to make this a open discussion forum to share thoughts, challenges and sucesses.

 

[fire_breeze]

I am new to the kink lifestyle and am connecting with my kink self. I'm thrilled by all the knowledge and readings and fun things and this and that and sex that I'm trying to be careful to make time for me non-kink life. Is anyone else struggling with this?
Any tips/advice on balancing life are greatly appreciated.

<3 HoneyBee

I think this is like any aspect of life in general; it must be taken in small doses. Too much TV or chocolate can be a bad thing just like too little TV and chocolate can also be a ba thing
I just have to find a balance for me.
Feel free to make this a open discussion forum to share thoughts, challenges and sucesses.

Welcome to Lit

It sort of sounds like a new relationship, when you first get together with someone and you have that pitter-patter feeling, talking and texting and whatnot until dawn. It will eventually settle down. It's also vital that you just don't neglect other aspects of your life: your work, your family, your friends. Just make sure that you carve time to make sure that those needs are fully met.

I think it also depends on how you define kink or BDSM. Is it who you are, or what you do? In my experience, BDSM is who I am. Kink is what my all and I do to express our personal dynamic physically within the bedroom because that's how our tastes run. But that is just me. Some people say that in order to be within the lifestyle, they have to 'do' it and make time for it otherwise they are not PYL/pyl. I don't. This is who I am. This is who my all is. And how we chose to express it doesn't require 'balancing' because it's who we are. I know it sounds like a tautology, but there's no better way in expressing it. I think you should be concerned in ensuring that the vital parts of your life has your quality attention, and that you fulfilled your duties to your best of your abilities, as opposed to worrying about whether or not you have attained some sort of balance.

Otherwise, play safe, make sure that you don't involve the non-consenting public, and have fun. Rest is up to you.

 

[Eros_dom]

Balancing

The act of balancing your kinky side with your vanilla life is similar to balancing your work life and social life. You assess where you need to spend time to make sure that your responsibilities are met and that you are happy. You can make a pros and cons list (i.e. Do I go to the work party, friends party, or the kink party?) to help you with decisions. Above all make sure what you are doing is fulfilling to you.

 

[honeybee_345]

Thanks for the responses friends. I'm glad to see others contributing to this thread. Keep the thoughts comin'!

 

[honeybee_345]

Any other thoughts/stories on the subject?